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March 15, 2010

A Trip That Would Change Our Lives!!

On February 8, 2010, Tara left with 3 other members of the Adoption Ministry Team to visit Ethiopia and meet up with our partner adoption agency CWA. The trips purpose was to meet the staff of CWA in Ethiopia, learn about the adoption process in Ethiopia, tour the orphanages that CWA financially supports, meet the children we could potentially bring to Bozeman for the Summer Of Hope program in July and to experience the culture of Ethiopia giving us a better understanding of their customs and rich history.

After flight problems, we finally arrived in Ethiopia on the morning of February 10th(Wed.) and were greeted by 2 of the CWAE(Christian World Adoption Ethiopia) staff. Unfortunately, my luggage along with one other team member had been lost en-route and so we filled out the necessary paperwork and left not knowing when it would show up.

We spent the next 2 days in Addis Ababa, the capital of Ethiopia, getting to know the "lay of the land" and meeting with the CWAE staff. They are amazing people and we quickly became very fond of them all. By Friday morning we were able to retrieve our lost bags at the airport. This was good as we were heading to Hawassa that morning. After about a 3 hour car ride through the country side we ended up at the Shashamene orphanage. They kindly greeted us with a traditional Ethiopian coffee ceremony(which I highly recommend for all of you coffee lovers out there) and allowed us the privilege of touring their orphanage facility. After about 30 minutes we were back in the car and on to Hawassa which was less than 30 minutes away. We arrived at the CCCE Hawassa orphanage and again greeted with a traditional coffee ceremony. We would take a quick tour and come back the next day to meet the children and stay longer. Then we were onto the Tikuret Orphanage where we would meet the children identified for the SOH program.

When we arrived, we were greeted by a group of children with beautiful, smiling faces. It was hard not to just drop everything and play with them, but we had "work" to accomplish and so we divided up and individually met with children trying to get to know them better so we could help match families in Bozeman with children when they committed to hosting this summer. After many beautiful faces and sad stories(children orphaned due to poverty, disease, death and cultural norms) we neared the last group of kids. The orphanage director then began to speak to us about 2 other groups of children who she wanted to know about possibly being a part of SOH, but thought they maybe too old. We decided to go ahead and meet the kids just in case a family stepped forward and wanted older kids. We first met a boy who was 13 and then we met the 2nd group, 2 girls who were sisters...Meskerem and Zenash.

I looked up as they walked into the room and the most unexplainable feeling occurred in my heart. I was immediately drawn to them and felt an overwhelming and undeniable sense of connection to them. The girls sat down and we talked with them asking the same typical questions we asked all of the children..."What do you like to eat?", "What do you like to play?", etc. Then we asked "Do you have any other siblings?" Meskerem(the oldest girl of the two who was 14) began to explain they had a 10 year old brother named Warku who was living on the street under the bridge with his friends. The director was obviously surprised and after an exchange in Amharic, she translated to us that the girls had a brother and that she would find him and bring him to the orphanage to live. We got to the end of the questions and I found myself wanting to come up with more just so I could be with them longer, but it was dinner time and I didn't want to keep them. We were kindly served dinner by the orphanage...the traditional Ethiopian food of injeera(their staple bread), doro wat(chicken stew), and vegetables. I found myself unable to stop thinking of the girls and after finishing dinner I asked if I could go up to the girls area to talk with them more. There were about 8 girls that shared this large room containing bunk beds and when I came in they were all studying and hanging out. We talked, well, we tried to with the language barrier, they mostly giggled at me because they didn't understand what I was saying except for a few words here and there. We took some pictures together and then retired to our hotel after visiting the boys area at the orphanage.

I was trying to process through the day and what I was feeling and what I sensed God had laid on my heart, which was that he had something in store for my family with this sibling group. I wrestled with so many thoughts wondering if the day had just all come to a head for me and if I had just felt overwhelmingly burdened for the orphans I came face to face with that day. I know now in looking back that what was going on inside of my heart and my soul was so completely unexplainable because it was the closest to the heart of God that I have ever experienced as a Christ Follower. It was excitement, it was love for these children that I didn't know, it was a longing, it was peace. I knew He was asking me to tell Ty about them and so I emailed him and asked him to pray about these kids that I had met. I told him it was a sibling group of 3. It was way more than we had ever discussed previously when we spoke of adopting one day. We were thinking 1 little girl from an Asian country... this was 3 children from Ethiopia! What was God thinking?!

