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Couples in live-in relations cannot adopt, says CARA

Indian family at outdoor. Rear view of parents and children walking on garden path. Exploring nature, leisure lifestyle.

Indian family at outdoor. Rear view of parents and children walking on garden path. Exploring nature, leisure lifestyle.

‘Cohabitation not considered a stable family in India’

The nodal body for adoption in the country has barred partners in live-in relationships from adopting a child on the ground that cohabitation without marriage is not considered a stable family in India.

The Central Adoption Resource Authority (CARA) permits a single woman to adopt a child of any gender, while single men can adopt only boys.

Prey children Investigation (CC BY-NC-ND): Olivier Bailly Illustrations (CC BY-NC-ND): Orfee Grandhomme

In 2012, the Wallonia-Brussels Federation entered into a partnership with the non-profit association Tumaini to organize the adoption of Congolese children. The outlook was promising. The fiasco is complete. Excessive fees, false documents, abuse, theft of children: this is the worst part of adoption.

" I am called Anna. It was written that I am 5 years old but it is not true. I am 4 years old and I was woken up. We got off the plane. A long clean hallway. This metallic gray airport with lots of white people. I have never seen so many. We are eleven children to have boarded the plane, to have left the Tumaini house, in Kinshasa. Without even saying goodbye to Uncle Kitambo.

We are then all gathered in a room, black children and white parents. There are games, presentations. A lady wears, like me, a flower on a sign attached around her neck. She talks to me. I do not understand. I'm playing. Then everyone leaves. Big whites with little blacks. The lady with the sign wants to go with me. I am the only one crying. So the big brother who had accompanied us so that we wouldn't be afraid of the plane said not to cry, he said that they would come and get me.

I believed him. For a week, every morning, I hit the lady. I got dressed, I put on my panties, my socks, my shoes, my pants, my T-shirt, my jacket. I tied my hair in a rubber band and put on my backpack. I positioned myself in front of the window. From the second floor of this lady's house, we could clearly see the crossroads. I waited. No one came to pick me up. It wasn't true.

When I could speak French. I told the lady. "You're not my mom. I have one in the village.” While painting my dolls, I told her about Gemena, my sisters, my parents. She said to me: “I think you are confusing my darling. She is a lady who behaved like a mother.” But it's not true. My parents live in Congo. My anger was to survive. She left. A little. With time. The lady became my adoptive mother.

Prey children

In 2012, the Wallonia-Brussels Federation entered into a partnership with the non-profit organization Tumaini to organize the adoption of Congolese children. The outlook was promising. The fiasco is complete. Excessive fees, false documents, abuse, theft of children: this is the worst part of adoption.

" I am called Anna. It was written that I am 5 years old but it is not true. I am 4 years old and I was woken up. We got off the plane. A long clean hallway. This metallic gray airport with lots of white people. I have never seen so many. We are eleven children to have boarded the plane, to have left the Tumaini house, in Kinshasa. Without even saying goodbye to Uncle Kitambo.

We are then all gathered in a room, black children and white parents. There are games, presentations. A lady wears, like me, a flower on a sign attached around her neck. She talks to me. I do not understand. I'm playing. Then everyone leaves. Big whites with little blacks. The lady with the sign wants to go with me. I am the only one crying. So the big brother who had accompanied us so that we wouldn't be afraid of the plane said not to cry, he said that they would come and get me.

I believed him. For a week, every morning, I hit the lady. I got dressed, I put on my panties, my socks, my shoes, my pants, my T-shirt, my jacket. I tied my hair in a rubber band and put on my backpack. I positioned myself in front of the window. From the second floor of this lady's house, we could clearly see the crossroads. I waited. No one came to pick me up. It wasn't true.

When I could speak French. I told the lady. "You're not my mom. I have one in the village.” While painting my dolls, I told her about Gemena, my sisters, my parents. She said to me: “I think you are confusing my darling. She is a lady who behaved like a mother.” But it's not true. My parents live in Congo. My anger was to survive. She left. A little. With time. The lady became my adoptive mother.

