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Kids should be told they are adopted by the age of three, says study

Published in the Journal of Family Issues, the study titled Delaying Adoption Disclosure: A Survey of Late Discovery, concluded that people who received the news of their adoption as young adults or adults have less satisfaction than those who found out as young children.

If you have adopted a child, it is better to reveal the truth to your kid as early as possible. A new study has said that adopted kids experience greater distress if they are told after the age of three that they are adopted.

Published in the Journal of Family Issues, the study titled Delaying Adoption Disclosure: A Survey of Late Discovery concluded that people who received the news of their adoption as young adults or adults have less satisfaction than those who found out as young children.

An adult woman, who was part of the study, talked about how she felt post-disclosure and said, “Realising that you don’t know who you are is life-changing. Every relationship in my life changed at that moment. I am much more guarded in every aspect now. Finding out that everyone knew and I didn’t is probably the single most traumatic event in my life.” She found out she was adopted at the age of 49.

The adolescents who found out about being adopted reported the most distress while those who found out at the age of 19 or older were able to cope better by taking steps like connecting with the birth family or seeking support from close relationships.

‘Adoption no easy matter’ Children’s Authority head says

THERE is a common misconception that children at community residents are orphans and easily adopted. They are not. Many have families and it is the priority of the Children’s Authority to reunite these children with their relatives.

So said chairman of the Board of Management of the Authority, Hanif Benjamin yesterday at a press conference at the Ministry of Attorney General and Legal Affairs, Port of Spain.

The press conference was called to clarify issues of adoption after president of the Rapidfire Kidz Foundation, attorney Kevin Ratiram appealed to the public to start adopting children in community homes at the Foundation’s Annual Gala Dinner on September 14.

Ratiram said, “Many of these children would never know what it feels like to sit on a father’s lap. They will never know what it feels like to fall asleep in their mother’s arms or wake up in their mother’s arms. They are destined to remain there (in orphanages) almost forever... Why is it they are not good enough to be part of us, part of our home, our families?”

Benjamin said, “It’s not that you can just walk in a community residence and say, ‘I like this one. Gimme this one. Or I like these two, put these two in a bag. It’s a process and it’s important to understand that process where a child must be freed.”

Govt revokes registration of Dmr-based adoption agency

The registration of a Specialised Adoption Agency (SAA) in Dimapur was revoked for allegedly not complying with central government guidelines with respect to Child Care Institutions (CCI) in India.

According to a press statement from Secretary, Department of Social Welfare, the license for Mother’s Hope (SAA), 7th mile, Model Village, Dimapur Nagaland was revoked and shut down for repeated default, failure to comply to the instruction and direction of State Government and Child Protection Services and failure to adhere to the Juvenile Justice Act, 2015.

It also stated that Mother’s Hope was given enough time and consideration since the year 2015 to rectify their shortcomings and adhere to the rules and regulations, however, the home failed repeatedly to respond and comply with the notices issued.

An official from the social welfare department informed that on September 19 a Joint Action Committee took custody of 13 children under the care of the SAA while informing that its registration stands revoked.

“It was part of a country-wide exercise to examine Child Care Institutions taken up in the backdrop of the Muzaffarpur (Bihar) child abuse case in 2018,” the official said.

New TLC Special Taken At Birth Dives into Shocking 'Hicks Babies' Black Market Adoption Scandal

More than 200 newborn babies were illegally sold or given away by Dr. Thomas J. Hicks during the 1950s and 1960s

A new TLC special will share the untold stories of the “Hicks Babies,” more than 200 newborn babies illegally sold or given away from the back steps of a small-town Georgia clinic run by Dr. Thomas J. Hicks during the 1950s and 1960s.

PEOPLE can exclusively announce that the three-night special Taken At Birth will air Oct. 9 through Oct. 11.

The story broke in 1997, revealing that Hicks was alleged to have spearheaded a black market baby ring out of his clinic. Since the undercover operation was exposed, many Hicks Babies have desperately searched for their biological families, yet decades later, are still looking for their birth parents.

