A Difficult Decision - Visits the Biological Mother

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While in Russia, Jesse and his wife visited Samantha's birth mother.  (CBS)

As Samantha's adoptive parents prepared to go back to Russia to leave her there, Jesse said that he and Crystal were not rejecting Samantha.

he said.

But Nina Kostina, the director of the agency that set up the adoption, was distraught over the couple's decision:

she said.

she says. She questions whether Samantha is even that sick.

But psychiatrist Brian Kennedy says Samantha suffers from attachment disorder - in effect, an inability to love. Kennedy says the condition makes her dangerous.

Kennedy says.

At least one psychiatrist had another opinion. In a report, the doctor described Samantha's overall behavior as

He had some troubling things to say about her parents. He said staffers perceived the adoptive parents to be cool and distant toward their daughter. At times, he said, Samantha appeared to be frightened of them.

Crystal, however, defended herself and her husband.

she says.

Kostina says that such problems are rare, and says the vast majority of the 5,000 adoptions her agency helped arrange have been successful.

She introduced

to Diane Cadenhead, who adopted three children from the same orphanage in which Samantha had been living. Cadenhead says she has had a

adoption experience.

Kostina also says she offered to place Samantha with another family, but that Samantha's adoptive parents would not cooperate. Crystal and Jesse say the Foundation told them something else.

says Jesse.

On the morning they were to leave, both Jesse and Crystal were very upset. Crystal was crying; Jesse, she said, had been throwing up.

After a 10-hour flight from Atlanta, Crystal and Jesse arrived in Moscow with Samantha. It was Samantha's first trip back to her Russia since being adopted there two years earlier.

Crystal said.

Crystal and Jesse tapped into their life savings to bring Samantha to Moscow to be treated by Russian doctors. "She'll be able to be seen by doctors who are thoroughly familiar with Russian institutionalization," esse said. "They have worked with kids from Russian orphanages."

The couple found a bed for Samantha at a children's psychiatric hospital in Moscow. But because doctors there suspected that Crystal and Jesse might abandon Samantha, they demanded copies of the couple's passports - and made them promise to return for Samantha in two months.

Crystal and Jesse did not tell Samantha that they would not be coming back for her. At the hospital with her parents, Samantha seemed to sense that something was wrong. Talking with

, she said that she had told her parents that she loved them very much.

she said.

A few minutes before she was to enter the hospital, Samantha told Roberts that she had never tried to kill her brother.

she said.

She also said that she loved her little brother.

Samantha was assigned to a room with another child on a locked ward. She said she didn't feel safe there, and wanted to go back to America.

But Crystal and Jesse had made their decision. They don't plan on ever bringing Samantha back into their home. The couple blames the adoption agency for not telling them enough about Samantha before they adopted her.

After leaving Samantha, the couple took a train ride eight hours north of Moscow to meet Valentina, a recovering alcoholic who is Samantha's biological mother. Valentina was stripped of her parental rights when Samantha was five. Samantha's father died years ago, and Valentina's second husband ekes out a living carving religious icons.

The couple asked Valentina if Samantha had had an unusual birth. Valentina didn't know, but admitted that there was physical abuse in the home. Samantha was hurt, Valentina said.

Crystal said.

Valentina could never afford a trip to Moscow to visit Samantha. Instead she wrote to wish her daughter a merry Christmas and to beg her forgiveness. Roberts read the letter to Samantha when he returned to Moscow a few days later.

Samantha seemed pleased with the letter, even though it came from a woman she hardly remembers, and who can't help her now.

A week after leaving Samantha in the hospital, Crystal and Jesse flew back to Atlanta.

What about Samantha?

said Crystal.

But when

last visited her, Samantha was counting the days until the time her parents promised to return for her. She says that they had promised to return in 60 days.

Two months after the couple left Samantha in Moscow, they signed papers that officially severed their relationship with her. They gave Samantha back to the agency that arranged the adoption.

Crystal said.

Crystal and Jesse are now planning to move. Their house stirs sad memories, they say.

Slowly, they are leaving behind the memories of Samantha.

Crystal says.

Samantha was released from the Russian hospital last week and brought back to the United States by the Frank Foundation. It is now looking for another American family to take her.