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Chinezen zetten zich over hun schaamte heen om op zoek te gaan naar weggegeven dochters

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Chinezen zetten zich over hun schaamte heen om op zoek te gaan naar weggegeven dochters

Het pleintje in Shouning waar de Chinese ouders komen zoeken naar hun weggegeven dochters. Beeld Eefje Rammeloo

Chinese ouders durven eindelijk te zoeken naar dochters die ze lang geleden weggaven. Het eenkindbeleid is alweer een paar jaar afgeschaft, dus een boete krijgen ze niet meer. Achter de schaamte die overblijft, schuilt de diepe behoefte te weten hoe het met hun kind gaat.

Eefje Rammeloo2 juli 2020, 10:57

The Chinese get over their shame to look for daughters given away

Chinese parents finally dare to look for daughters they gave away long ago. The one-child policy has been abolished for a few years now, so they no longer get a fine. Behind the shame that remains is the deep need to know how their child is doing.

Eefje Rammeloo2 July 2020 , 10:57 AM

Ye Yunfeng has a face full of laughter lines, the face of someone who likes to get up to mischief and can laugh happily. He must be a nice father to his son and daughter. There are two of them, the third was an accident. The laugh lines suddenly disappear. "Had it been a son, I might have fled into the mountains with him." It was the heyday of the one-child policy, and Farmer Ye couldn't pay another fine.

His parents still knew someone who could make the baby disappear. The girl was a few days old when her parents gave her to a crippled man in the morning. “The sun wasn't up yet,” Ye recalls. When he regretted it a few years later, he went after the man, but he turned out to be dead. He would give something to see his now 34-year-old daughter. The great thing is: nobody can fix it anymore, because the one-child policy is history.

A few hundred parents spend their Saturday afternoon on a square in the town of Shouning. They walk restlessly from one side of the square to the other. Maybe their daughter will also register just today. On a table in the semicircular gazebo lie sterile-wrapped cotton swabs and needles. The ladies who manage the table are sure to prick the fingers of the seekers. They drip some blood onto a card that they staple to a form in a brown envelope. Those who cannot write can leave it to them.

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90 years of IST: the structural and substantive change in the International Social Service from its beginnings to the present day - Part I.

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Stichting Wereldkinderen De kwaliteit van het bemiddelingsproces bij een vergunninghouder interlandelijke adoptie

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The WAI Society and Adoptionpedia, for all (Chinese) adoptees

On WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook and soon also with their own websites, Chinese adoptees find each other. Dutch initiatives that may soon be active worldwide. To help each other in the search for identity and roots, or just for some recognition and fun.


This is the vision of Sien Alting Siberg (25) and Kya Jonker (23). Sien works at Fiom as a specialist care worker and Kya will graduate this year as a social worker. They have set up an international Facebook group for Chinese adoptees: The WAI Society. The World Adoptees Interpersonal Development Society focuses on personal development, root questions and the search for biological family. Because Sien was reunited with her biological family in 2015 and Kya is still busy with her search process, the two ladies can shed light on different phases with their experience.

In addition, Adoptiepedia was founded, initially only available on Instagram. Soon also as a foundation with a website. And indeed, think of Wikipedia, the free online encyclopedia, but then specifically for adoptees from China and with reliable information. "Because we are different from adoptees from other countries. And because we are different from other (read: non-adopted) Chinese in the Netherlands", says Nikwi Hoogland (25), one of the initiators. Together with Simone Hanssen (28) and Hong-Lin Stoffels (20), she created Adoptiepedia. The team has since been expanded with Yennah Schenk (20) and Miu Buenen (19). They hope to have the website up and running within six months. "At the moment it is still specifically focused on China, because of our backgrounds", says Nikwi. "Within a year we want to expand further and also serve other countries. Perhaps worldwide. The website is being worked on hard, that takes time. This is a voluntary initiative of Dutch Chinese adoptees. It has been developed with great care.”

 

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Letter to Parliament on parenting and adoption / Kamerbrief over ouderschap en adoptie | Kamerstuk | Rijksoverheid.nl

Minister Dekker informs the House of Representatives about the progress of the family law topics of parenthood and adoption and a number of legislative processes.