Taken At Birth follows Jane Blasio, the youngest of the known Hicks Babies, who helped break the story and has since dedicated her life to finding out the truth. Blasio enlists TLC’s Long Lost Family co-hosts Lisa Joyner and Chris Jacobs to solve a decades-old mystery, reunite birth families and ultimately help them find closure.

’My Faith in Americans is Renewed with every Adoption’: Transnational and Transracial Adoptions in Postwar America

American writer Pearl. S. Buck, winner of the Nobel Prize for literature, addressed the black readership of Ebony magazine in June 1958 by asking “Should white parents adopt brown babies?” Buck herself had founded the adoption agency “Welcome House” in 1949 and was an early advocate for adoptions from Asian countries. She had also adopted the Afro-German girl Henriette in 1951. Deeply committed to humanitarian activism as well as highly critical of social welfare practices, she addressed African-American families in the Ebony article and encouraged them to adopt, though she reasoned that children needed love and a nurturing home, not so much a “match” in terms of race or culture. The African American public, too, was deeply concerned about black German children born in the aftermath of 1945, and as early as 1946, the first reports about them appeared in the black press. Another female “non-professional” adoption advocate who wanted to bring these children to the US was Mabel A. Grammer, a journalist for the Baltimore Afro-American and the wife of a GI stationed in Germany. The Grammer’s had adopted several Afro-German children themselves, and Mabel Grammer initiated what she called the “Brown Baby Plan” in the late 1940s (Alexis Clark, „Overlooked No More: Mabel Grammer, Whose Brown Baby Plan Found Homes for Hundreds“).For Grammer, her activism was deeply political; a means to overcome the discriminatory practices of domestic adoption agencies (McRoy Zurcher. Transracial and Inracial Adoptees). Her writings for the Baltimore Afro-American illustrate that the “Brown Baby Plan” was a means to circumvent the discriminations African Americans faced by domestic adoption agencies, as well as an articulation of their humanitarian concerns. Being confronted with images of the normative American family (white, middle-class, with a male breadwinner and a female homemaker), the family became exactly the site where inequalities were painfully experienced (Potter. Everybody Else: Adoption and the Politics of Domestic Diversity in Postwar America). Far from being a private constellation, the postwar family was acutely political; through her adoption efforts, Grammer therefore exposed the classed, gendered, and raced notions of this family ideal. Viewed in this light, her activism also underscores the political dimension of constructed kinship formations.

The late 1940s and early 1950s witnessed the emergence of so-called “intercountry adoptions” to the United States. These transnational adoptions, which often happened to be transracial as well, were regarded as deviant, unconventional, or revolutionary. They subverted the premise of “matching,” that is finding a match between children and parents in terms of race, religion, or mental capacity (McRoy Zurcher. Transracial and Inracial Adoptees). Mabel Grammer and Pearl Buck received wide and favourable media coverage for her humanitarian commitment. However, the International Social Service (ISS) and the Child Welfare League of America (CWLA) were highly critical of their reliance on proxy adoptions that did not involve social workers or a supervisory period for the newly established families. Buck and Grammer framed adoption as a humanitarian paradigm, closely related to war, occupation and sexual violence. In fact, US-American soldiers sent to Europe during or after the Second World War, and eventually to Korea, produced significant numbers of children in those countries. The fate of these “half-American” children, often identified as “racially mixed” and many of them discriminated against in their home country, attracted wide media attention in the United States. This coverage coincided with a “shortage” of healthy white babies and hence increased demand for “adoptable” children by American couples. In order to facilitate the emerging practice of international adoptions into the United States, the US immigration law broadened the definition of “orphan” considerably; from 1953, a child with two living parents could be categorized as an orphan. These children were obviously regarded as ideal immigrants and citizens, since they could be raised to become “true Americans” in the Cold War era.

