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An Adult Adoptee Decides to Adopt

An Adult Adoptee Decides to Adopt

This spring, Bert and Sarah Ballard hope to fly to Vietnam to pick up the little boy they plan to adopt. In the three years since they began the adoption process, the couple, who already have two biological daughters, have experienced the excitement, emotional upheaval, and bureaucratic setbacks typical for adoptive families. In one significant way, though, the Ballards' experience has been unusual.

Bert Ballard is himself an adoptee. In April of 1975, during the chaotic last few weeks of the war in Vietnam, the United States government sponsored an evacuation of some 3,000 orphaned and displaced children from Saigon and placed them with adoptive families overseas. The evacuation, which came to be known as Operation Babylift, has been regarded both as a great humanitarian response to the crisis and a bungled effort that amounted to kidnapping. While most of the children were, indeed, orphans in need of homes, as many as 20 percent still had parents in Vietnam.

Bert Ballard was one of the children on those planes. I first met him in 2005, as I was conducting research for a book about Operation Babylift. As I had discovered, Operation Babylift adoptees have varying levels of information about their pasts. Some know, for example, their place of birth. Others have birth certificates, records of hospital stays, or documentation from the orphanages that cared for them. Bert Ballard has none of these. His Vietnamese name, Vu Tien Do II, doesn't even make sense in Vietnam, which has no tradition of naming children "Junior," or "the Second," or "the Third."

Soon after Bert's adoptive parents took him into their home in 1975, they asked for an explanation for the "II" at the end of their new son's name. The adoption facilitator offered an answer that reveals the disorganization of the entire effort. One baby, who had been given the name Vu Tien Do, somehow got lost. A different baby--who would later become Bert--was discovered and given the lost child's name. When the original Vu Tien Do turned up, the adoption facilitators left both names intact, adding a "II" to the name of the boy who came second.

Despite the holes in his history, Bert Ballard considers himself fortunate. Loving parents raised him. He grew up in small-town America and received an excellent education. He's quick to admit, though, that his personal history has left him with a sense of loss. "I can remember as early as third grade, sitting in music class and everyone was talking about where they were born and I didn't have any answers for that."

As the trans-national adoptees of the '50s, '60s, and '70 mature, they have come to add new, and often heated, voices to the debate over the ethics of adoption. They do not, however, offer a unified perspective on the subject. While many adoptees express satisfaction about their upbringing, others see their adoption as a crime that tore them from their vulnerable birth families.

Ballard's view on the subject lies somewhere in between, and explains, in some ways, his own reason for adopting now. Although his awkward journey to the United States underscores the perils of mismanaged adoption, he also believes that children in need can benefit from the opportunity to be raised in loving homes. "I personally have difficulty with calls to end adoption in general," Ballard says, "because I feel that that ignores the broader social context of what's going on. Whether it's war, whether it's poverty, there's a reason that adoption occurs, and it's because families can't take care of their children." He does not think adoption should be a first choice, as seems to have been the case recently with a group of Haitian children, but he also disagrees with those who would summarily dismiss it as a viable option.

Even though the Ballards hope to travel this spring--35 years after Bert was himself airlifted out of Vietnam--they know that, in the complex world of international adoption, things almost never go as planned. In part because of Bert's own troubling experience as a child, the couple have worked to ensure that this adoption conforms to ethical standards. They recognize, too, that, though they believe the boy to be legitimately in need of a home, it's possible that a biological mother could appear over the next few months and ask to keep the child. Such an event would devastate the Ballards, who already consider the boy their son, but they also believe that the desires of biological parents take precedence. "I would fight for her rights," Sarah Ballard says, "as much as I would fight for my own."

As a boy, Bert Ballard sometimes dreamed of returning to his homeland, which seemed like a way to re-capture what he'd left behind. Now, as he plans to make his first journey back to Vietnam, he finds himself less focused on the past than on the future. "Now it's about going over and picking him up," Ballard says. "I want to have good, positive memories of when I picked up my son, memories of my whole family. It's not just about me."

 

Bulgaria to investigate hundreds of children deaths in orphanages

Bulgaria to investigate hundreds of children deaths in orphanages
Mon, Sep 20 2010 16:01 CET byThe Sofia Echo staff 1199 Views 12 Comments 1 of 1
The plight of Bulgaria's disabled children was highlighted by a BBC documentary on the Mogilino children home in 2007.


