Children are the pleasure and pride for parents and future of our society and country

By Alok Gupta, Honorary Secretary, Bapuji Children’s Home

Sometimes children lose the protection of their parents because of their demise or other unavoidable circumstances. Such children become homeless and then the State becomes their guardian.

To look after such children, Government runs Homes for them under their direct control and also through recognised NGOs under their supervision. Government appoints prominent social workers to form Child Welfare Committees (CWC) in each district to take urgent decisions in cases of such children, who are in need of protection and care. CWC, a quasi-judicial body, carries out this job with the assistance of District Child Protection Officers (DCPO) and Special Juvenile Police Unit (SJPU).

Homes for the children provide food, clothing, medical care, shelter, education, vocational training, counselling and other inputs for overall development of the children till they attain age of 18 years. Examples of such Government-run Homes in Mysuru are Government Girls Home on Lalitha Mahal Road and Government Boys Home in Vijayanagar 4th Stage. Both these Homes take care of children between the ages of 6 and 18 years.

Among the submissions made before the court were photographs of their children. The sessions court, while granting bail, stated that the photographs show that they had “no malafide intention of trafficking the children”, and that their intention was to adopt them.

WEEKS AFTER they were rescued by the Mumbai Police Crime Branch in an alleged interstate child-selling racket, six children between the ages of 18 months to seven years face an uncertain future, with officers saying they can neither be allowed to go back to the care of their biological parents who allegedly sold them nor returned to those who allegedly purchased them.

Since July, the six children have been put up at Bal Anand, a specialised adoption agency at Chembur as per the orders of the Mumbai Children Welfare Committee (CWC). The authorities have not ruled out giving them for adoption. But what is complicating the decision is that those who allegedly bought the children were treating them well and bringing them up like their own.

In some cases, the children had spent years with their new “parents”. The oldest child, a seven-year-old boy, had been living with the family from whom he was rescued for more than three years. While the police are yet to decide whether to name the biological parents as accused, some “adoptive” parents, who were arrested and released on bail, have approached the CWC for custody of their children, even temporarily, till a decision is taken on their fate.

“I had enrolled my child in one of the most prestigious playschool chains. He was in the middle of a vaccination cycle. When he was taken away from us, we were not even asked whether he has any medical needs or allergies. We were arrested and released on bail… we will be punished as per law. But right now, the children are suffering as their normal lives have been disrupted,” said a parent.

In the last nine years, 20 Nepali children have been taken to six countries for adop­tion, according to government records. However, statistics from those six nations show that 157 Nepali children have been adopted by their citi­zens. Where have the other 137 gone? This means that Nepali kids are being smug­gled out of the country.

The government has been sending children to 18 nations for adoption. Six among them—Denmark, France, Norway, Canada, Switzerland and the US—submit the list of Nepali kids adopted by their citizens to the Hague Confer­ence on Private International Law (HCCH). The data they have submitted reveal that 157 Nepali children have entered those nations as foster kids since 2010.

According to the Nepal gov­ernment data, 82 children have been sent to the other 12 countries for adoption since 2010. But since this number cannot be independently ver­ified, it is unclear how many Nepali children have actually been taken out of the country.

How did they go abroad?

Before 2010, adoption rules and procedures were not as stringent as they are now. But now that the government has tightened the rules, an increasing number of Nepali children are being smuggled out of the country. The then Ministry of Women, Children and Social Welfare formed a separate committee to man­age and implement the proce­dures for sending Nepali kids for adoption abroad. In 2009, Nepal also signed the Hague Convention on the Protection of Children and Co-operation in Respect of Intercountry Adoption.

Head of Bal Mandir, nation’s oldest non-profit for children, arrested on charges of child trafficking

The director of the organisation has been accused of abetting a British national in unlawfully procuring a Nepali child and assisting in obtaining fraudulent documents to claim the baby.

Head of Bal Mandir, nation’s oldest non-profit for children, arrested on charges of child trafficking

Tsering D Gurung

Published at : August 15, 2019 Updated at : August 15, 2019 17:53 Kathmandu

Raksha Bandhan 2019: "When you adopt older kids, you need to keep in mind that they remember their past. My daughter was three years old when she came to us. Every time we went back for court hearings and she saw her previous caretaker, she would get frightened."

Raksha Bandhan 2019: Sheik Jenia, a mother from Delhi, adopted a girl child last year after having two biological sons. The mother told Express Parenting about how she adopted her daughter, who now listens to her elder brother more than her mother. Here’s her story, in her words:

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‘I wanted a girl. That’s when adoption came to my mind’

I have two boys and one girl. My boys, eight and six, are my biological kids. My husband and I wanted a girl. When I had my first child, I had no expectations with regard to gender and just wished for a healthy baby. When we planned our second baby, we hoped for a girl. And I gave birth to a boy. I remember telling my doctor in the operation theatre, ‘I will come back again.’