Friday update from the Hams! (Read Thursday's first!) - meeting birth mom

Friday, February 19, 2010
Today was quite a day! We were SOOOO happy to be able to spend a few hours next to Hana's birth mom at Tikuret orphanage (where Hana spent about 8 months before she was moved in January to the care center). Definitely an emotional time, but SO SO wonderful to have the chance to meet and speak with her. She was so happy to learn we were Christians and said she has been praying for a good Christian family for Hana and was thrilled to meet us. We learned so much more about the family situation and see clearly that she loves Hana with all her heart, but only wanted a much better life for her. We of course will share many more details when we see you all. It was just a precious time, even for Caleb who spoke up all on his own to tell her we will always be praying for her and that we will love and take such good care of Hana. She loved hearing those words from the boy who is to be Hana's older brother......it seemed to mean a lot to her. Tikuret also planned a special coffee ceremony and lunch ( I'm trying to like ET food.....it's interesting). Unfortunately we weren't able to get hardly any video of Hana's mom b/c the battery had gone dead. But we did get several pictures, and those will be priceless.

Tomorrow morning we are going to go meet Hana and Edilu at the care center and spend a little bit of time with them. In the afternoon, Tikuret has arranged for us to go South to the area Hana is from, and it sounds like we may have the opportunity to go with them as they take Meseret (her mother) home and to see where they live. From what she told us, she and her other two children are renting out a corner of a kitchen. Hopefully we will get the chance to meet the older siblings and see where Hana lived before being brought to the orphanage. We'll be spending the night about 5 hours from the city for tomorrow night if everything goes as planned, and then we'll drive back home Sunday morning I think.

Please continue to pray that our health will hold out for the remainder of the trip. We both had bad headaches when we woke up this morning and just felt a little icky. Maybe some of it is just from the huge time change on our bodies.

Won't be here tomorrow night to update, but will be back and can hopefully update you Sunday eve.

Love,
Nancie
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Das EfA-FAMILIENTREFFEN am 24. Juli 2010

Das EfA-FAMILIENTREFFEN am 24. Juli 2010
es war wie immer regnerisch, nicht sehr warm und dunkel bewölkt.
Aber dies war nur äußerlich so , mit den Herzen gesehen, da sah die Welt sehr sonnig, wohlig warm und strahlend aus. Dies empfanden auch unsere Gäste aus Äthiopien genau so. Mit von der Partie waren unsere Heimleiterin ALEM TSEHAY und die Leiterin des Orphanage TIKURET Mrs.ASEYECH
Im Klostergelände verteilten sich die nunmehr doch so zahlreichen und auch „kinderreichen“ Familien ganz gut. Ein Zählen war jedenfalls nicht möglich.
Es ist schön für die Kinder, „alte Bekannte“ zu treffen, und auch schön für die Mütter und Väter sich auszutauschen. Damit das Austauschen etwas einfacher und ohne größeren Kilometeraufwand geschehen kann, wurden die regionalen EfA-Ansprecheltern genannt. Dies ist eine Sache , die ja schon ohne besonderen organisatorische Aufwand in einigen Regionen ganz gut funktioniert und sollte mit diesen Nennungen weiter unterstützt werden.
Wir Efa-Leute freuen uns sehr über diese Initiative, auch weil wir sehr gerne daran den Wert und die Wichtigkeit unserer immer weiter wachsenden Gemeinschaft ablesen.
Vielen Dank an all die wetterfesten ELTERN FÜR AFRIKA die uns mit ihrem Erscheinen bereichert haben.
Und auch vielen Dank für die Unterstützung des Africachild-Village- Projektes in Kenya. Es sind insgesamt 1246 Euro zusammen gekommen! (nachzulesen auch bei www.africachild.de)
Bitte halten Sie mit uns Kontakt auch jenseits der Veranstaltungen, wir möchten immer für Sie da sein.
- DAS EfA-TEAM Augsburg
 

Zum Thema Kinderheim

Zum Thema Kinderheim
EfA möchte die Vermittlungsarbeit in der südlichen Region von Äthiopien erweitern. Wir arbeiten bereits mit Kooperationskinderheimen in Awassa zusammen und planen, dort ein eigenes Kinderheim zu eröffnen. Aufgrund dessen ist der Bedarf an Plätzen in unserem Kinderheim in Addis Abeba reduziert und wir verkleinern das EfA-Kinderheim.
- Stand:16.07.2010

Immigrant sues over lost custody of child in Miss.