ACT to Commissioner Mimica

From: Arun Dohle [mailto:arundohle@gmail.com]

Sent: Dienstag, 12. Juni 2018 13:38

To: neven.mimica@ec.europa.eu

Subject: Urgent: "No Child Left Behind: Families not institutions - EU external action championing children's rights", co-organised by the European Commission and the NGO Lumos

Importance: High

Caroline blev født i Bangladesh: Måske ønskede mine forældre slet ikke at bortadoptere mig

Caroline was born in Bangladesh: Maybe my parents didn't want to adopt me at all

Caroline Amena Lauritsen

· Trained lawyer, lives in Odense and is 45 years old. Born in Bangladesh in 1973, but came to Denmark in 1975 through the adoptive agency Terre Des Hommes, who in 1999 stopped communicating adoptions. In her adoption papers, she says she is a founding child, but in the autumn of last year she was presented with new information that may indicate that her biological parents may have been deprived of her.

Caroline Amena Lauritsen, according to her adoption paper, is a founding child, but has recently found signs that she may have been adopted to the will of her parents. The case is the latest in a number of adoptions that have proved not to be after the book. The issues raise major existential issues among the adult adoptive children

A state of shock, but also curiosity. This is how Caroline Amena Lauritsen describes the feeling she got in the body when she found out in the autumn of 2017 that she might not, as hitherto, be a so-called heat child - a child whose biological parents are unknown - but can instead be included in an illegal adoption.

Invitation - Participation is by invitation only.

________________________________________

From: NEAR B1

Sent: 05 June 2018 13:23

To: ABDO Iba (NEAR); ABRAHAM Iris (NEAR); ATHLIN Joanna (NEAR); BAX Katelijne (NEAR); BELLEUDY Jeremie (NEAR); BENTEBBOUCHE Sabrina (NEAR); BESSONNE Fabienne (NEAR); COMBES Isabelle (NEAR); COMO Odoardo (NEAR); DE SADELEER Katja (NEAR); DREYFUSS--RUSNAC Helene (NEAR-EXT); DUCROUX Gaetan (NEAR); FERNANDEZ Raul (NEAR); GISKE Nadia (NEAR); INGELS Christophe (NEAR); KARKUTLI Nadim (NEAR); KEULEN Danielle (NEAR); KRAUSE Gerhard (NEAR); MARQUES DE ATHAYDE Angela (NEAR); MASCAGNA Laura (NEAR); MESSENS Vanessa (NEAR); MILLER Michael (NEAR); ORRU Silvia (NEAR); PALLOTTO Paola (NEAR); PESSINA Francesca (NEAR); PIERRARD - BOUTON Christine (NEAR); POELEMANS Inge (NEAR); SAINTIGNY Clara (NEAR-EXT); SAMYN Cindy (NEAR); SERRANO SANCHEZ Patricia (NEAR); STEMBERGER Anton (NEAR); THILL Marc (NEAR)

Subject: FW: LUMOS FOUNDATION invitation

New York power couple joins UNICEF to raise nearly $1 million at Project Lion fundraiser to support children in India

NEW YORK –Indian-American couple Purvi Padia, an interior designer, and Harsh Padia, a hedge-fund manager, in conjunction with UNICEF USA, hosted the launch of Project Lion at The High Line Hotel May 30, kicking off a new project to support children in residential institutions across India. The event raised more than $850,000 for UNICEF’s work to put children first, according to a press release from UNICEF USA.

Emceed by Museum of Ice Cream Co-Founder Manish Vora, the program included remarks from UNICEF Next Generation founding member Jenna Bush Hager, the daughter of former U.S. President George W. Bush; actress Sienna Miller; CEO and President of UNICEF USA Caryl Stern, as well as performances by Arya Dance Academy. The host committee included Miller along with Sonia Kapadia, Samir Patel and Emily Stackman.

Inspired by the true story of Saroo Brierley captured in the film Lion, Project Lion started with a generous seed grant from Purvi and Harsh Padia to UNICEF. The amount given by the Padias was not disclosed in the press release.

“Project Lion is created to serve the orphaned or displaced children of India. Right now, there is 1.5 million displaced children in India and the first phase of Project Lion which will be three years long will serve the first 200 thousand of them,” Purvi Padia is quoted saying in the press release. “But in addition to that it will really put programs in place so going forward children who find themselves in situations without families have proper rules, proper procedures so they can really thrive,” Purvi Padia added.

Project Lion is a UNICEF child protection program that aims to support more than 200,000 children without family care living in residential institutions across eight states of India.