Bulgaria's Prosecutor's Office was investigating 166 cases of deaths in children homes over the past decade following a joint probe by prosecutors and the Bulgarian Helsinki Committee that uncovered 238 deaths over the period, Prosecutor-General Boris Velchev said on September 20.

"In these cases there is enough to suspect criminal negligence to avoid the deaths. The pre-trial investigations now being started are against unknown perpetrators," Velchev said, as quoted by Dnevnik daily.

Charges to be pressed could include negligent manslaughter, bodily harm, sexual harassment, mismanagement and corruption, he said. The check showed that several homes for disabled children tied the children down, which is a form of abuse, and found instances in which medication was used to control the children instead as therapy.

Although the sweeping investigation would not solve the problem, it could improve prevention, Velchev said.

"What we can do is dispense retribution and strengthen prevention. We've uncovered troubling things. I cannot imagine that in 10 years, 238 citizens from the most vulnerable part of the society have passed away in this way," Velchev said.

Margarita Ilieva, head of the Bulgarian Helsinki Committee legal programme, said: "These children died not of their disabilities, but of things that no one should experience. We are talking about facilities with drastically poor hygiene; 31 of the children died of hunger."

"We do not need retribution and someone going to jail. We need prevention," she said.

Dans l'enfer des enfants handicapés mentaux

Dans l'enfer des enfants handicapés mentaux

 

Près de 230 enfants handicapés mentaux sont morts dans les institutions spécialisées qui les accueillaient, révèle une étude du Comité Helsinki bulgare. Selon cette ONG, la plupart d'entre eux ont succombé à la suite d'actes de malveillance, voire de violence. Le quotidien Dnevnik a ouvert ses colonnes à l'auteur de l'enquête.

23.09.2010 | Yana Buhrer Tavanier | Dnevnik

Dans un centre pour enfants handicapés mentaux à Mezdra, en 2007

ans un centre pour enfants handicapés mentaux à Mezdra, en 2007

e 20 septembre, le Comité Helsinki* bulgare a rendu publics les résultats d'une enquête effectuée dans tous les établissements spécialisés pour enfants handicapés mentaux du pays. Il s'agit à ce jour de la plus importante étude sur ces institutions faite en Bulgarie. Et les faits rapportés sont monstrueux : ces asiles sont un enfer. On y a constaté un taux de mortalité extraordinairement élevé parmi les enfants : 238 morts ces dix dernières années (53 les trois dernières), sachant que la population de ces "maisons pour enfants handicapés mentaux" est estimée à un millier de personnes. Aucune enquête sérieuse n'a été effectuée sur ces morts, dont une grande partie aurait pu être évitée. Plus important encore, la thèse selon laquelle ces enfants sont morts à cause de leurs pathologies – une explication que les autorités serinent depuis des années – se trouve définitivement infirmée. La grande majorité de ces enfants ont été assassinés. Des meurtres attestés par de nombreux documents et preuves formelles. Trente et un enfants sont morts de faim, victimes d'une malnutrition systématique. Soit la nourriture n'était pas bonne ou en quantité insuffisante, soit elle n'était pas proposée de manière à ce que ces enfants puissent l'ingurgiter. Soit encore ils étaient incapables de se nourrir parce que trop abrutis par les tranquillisants qui leur sont administrés de manière massive.

La plupart de ces morts surviennent les mois d'hiver, lorsqu'il fait le plus froid. Cent quarante-neuf enfants sont morts dans les asiles et non à l'hôpital. Ce qui veut dire qu'ils n'ont pas été hospitalisés malgré leur état alarmant ; parfois, ils ont été sortis de l'hôpital juste avant leur mort. Onze d'entre eux ont été admis aux urgences, mais pour y mourir. En règle générale, on n'ouvre jamais une enquête sur ces cas. Et dans les actes de décès, on trouve souvent des explications fantaisistes et, d'un point de vue médical, absurdes : "retard mental", "paralysie cérébrale"... Pas d'autopsie ou, en tout cas, rien qui atteste qu'elle a été effectuée. 