The internationalism of the postwar period as well as the galvanizing civil rights movement and a belief in colorblind social policies challenged standard procedures such as “matching.” The public discussions and controversies that transnational and transracial adoptions elicited reflect the paradoxes inherent in American family formation and the formation of the American nation. On the one hand a liberal pluralist understanding – families can be made through voluntary association, a nation can be made through immigration and naturalization; and on the other hand the belief that blood ties determine belonging – into the family as well as into the nation. Especially transracial adoptions touched upon these notions in new and challenging ways. It was within this historical context, I argue, that discourses on civil rights, on idealized notions of “the American family,” on citizenship as well as Cold War rhetoric all intersected in the social practice that is transnational and transracial adoptions. This project is guided by several research questions: Why did these transnational and transracial adoptions generate such a huge media coverage, despite their relatively small numbers in the early years of international adoption, what were the larger political and cultural issues and sentiments these adoptions touched upon? Why did white Americans consider adopting a child from Korea, but not a racially mixed child out of the US foster system, why was the benevolent rhetoric of color blindness, multiracial families and child rescue not extended to these American children? Lastly, why were the ISS and the CWLA so critical of Buck and Grammer, how did they react to these “adoption activists”?

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Advisors Both Ends Believing

Ambassador Susan S. Jacobs, Retired Advisor

Ambassador Susan S. Jacobs (Retired) was the Special Advisor for Children's Issues at the Department of State from 2010 until her retirement in 2017. During her tenure, she traveled to more than 40 countries to discuss International Parental Child Abduction and Intercountry Adoption. In addition, she led U.S. delegations to international conferences and commissions concerned with issues effecting children. A career diplomat, Ambassador Jacobs joined the Foreign Service in 1974 soon after married women were allowed to serve as officers. Throughout her career, she held various overseas postings including Israel, India and El Salvador. Prior to her appointment as Special Advisor, Ambassador Jacobs served as the Deputy Assistant Secretary in the Bureau of Legislative Affairs and as Ambassador to Papua New Guinea, the Solomon Islands and Vanuatu.

Ambassador Jacobs received her Bachelor degree from the University of Michigan and did graduate studies at Georgetown University Law School and George Washington University. She is married to Barry Jacobs, also a retired diplomat and has three children and four grandchildren.

Peter Leppanen Advisor

Peter Leppanen is an advocate for the right of every child to grow up in a permanent loving family. He has consulted, served as a board member and collaborated with a number of organizations who share his conviction. Pete served as a Strategic Advisor to Both Ends Believing from 2013-15 and helped to create the organization’s current strategy. He continues to serve as an advisor to BEB. Previously, Pete served as President and CEO of Wide Horizons For Children for six years overseeing child permanency programs in a dozen countries around the globe, including the United States. These programs included family preservation, family empowerment, orphan support, community development focused on healthcare and education, adoption counseling, domestic and international adoption and post-adoption support. Prior to becoming President, he served as a board member and volunteer consultant to Wide Horizons. In his previous career, Pete worked in consulting for 25 years. As a Senior Partner at CSC Consulting, he directed a consulting practice focused on strategy, business process re-engineering, and systems integration.

EMPOWERYOU - Kinder und Jugendliche in Pflege- und Adoptivfamilien stärken und Reviktimisierung verhindern

EMPOWERYOU - Strengthen children and adolescents in care and adoptive families and prevent re-victimization

Violence, neglect, mistreatment and abuse in childhood and adolescence have dramatic consequences for those affected, and most of them suffer for a lifetime. The Federal Ministry of Education and Research supports research networks that develop evidence-based concepts for prevention, detection and therapy and test them in practice.

