La vie avec un « bébé » de 12 ans…

22 AVRIL 2012 / 3 COMMENTAIRES

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Christian et son sourire ravageur

Le jour de son arrivée parmi nous, il ne nous a fallu que quelques minutes pour prendre conscience de l’ampleur des soins que le handicap physique de Cristi, que nous avions convenu d’appeler Christian, allaient exiger. Opéré à sept ans pour des séquelles de poliomyélite, Christian portait depuis une sorte de structure métallique au bas du corps, attaché à un corset rigide servant à garder sa colonne droite. Cet appareil devait peser au moins 10 kg. C’est beaucoup pour un enfant. Et difficile à décrire. C’était franchement émouvant de le voir déambuler avec cet attirail. Avec ses deux cannes canadiennes, il avait appris à marcher en balançant les deux pieds ensemble vers l’avant et en ramenant ensuite ses cannes. Il était très habile. C’était quelque chose à voir lorsque venait le temps de monter les escaliers. Après son premier souper, le soir de son arrivée, il fallait qu’il « grimpe » à l’étage, là où se trouvait sa chambre. Je le suivis et je constatai l’effort qu’il devait accomplir pour monter les marches une à une. Il devait « débarrer » le genou avec une main pour qu’il plie, le barrer de nouveau après avoir déposé le pied sur la marche suivante pour qu’il puisse se porter dessus, débarrer l’autre genou, etc. Chaque marche ainsi montée me donnait l’impression d’une conquête. J’avais conclu durant cette montée qu’il lui faudrait une chambre au rez-de-chaussée, ce que j’allais m’empresser de proposer à notre propriétaire dès le lendemain.

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Shirley Sagin was among those who helped war orphans find loving homes in the U.S. after the Saigon Airlift at the end of the Vietnam War.

There is likely no one in the Greater Philadelphia area who is responsible for finding more loving families for orphaned children, including many who had been considered unadoptable, than Shirley Milner Sagin, 97, who died of Alzheimer's disease June 12 at the Joseph Scott Health Center of Rydal Park in Jenkintown.

Sagin, a revered social worker and adoption specialist who served as the “stork” for hundreds of families throughout the Delaware Valley, raised her own family for two decades in Springfield Township and lived with her husband, Jerome, for 10 years in Wyncote, and then for many years at the Hill House in Chestnut Hill. After that, they lived at the Wesley Enhanced Living at Stapeley facility in Germantown.

Through a long tenure at Jewish Family and Children’s Services (JFCS) of Greater Philadelphia, where she was the director of adoption services for more than two decades, Sagin helped place babies with loving families throughout the region. When Jewish babies available for adoption became scarce, she worked to help other agencies find homes for hard-to-place children.

A member of the an LGBT family organisation writes the report on rainbow families for the EU. Advisors of surrogacy experts produce new LGBT legislation. An EU employee warns about the rainbow lobby in the European Union.

LGBT proponents write ánd check the EU legislation on rainbow issues. News website El Debate claims that ‘independent’ advisors are actually part of the LGBT lobby.

Minor

One example of this is Alina Tryfonidou, El Debate points out. Tryfonidou authored the study746632) on cross-border recognition of parenthood in the EU. The report was to critically analyse the plan of the EU to make member states recognise the parenthood of people from other member states. For example, a Dutch gay couple with a child should also be recognised as the parents of this minor when they move to a country where same-sex marriage is forbidden.

However, Alina Tryfonidou helped to draft the Regulation by the European Commission, which she had to review in her report. According to El Debate, she was involved to such an extent that “she knew the content of the text before its official publication.”

A person who works in the European institutions is concerned about how the LGTBI lobby is present in them and "puts pressure on the democratic debate and national powers."

The European Commission has repeatedly used the same legal expert announced as "independent" to draft several reports and a legislative initiative.

Specifically, a person who works in the European institutions and who prefers not to give his name tells El Debate that experts related to certain topics are being used, such as homosexual marriage and its legislation in member countries. This is the case of the 'Recognition of paternity' project proposed by the European Commission, it is a regulation – a legislative instrument with direct effect, without approval by national parliaments – aimed at harmonizing legislation on same-sex families throughout the EU.