Cependant les coupables existent. Le Comité Helsinki bulgare a fait appel à de nombreux experts reconnus pour mener à bien cette enquête ; dès le début, le parquet de Sofia a été associé à cette étude. Aujourd'hui, nos rapports sont sur le bureau du procureur général et on attend de lui qu'il ordonne des investigations sur ces faits. Non pas uniquement sur le passé et ses morts, mais pour en éviter d'autres : aujourd'hui, 103 enfants et adolescents souffrent toujours de malnutrition, ils sont épuisés, fragiles et peuvent succomber au moindre virus. 

Des coupables existent aussi pour les sept cas d'abus sexuels rapportés par notre étude ; idem pour les huit cas de violence physique. Pour tous ces cas, les institutions d'Etat chargées de la protection de l'enfance ont été averties. A ce jour, elles n'ont rien fait. A ce jour, aucun enfant victime d'abus et de violences n'a été secouru et les responsables de son calvaire jugés. 

Des coupables existent aussi pour les 622 cas de maladies infectieuses graves et pour les décès qui en ont découlé. Dans la plupart de ces asiles, l'hygiène est déplorable et les contrôles inexistants ou inefficaces. Dans au moins huit de ces établissements, on pratique l'immobilisation physique : les enfants sont entravés (attachés à leur lit, chaise ou autre), parfois à l'aide d'une camisole. C'est illégal. Parfois, ils restent entravés pendant des mois, voire des années. C'est inhumain et criminel.

Quatre-vingt-dix enfants ont fait l'objet d'une "immobilisation chimique". On leur a administré de puissants neuroleptiques pour mieux les contrôler. Il s'agit pourtant d'handicapés mentaux et non de personnes souffrant de troubles psychiques, et ce "traitement" était parfois délivré sans l'intervention d'un médecin spécialisé. Cent soixante-sept enfants ont ainsi pris des substances parfois dangereuses pour leur santé ; certains d'entre eux ont été "cachetonnés" pendant des périodes absurdement longues. 

Plus généralement, les enfants manquent d'attention dans ces asiles. Ils y sont juste "stockés" sans que rien soit fait pour améliorer leur état mental ou donner un sens à leur existence. La plupart continuent de régresser en raison du traitement qui leur est infligé. Ces asiles manquent aussi cruellement de personnel spécialisé, parfois de médecins. Il existe au moins 86 cas documentés d'incidents graves qui auraient pu être facilement évités. Certains traumatismes physiques sont tout simplement ignorés, d'autres traités avec beaucoup de retard.

Pour tout cela, des coupables existent. Il faut les chercher parmi le personnel de ces asiles, les médecins, les maires des communes où ces établissements sont situés, les inspecteurs régionaux, les agences d'Etat de protection de l'enfance, les ministres... Tous ceux qui par leur action – ou inaction – ont affamé, maltraité, immobilisé de force, déshumanisé et tué ces enfants doivent aujourd'hui répondre devant la justice.

Note : * Le Comité Helsinki est une ONG qui veille au respect des droits de l'homme. Il existe des Comités Helsinki dans plusieurs pays européens.

BFAS Guesthouse

BFAS Guesthouse


This is the BFAS guesthouse where we will stay when we go to Ethiopia.

About Agitu Wodajo

Executive Director

“Some people help others by giving up their money. Some give up their time. Agitu Wodajo has given up herself.”
– Jennifer Thaney, The Minnesota Women’s Press

Selfless dedication to empowering marginalized children and women towards self-reliance is the driving force behind our Executive Director, Agitu Wodajo’s, achievements. Coming from a rich mix of national and international service and leadership, Agitu Wodajo applies her substantial expertise and commitment towards the effectiveness and success of Better Future Adoption Services, Inc.