Immigrant sues over lost custody of child in Miss.
By Shelia Byrd
Associated Press
Published: Thursday, Aug. 12, 2010 1:47 p.m. MDT

JACKSON, Miss. — Mississippi officials conspired to take the infant of an illegal immigrant from Mexico so the girl could be adopted by a white couple, a civil rights group charged Thursday in a federal lawsuit.

The Southern Poverty Law Center said Cirila Baltazar Cruz was separated from her daughter, Ruby, for a year before her child was returned to her in 2009 after the intervention of the group.

Cruz had the baby at Singing River Hospital in Pascagoula in November 2008. Two days after the child was born she was taken from her mother when the Mississippi Department of Human Services deemed Cruz unfit, according to the lawsuit.

Cruz — who spoke no English and little Spanish and could not read or write — was interviewed by a hospital interpreter. The interpreter spoke Spanish, not Chatino, a dialect indigenous to Cruz's native Oaxaca in rural Mexico, the group's lawsuit alleges.

After talking with Cruz, the interpreter told one of the immigrant's relatives that Cruz was trading sex for housing and wanted to give the child up for adoption, according to the lawsuit. Cruz said in the court filing that she tried to explain to the interpreter she worked in a Chinese restaurant and lived in an apartment.

"When they tried to take my baby away I felt that I was done wrong, and I was very angry. It was a very painful experience for me and for my baby. This is why I want other people to know, because I don't want anyone else to go through the same experience," Cruz said in a statement released Thursday by the SPLC. Cruz is back in Mexico with her daughter.

The lawsuit, which names MDHS, Singing River Health System and others, seeks monetary damages and alleges the state officials conspired to deny Cruz and her child their constitutional rights to family integrity, said Mary Bauer, the law center's legal director. It also alleges Cruz was targeted by state officials because of her race and nationality.

"It's hard to put a value on losing your daughter for year," Bauer said. "It's one of the most outrageous cases we've ever seen."

The child was placed in the home of Wendy and Douglas Tynes, two attorneys who lived in Ocean Springs and were foster parents. The complaint said the Tynes were seeking to adopt. The suit alleges MDHS officials conspired with a youth court judge and the Tynes to keep Cruz from her daughter so she could be adopted by the couple.

Messages left at the Tynes' offices weren't immediately returned.

Even before the lawsuit, the case had drawn national and international attention, prompting a federal review and an agreement that requires Mississippi to notify the Mexican consulate when similar situations occur.

MDHS declined to comment.

China - Discovering her birth parents was an exciting adventure for a 15-year-old girl

UPDATED: August 2, 2010 NO. 31 AUGUST 5, 2010
Finding Family
Discovering her birth parents was an exciting adventure for a 15-year-old girl
By LIU YUNYUN

AMERICAN FAMILY: Haley (left) poses with her sisters and parents at a beach (COURTESY OF JEANNIE BUTLER)



CHINESE FAMILY: Haley meets with her biological parents, eldest sister and younger brother at a hotel in Shanghai in July this year (COURTESY OF ZHU JUAN)


It took 14 years—and just two minutes—for an adopted Chinese girl to find her biological family. July 21 this year marked the first anniversary of Haley Butler's finding of her biological parents in Maanshan in east China's Anhui Province.

This year's family reunion was an exciting experience for Haley, a 15-year-old girl from Tennessee in the United States, as she had the chance to meet every member of her Chinese family—her parents, three elder sisters and a little brother.

Like other American families, the Butlers gave names to their children starting with the same initial—Heidi, Haley, and Helina. But, as one can easily tell from their looks, the latter two came from Asia.

Jeannie Butler, the mother of the three children, said Haley and Helina were both adopted from China. Haley is 15 and Helina is four.

Life in America

The Butler family adopted Haley when she was six months old. The baby girl was found on a street in Maanshan with her birth date attached to the clothes. The local police sent her to a nearby orphanage.

The Butlers, who were unable to have more children after they gave birth to their first daughter, adopted her after complicated procedures and took her to Tennessee. They have since offered her the best they can.