The family, which also includes the girl’s two elder brothers, has been living for years at Manakad at a shed-like house on a Puramboke land.

KOZHIKODE: Emotions flow unabatedly at the time of a crisis like landslides and flood being witnessed by the state for the second consecutive year, but the persons demonstrating such feelings don’t necessarily follow guidelines and they ignore the problem their offers would create.

A 12-year-old girl, who lost her father recently, is the centre of discussion now going viral on social media. A number of Keralites across the globe wanted to adopt her.

The discussion is taking place with all details of the girl, including her picture, following which the Kerala State Commission for Protection of Child Rights (SCPCR) has raised the alarm over the auction-like offers for the minor. Originally from Karnataka, the girl’s father Raju, a street performer, collapsed and died at the flood relief camp at Manakad UP School, Mavoor here, on August 11.

The family, which also includes the girl’s two elder brothers, has been living for years at Manakad at a shed-like house on a Puramboke land. Their house was washed away in flood. The girl’s mother had deserted them years back.

CEO of Adopt Change Renee Carter joins Jon Faine and co-host Sally Warhaft for Known Unknowns, to talk about adoption.

Last year there were 22 adoptions in Victoria and 330 adoptions in Australia.

"There has been a massive decline," Ms Carter said.

"Some of it is good reason, but a lot of it is to do with our heritage of adoption in Australia. We used to do adoption very badly."

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The director of the organisation has been accused of abetting a British national in unlawfully procuring a Nepali child and assisting in obtaining fraudulent documents to claim the baby.

Dangol was detained by police on Wednesday morning from outside his office for his alleged role in abetting a British national in unlawfully procuring a Nepali child and assisting her in obtaining fraudulent documents to claim the baby as her own.

The British national, Dina Smith, was detained by immigration officials at Tribhuvan International Airport last week when she tried to leave the country with the infant.

Smith had arrived in the country on July 26 and claimed she had given birth to a baby, who was born on July 28. She attempted to fly out on August 7, a little over a week after the baby was born.

Initially, she told officials she had given birth to the baby herself in Kathmandu. But after tests at the Maternity Hospital proved otherwise, she confessed that she had received help from Dangol in obtaining the infant. Smith told officials that Dangol had found the baby at an abortion clinic and helped her obtain fraudulent documents, which included a birth registration certificate naming her as the mother.

Fifteen years ago, Bernie and Debbie Penkin adopted two older children from Liberia. Their story bears similarities to many other adoption narratives, but with a few significant differences.

The Penkins, who live in Washington state, began to think about adopting from Liberia after talking with some Liberian friends.

They were interested in adopting older children because, as Bernie Penkin explains, “Once the cute washes off a baby, they are very hard to adopt. And these kids need love just as much as a baby does, if not more.”

After about a year of communicating back and forth with the Penkins, a girl named Rita, age 13, and a boy named Misha, 9, boarded an airplane bound for America to begin a new life with people they barely knew.

“I was really excited to know that I was coming to the states, but I was also nervous because I was leaving behind everything I had ever known,” Rita Penkin Palmquist, now 28, says during a phone interview.

n July and August, editor-in-chief Jozefien Daelemans and Editor-in-Chief Anouk Torbeyns alternate weekly in a new series of summer columns. This week: Anouk who wants to reflect on her first mom on this second Mother's Day. Photo: Sarah Van Looy

Today the mothers are celebrated in the province, more specifically in the diocese, Antwerp. While we always look at the people of Antwerp with a crooked eye because they can't just do 'normal' and celebrate Mother's Day in May like all the rest, a Mother's Day on Our Lady of Ascension actually seems more logical. People then commemorate and celebrate Mary, the primeval mother – at least in Catholic culture – the mother of mothers.

As an Antwerp immigrant with a mother who does not live on the territory, I still celebrated Mother's Day in May in recent years and I did nothing special on August 15. I want to change that starting this year. I want to use this second Mother's Day to honor my first, popularly called 'organic', mother. Because no matter how unconditional the care and love of my adoptive mom is, my first mother never really got a prominent place in my personal adoption story. Wrongly, I now know.

“My first mother never really got a prominent place in my adoption story. Wrongly, I now know.”

When I look back on it now, I was taught from an early age to subtly distance myself from my birth mother because, for whatever reason, she gave me up too. Not entirely illogical, of course. With an adoption, your environment tries to do everything possible so that you attach yourself to your new environment and family as quickly as possible. Everyone has done their best to create a warm nest, to receive me with open arms and to make me feel at home, blood ties or not. I don't suspect anyone of bad intentions. Today, however, I dare to doubt whether it was the best approach.