Born in Wolega, western Ethiopia, Agitu Wodajo has served in various leadership roles in Ethiopia and in the US throughout her life. She played a fundamental role in initiating Ethiopia’s Ministry of Women’s Affairs, which is now responsible for overseeing adoptions in the country. In 1992, she founded the Women’s Self-Reliance Agency, a non-governmental organization in Ethiopia, to teach women occupational skills that could sustain them and their families. The self-sufficiency model exhibited in WSRA became renown nationally and internationally. She has also served more than a decade as the founder and executive director of the International Self-Reliance Agency for Women (ISAW) in Minnesota. As one of the first women organizations in Minnesota, ISAW has greatly impacted the life of immigrant and refugee women, children and families in Minnesota through direct services and systems change advocacy that helped lift barriers to self-reliance. Through her work with ISAW, Agitu received numerous awards and recognitions including Outstanding Services to Women Award, Certificate of Commendation from the Governor of the State of Minnesota, Certificate of Appreciation from USCIS District Director, Internship Award, Academic Achievement Award and Bush Leadership Fellowship grant (which lead her to obtaining a Masters Degree).

Agitu Wodajo holds an Executive Master of Public Affairs, a BA in Human Services, and Associate Degrees as a Pediatric Nurse Practitioner and a Community Nurse. Agitu Wodajo is also the proud mother of five children.

Illegal Adoption to be Heard in Court Again

Illegal Adoption to be Heard in Court Again
Volgograd Regional Court is getting ready to again hear the case of Nadezhda Fratti, citizen of Italy. N. Fratti has been charged with bribing officials and documents’ forgery to accelerate adoption of Russia’s children by the foreigners.
Following the appeal of Ms Fratti’s lawyers, Presidium of the Supreme Court of Russia has sent back her case to Volgograd due to the procedures’ violations, said representatives of the Volgograd Region’s prosecutors. The date of the first session has not been set yet.

On December 30, 2002, the Volgograd Regional Court sentenced Nadezhda Fratti, citizen of Russia and Italy, to be put on parole for seven years with five-year residence in Volzhsky-town, the Volgograd Region, where she had last lived. Nadezhda Fratti was found guilty in bribing the officials and forgery of documents which she had done to speed up adoption.

Simultaneously, Antonina Tekucheva, head physician at Mikhailovsky house of baby care, Tatyana Chaplina, former head of Kirovsky children’s home in Volgograd, Valentina Gerusova, former expert of the region’s education committee, were accused of bribetaking and found guilty.


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Court rules on adoption by grandparent

Wednesday, 22 September, 2010, 13:29

Court rules on adoption by grandparent


Unless a child has no ties with their biological parents, adoption by the grandparents must remain an exceptional circumstance.

That’s a ruling today by the Federal Supreme Court.

It came on an appeal from a couple in Bern who have so far raised their 10-year-old grandson but were denied the right to officially adopt him.

That’s because their daughter, his mother, lives nearby and the whole family has a close relationship.

The Court said that while adoption by grandparents is allowed by law, it should only be permitted when the child has no contact at all with one of their parents regardless of who is raising the child.

COM 2010 95 Proposal for a DIRECTIVE OF THE EUROPEAN PARLIAMENT AND OF THE COUNCIL on preventing and combating trafficking in hu


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Reference COD/2010/0065
Title Preventing and combating trafficking in human beings, and protecting victims (repeal. Framework Decision 2002/629/JHA)
Legal Basis EP 051 ; TFEU 083-p1-a1; TFEU 082-p2
Dossier of the committee LIBE/7/02676
Subject(s) 7.30.30.02 Action to combat violence and trade in human beings
7.40.04 Judicial cooperation in criminal matters
Stage reached Awaiting Parliament 1st reading / single reading / budget 1st stage
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27/04/2010
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28/09/2009
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03/06/2010 - Council's activities
The Council agreed on a general approach regarding a directive aimed at strengthening the fight against trafficking in human beings and the protection of victims.

In March 2010, the Commission adopted its proposal on the file. Once adopted, the new rules will replace framework decision 2002/629/JHA. The goal is to further approximate national legislation and to improve international law enforcement and judicial cooperation. The provisions of the future directive include:

a definition of the crime, aggravating circumstances and stiffer penalties;
extraterritorial jurisdiction making it possible to prosecute EU nationals for crimes committed abroad and to use investigative tools such as phone listening and access to financial data;
special treatment of the victims in criminal proceedings including non-punishment of victims who suffer the consequences of the criminal activities;
a higher standard of protection and assistance for victims, and in particular special protective measures for children;
preventive measures aimed at discouraging the demand side of the phenomenon.