These Member States would be forced to recognize the effects of same-sex marriage, including surrogacy, contracted in another Member State.

It was at the end of this month of April 2023 when the European Parliament, and more specifically, its Directorate General for Internal Policies, carried out a study on this topic entitled 'Cross-border legal recognition of paternity in the EU'.

Illegally adopted children testify: “How could Belgium let this happen? »

False identities, children torn from their biological families and wrongly qualified as orphans, psychological violence... While the word is freed among adopted children, who have become adults in search of their origins, the Belgian government is slow to recognize their status as victims .Article reserved for subscribersA first photo marked with a number for Yung Fierens (left) and a false name for An Sheela Jacobs (right).A first photo marked with a number for Yung Fierens (left) and a false name for An Sheela Jacobs (right). - Dominique Duchesnes.Charlotte Hutin Testimonials - Journalist at the Society DepartmentBy Charlotte Hutin

Published on 07/18/2023 at 06:00 Reading time: 9 mins

En the hands of An Sheela Jacobs, the photo of a chubby baby with dark skin carried by one of the sisters of the Missionaries of Charity orphanage in Kolkata (India). This little girl, more or less 11 months old, is holding an A4 sheet with a first name written in capital letters: Charmain. A name to which An Sheela never felt "connected", but which she thought was her name from birth until the age of 38. “During a second trip to India, I discovered that the data, which appear on the official documents of my adoption and which were accepted by the judge, are false. I learn that the first name given by my biological parents is Sheela. So I decided to call myself An Sheela. An being the first name given to me by my adoptive parents. »

An Sheela Jacobs I still don't know my exact date of birth, the identity of my biological parents, if they really abandoned me, or if it's just another lie
 

Research into indications of tampering in international adoptions, including in Belgian archives, has still not been conducted. Last year in June, the House unanimously asked for this.

Domestic adoptees have already been given excuses because unmarried mothers were forced to give up their children. Metis were apologized because the colonial authorities in Congo and Rwanda-Burundi stole children of mixed blood from their native mothers.

The international adoptees, on the other hand, received nothing yet. Yet many suspect that many adoptions abroad have been tampered with. There was therefore enthusiastic applause from the public gallery when MPs approved a resolution last year asking the government to conduct an administrative investigation into abuses in international adoptions. A report on this should be completed by now.

But the government took no action. According to the Minister of Foreign Affairs, Hadja Lahbib (MR), there is nothing in the consular archives about international adoptions. She answered this to a question from N-VA MP Ingvild Ingels. “She said her department does not have jurisdiction over international adoptions, which is not correct. She repeated that answer twice, even after a relevant report had surfaced.'

Children tied up

The Dutch government has been too careless in the past with adoptions of foreign children, acknowledges outgoing minister Franc Weerwind (legal protection). "All you can think is: How can I do this better?"

Petra Vissers July 17, 2023

In the spring, Minister Franc Weerwind (D66, legal protection) speaks with a woman adopted from China. Her date of birth? January 1st. Just like countless other Dutch people whose cradle was in China. It is an administrative date, nothing more. She tells the minister that she would like to know when she was really born.

My goodness, Weerwind thinks. A date of birth should be so obvious. “Those kinds of examples make the story hit me very hard,” he reflects on that moment in his office in The Hague. “Those questions… Who are you? When were you born, who are your parents, where are you from?”

'I'm not going to justify it'

After Kees van der Spek (59) revealed that participants of 'Spoorloos' in Colombia had been linked to the wrong biological parents, KRO-NCRV called in a detective agency. The investigation shows that there was no malicious intent. Adopted Diego, who did not participate in 'Spoorloos', finds that conclusion rather simplistic, because he is also a victim of Edwin Vela, the controversial fixer of the program.

Adoption Truth and Transparency Worldwide Information Network (ATTWIN) consists of local
and global individuals and families separated by adoption. This social media group was initiated
in November of 2011.
The mission of Adoption Truth & Transparency Worldwide Network is to protect local and
global families from the crisis of trafficking for the purpose of adoptioni

through education and

services that assist victims and survivors and prevent further exploitation.
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