The majority of foster and adoptive children have experienced violence, neglect and / or abuse in their source family. With the help of third-party care, the danger of becoming a victim of violence again is not banished. On the contrary, foster and adoptive children have a significantly higher risk of becoming victims of mobbing and violence throughout their lives

The overall objective of the EMPOWERYOU association is to support care and adoption families, as well as children and adolescents in foreign placement, in coping with previous traumatic experiences and to counteract the risk of future harassment and violence experiences. The examined children and adolescents can be both perpetrators and victims of bullying, eg. B. at school or in the circle of friends and acquaintances. Bullying also includes the so-called cyber-bullying through new media and social networks. Based on the results obtained, tailor-made internet-based prevention programs will be developed and tested for their effectiveness. If these prove effective, they can be easily and inexpensively disseminated and used.

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Odisha: WCD officials to conduct survey of orphan, single-parent children

The Department of W&CD and Mission Shakti (MS) have issued letters to all District Collectors in this regard.

he Department of Women and Child Development and Mission Shakti have decided to conduct mapping of orphan and children of single-parent throughout Odisha to bring them to the protective network of the society.

"The survey will be conducted with an aim to get an exact number of orphan children and children of single-parent living in the state and to bring them to the protective network of the society through the intervention of the government where ever required," the Women and Child Development department (W&CD) said in a statement.

The Department of W&CD and Mission Shakti (MS) have issued letters to all District Collectors in this regard.

The survey has to be made district-wise across the state by the Anganwadi workers engaged in the Anganwadi centres, the district functionaries like District Social Welfare Officer (DSWO) and District Child Protection Officer (DCPO) are to be entrusted to supervise the survey process.

Adoptée, Émilie Ducrot soutient que l'adoption internationale n'est "pas une chance"

Adopted, Émilie Ducrot argues that international adoption is "not a chance"

Victim of child trafficking in the 1980s in Sri Lanka, Émilie Ducrot, who publishes "Tears of the Elephant", is the guest of the evening news of franceinfo, Tuesday, September 17.

15,000 children were stolen from their biological family in Sri Lanka in the 1980s and sold to an illegal adoption network. Among them, Emilie Ducrot, who was adopted in 1985 by a family who pampered her. But his conditions of separation from his biological mother came back to him in nightmares.

"I always wanted answers because it did not satisfy me the explanation that was given to me: that my family was too poor to raise a child.When I learn the truth, I understand myself a little better" , confides Émilie Ducrot.

"It's been two years now that I'm aware of the scandal and I'm trying to get things moving." It's complicated because in the minds of people adoption is a chance. is not one, because we uproot a child, we put it in a culture that is not his, even if we are wanted and loved, we are not in our place, "she says.

Feierliche Höhepunkte einer Großfamilie

Baking cookies, going on holiday, celebrating birthdays - when a 14-member family prepares holidays, this is a logistical and organizational challenge.

Any negligence in extended family life takes its revenge immediately: If work remains in the home, the laboriously developed structure of time, obligations and responsibility is out of balance. Mostly the mother takes over the central role of the family manager. It is the same with the Sorg family. It consists of 14 people: Valentin Sorg works as a machinist in the nuclear power plant Philippsburg, mother Sorg in the adoption agency "future for children eV". The double earners can take good care of their twelve children. Holiday in Crete is as much a part of it as a swimming pool and a private minibus.

German:

Plätzchenbacken, Urlaub machen, Geburtstage feiern - wenn eine 14-köpfige Familie Festtage vorbereitet, ist das eine logistische und organisatorische Herausforderung.

Jede Nachlässigkeit im Großfamilien-Leben rächt sich sofort: Bleibt Arbeit im Haushalt liegen, gerät das mühsam entwickelte Gefüge aus Zeit, Pflichten und Verantwortung aus dem Gleichgewicht. Meist übernimmt die Mutter die zentrale Rolle der Familien-Managerin. So ist es auch bei Familie Sorg. Sie besteht aus 14 Personen: Valentin Sorg arbeitet als Maschinist im Atomkraftwerk Philippsburg, Mutter Sorg in der Adoptionsvermittlungsstelle "Zukunft für Kinder e. V.". Die Doppelverdiener können ihre zwölf Kinder gut versorgen. Urlaub auf Kreta gehört ebenso dazu wie ein Swimmingpool und ein eigener Kleinbus.