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In search of adoption, childless German couples go abroad

In search of adoption, childless German couples go abroad
22.09.2010


Großansicht des Bildes mit der Bildunterschrift: Couples are increasingly going abroad to find children
Nowadays in Germany, people who are hoping to adopt a child are more likely than before to search abroad. Sometimes their reasons are altruistic, but other times it just comes down to one thing: supply and demand.


Ralf Bockstedte, a successful lawyer from Essen who represents soccer clubs and players, said he and his wife Tanja decided 15 years ago to have children, but were "shattered" when they discovered they could not do it biologically. They first decided to adopt a child four years ago, but never did they consider an adoption within Germany.

"To adopt within Germany in our age is quite difficult," he said. "The child would probably have been something from 10 years on. And we rather wanted a baby."

German law allows a maximum age gap of 40 years between adoptive parents and the child. While both Ralf and Tanja are 39, being at the upper end of the age bracket would likely make things more difficult - a longer waiting time, or no baby at all.

Bildunterschrift: Großansicht des Bildes mit der Bildunterschrift: Poor countries need adoption to give parentless children basic rights, Katz says

They also could have tried for an open adoption in Germany, where the biological parent or parents maintain some contact with the child throughout its life, but Ralf said that did not have the same appeal as adopting an infant.

"Obviously it's great if there is a family doing that, but it wasn't our way," he said.

Developing world

So the Bockstedtes went for an adoption from Colombia, and four years later came home with their new daughter Maria - the eighth child of a housekeeper and the fourth to be put up for adoption.

Colombia is one of the most common countries for German couples to adopt from. The country has developed a relatively strong system of protection for orphaned and abandoned children, and it is one of the strictest adherents to the 1993 Hague Convention, which regulates international adoption.

Adoptions from Colombia take longer than those from closer countries like Russia, which is also popular among Germans. But they also tend to be more transparent and structured, according to Susana Katz, founder and director of AdA, the adoption agency that the Bockstedtes worked with.

Bildunterschrift: Großansicht des Bildes mit der Bildunterschrift: Germany's declining birthrate makes domestic adoption difficult

"Inter-country adoptions are working now because the countries of origin of the children are poor," Katz said. "In Germany, there are no children for adoption, almost. The children aren't hungry; they are financed by the state. In other countries, for example Colombia, the state needs inter-country adoptions to give the children basic rights, like eating."

Supply and demand

While Colombia has more parentless children than it can take care of, increasing its supply, Germany has not only a low birth rate, but also a stronger social welfare system. Children of parents who cannot take care of them are placed in foster homes, supported by state money, or with other relatives, Katz said.

This has contributed to the steadily declining rate of adoptions in Germany over the past decade. In 2009, just under 4,000 adoptions took place - about half of them from step-parents.

Bildunterschrift: Großansicht des Bildes mit der Bildunterschrift: Wealthier countries are often following the same trend as Germany

But for those couples who choose to bypass Germany's adoption system and turn abroad, cost can also be a prohibitive factor. Translation, consultation, legal review, travel, etc. amount to between 15,000 and 20,000 euros for a foreign adoption from Germany.

Despite its limited supply of children for adoption, the German domestic adoption system is almost entirely financed by the state - parents only pay a few small fees for background checks and medical examinations.

Application process

In order to qualify for an adoption, domestic or international, couples or individuals must undergo a series of inspections and consultations with state representatives to confirm their fitness to be parents.

David Fermer, a 36-year-old author living in Cologne, and his wife Phillis, a 42-year-old filmmaker, are relatively early on in the application process. They said they were also told that adoption from within Germany can take much longer and be much more difficult than going abroad. And after Phillis visited an orphanage in Mali for work, they decided to adopt a child from Africa.

"The nice thing about the adoption process which I find is that it makes you reflect about who you are, where you are, where you come from," said David. "And it also starts a dialogue as a couple."

He said at a meeting with the state social worker, he and his wife had to write a report on their family of origin, detailing how their history has influenced them. He said coming from a troubled childhood himself, he found inspiration from his wife's story.

"I was so moved because I could see what a happy family she came from," he said. "That's what you want to do for your children, make sure they're as happy as possible."

Author: Andrew Bowen
Editor: Andreas Illmer

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