Haley now attends Nashville School of the Arts as a sophomore (10th grade). She plays in the orchestra and attends classes for creative writing and ballet. After high school graduation she plans to attend Belmont University and major in English with journalism as a minor.

Haley began taking violin lessons at 3. Earlier this year she recorded an extended play CD in which she played and sang the song she wrote for Annabelle's Wish, a non-profit organization founded by her American parents.

Haley felt grateful for her parents. "If it wasn't for them, I wouldn't have this life. I wouldn't even speak English," she said.

Almost every year, the Chinese Embassy in the United States holds get-togethers for families who have adopted children from China. At one of these events in Washington, D.C. on June 13 this year, China's Ambassador to the United States Zhang Yesui said, from 1999 to 2009, families in the United States had adopted about 59,000 children from China. He said the children who had been born in China but were growing up in the U.S. brought the two countries closer.

At the same event, Zhang's wife Chen Naiqing said she felt grateful for the generous parents. "They have not only provided the best living conditions and education they can, but what is more admirable is they help the adopted children with their identity crises, keeping them in close contact with their birth culture and country.

Chen said the embassy receives letters and e-mails every day from adoptive families asking for photos, books, and art work about China, as they hope these will help their children to know who they really are and where they come from.

The myth of birth

In an interview with Beijing Review, Haley's biological sister Zhu Juan, who is a graduate student at East China Normal University, said, 15 years ago, because of heavy living pressure, her mother reluctantly sent Haley to a family in Maanshan City, which she thought would be able to offer the baby what she could not. She hoped Haley would have a better life with that family.

"At that time, 15 years ago, our family was very poor," Zhu said. The family lived in the countryside in Chaohu, Anhui, a less developed province in China.

"We never knew she was abandoned until later," Zhu said. Zhu's family did not know the truth until Haley found them in 2009 and told them about her experience.

Zhu said her family had talked from time to time about this fourth daughter, and her brother and sisters had planned to visit her when they had grown up.

"It is a miracle," Zhu said after finding out her youngest sister had been adopted and brought up well by a family in the United States. The villagers and their friends were all astounded.

Haley's Chinese family, as she talks of them, gave her the Chinese name Zhu Yuan ("yuan" in Chinese means "destiny ties people together").

As an adopted child, Haley had always wondered about her past and her biological family and who had brought her into this world.

Haley's American parents have been supportive in her wishes of finding her biological parents and those thoughts soon turned into action.

She returned to China for a 15th time in July 2009—this time to search for her parents.

"The local police were extremely generous in their help," Haley said. They looked through all the documents about abandoned babies and suggested a place to put up a poster.

In just two minutes, Haley had a response. A woman working in the restaurant where the poster was put up said Haley looked like the daughter of her cousin, who had sent a baby girl to others 14 years previously. In a few hours, the woman's cousin showed up, a 50-something man who came with his first daughter all the way from Chaohu to Maanshan to meet Haley.

After she returned to the United States, Haley's family had her hair tested for matching DNA. It turned out the man's DNA showed an almost 100 percent match.

Haley and her adoptive parents had always thought the odds of finding the biological parents were slim to none, and never thought it would be so easy.

Mrs. Butler said when their youngest daughter Helina grew up and wanted to know about her past, they would support her in finding them as well.

Love for all

"I'm so thankful for the two girls we adopted from China. They are such a blessing to our family," said Mrs. Butler. "I have a great love for China and greatly enjoy doing all I can to help children still living in orphanages."

The Butlers had two missions during their July trip to China this year—a family reunion in Shanghai for Haley and a medical mission. Before going to Shanghai for the reunion, Haley and her mother, together with a surgeon and a nurse from the United States, flew to northwest China's Shaanxi Province to conduct cleft palate surgeries for children in orphanages there.

In 1995, following their adoption of Haley, Mr. and Mrs. Butler founded Annabelle's Wish, a non-profit organization to provide care and basic necessities for children in orphanages in China.

"No one can help everyone, but everyone can help someone," Mrs. Butler said.

Annabelle's Wish gathers basic necessities such as baby formula milk powder, diapers and clothing. It helps orphanages in China's cities such as Maanshan, Xi'an, Yulin, Shizong and Pingliang. The organization also donates to two foster homes in China, which receive at-risk or sick children and those children with special needs.

Annabelle's Wish also provides for cleft lip surgeries, and educational expenses for dedicated students. Up to now, more than 20 cleft palate surgeries have been carried out successfully in China, and those children's lives have been forever changed. They can now eat better and are growing strongly and healthily. The organization is also planning a 2011 medical mission.

"I'm not sure what city we will be in next year, but we are open to any city that would like to host us," Mrs. Butler said.

BOOKS

Chinese Cities in Foreigners' Eyes

By YU LINTAO

To introduce Chinese cities to the world, a book series Cities of China written by foreign authors will be published during the next three years by the Beijing-based Foreign Languages Press (FLP), a company affiliated to China International Publishing Group (CIPG).

The first three books of the series, Nanjing —Life on the Water's Edge, The Kunshan Way and Wuxi—Where Ancient Culture Meets Contemporary Life, have just been released.

"Our goal is to publish 20 to 30 books in this series in the next three years," said Hu Baomin, President of FLP, at a launching ceremony in Beijing on July 14, 2010.

With the idea of "one city, one book, learning about China through its cities," nearly 100 foreign writers were invited to join the project, a way to introduce a real China from a Western perspective, Hu said.

"The series combined the expats' perspectives and writing styles with firsthand local life experiences and overviews of each city's history, economy, culture and society," said Huang Youyi, Vice President of CIPG, "and stories about Chinese cities by foreign authors can help to restore some of the details of China's cities local people take for granted or have ignored."

Einar Tangen, the author of The Kunshan Way, said things happened in China are discussed in general but people know little about their specifics, and it is a different perspective to talk about details of the country.

Bobby Brill, the author of Nanjing—Life on the Water's Edge, said the book is a taste of Nanjing and a taste of China. "What you see is just the tip of the iceberg. There's so much more to explore," said Brill.

The FLP says books about cities including Beijing, Nantong, Qingdao, Changzhou and Hangzhou are being planned.

Alleged Child Traffickers on Board of Tamil TB Boat

Alleged Child Traffickers on Board of Tamil TB Boat

by Tom McGregor Fri, Aug 13, 2010, 10:32 PM

World Vision Canada is demanding that the Canadian government crack down on any child traffickers who may be on board the Sri Lankan Tamil ship that is supposedly plagued by tuberculosis-infected passengers, which landed on Friday in British Columbia.

The Toronto Sun reports that, “the aid agency says Canada is known as a haven for child trafficking, both as a transit hub and a destination country. World Vision is concerned that a failure to clamp down on any child traffickers now would reinforce Canada’s unfortunate reputation.”

Canadian Public Minister Vic Toews said at a news conference in Esquimalt, B.C. that he realizes the actions of Canadian officials are being closely observed.

Collegeville family fights halt on Nepal adoptions

August 14, 2010

Collegeville family fights halt on Nepal adoptions

By Amy Bowen

abowen@stcloudtimes.com

COLLEGEVILLE — Tears well up in Cherie Beumer’s eyes for the daughter she doesn’t know, but loves.

Bypassing panel, 42 kids shifted to Preet Mandir: CBI

Bypassing panel, 42 kids shifted to Preet Mandir: CBI

Asseem Shaikh, TNN, Aug 14, 2010, 12.22am IST

Tags:preet mandir|pandharpur|cbi|adoption racket

PUNE: Investigations conducted by the Central Bureau of Investigation (CBI) in the inter country adoption racket has revealed that 42 children were directly transferred to Preet Mandir from an orphanage at Pandharpur bypassing child welfare committee.

CBI inspector S Bhattacharya made the statement in its remand report when Preet Mandir managing trusteeJoginder Singh Bhasin was produced before the special court, following expiry of his police custody remand on Friday.

Victims of Preet Mandir’s depravity: 41 children waiting to be adopted

Victims of Preet Mandir’s depravity: 41 children waiting to be adopted

Published: Thursday, Aug 12, 2010, 3:09 IST

By Bhagyashree Kulthe | Place: Mumbai | Agency: DNA

Over the past five months, the adoption process of nearly 41 children, including some differently-abled in the 1-12 age group, has been affected adversely at Pune’s adoption centre Preet Mandir. The process includes 10 special children (hearing and speech impaired) and two others who tested positive in their first HIV test, but were negative in the second.

The arrest of JS Bhasin, managing trustee of Balwant Kartar Anand Foundation which runs Preet Mandir, on Tuesday has further complicated matters for the children and their prospective adoptive parents.