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In December 1989, I was busy making dinner when I heard on the news that the small country of Romania had reportedly just had an uprising. Many people had been shot and there was an information blackout.

I felt sorry for this little country, even though I didn’t know anyone there personally. It seemed a little strange to me that I would feel something almost personal about this news blurb since I had heard many similar newscasts in the past about other countries.

The Waiting Game : Hundreds of Americans Anxious About Adopting Romanian Orphans

The Waiting Game :  Hundreds of Americans Anxious About Adopting Romanian Orphans

August 16, 1990|SUSAN CHRISTIAN | TIMES STAFF WRITER

Carol Mardock's list of contacts grows, almost by the day. A new name at the U.S. Department of State. A name at the U.S. Embassy in Romania. A name at a Romanian church in Orange County. A name of another international adoption agency. A name of another adoption attorney.

But somehow the list is never long enough, and the contacts--thus far--never powerful enough.

On a hot August day, the Chino Hills housewife lounged by the pool at a friend's home, watching three of her five children splash about. She was half a world away from the still faceless, still elusive child she fervently wants to make her sixth.


"You worry: What if you spend $1,200 on a home study (for an adoption)? What if you get all of the paper work done, everything seems to be in order, you buy two round-trip tickets to Romania--then you get over there, and for some reason they won't let you bring back a child?" fretted Mardock. "It's so frustrating. Nothing is certain."

Carol and Bob Mardock, a pastor at Brea-Olinda Friends Church, are among hundreds of American couples who long to adopt a Romanian orphan.

They have read the tragic stories, they have seen the heartbreaking news footage. Many have been trying to adopt for years--no easy feat, regardless of the child's nationality. And now their passion has been fired by additional incentive: They want to rescue one of Romania's forsaken children.

About 100,000 children and adolescents live in Romanian institutions that provide minimal care--physically, nutritionally and emotionally.

Their plight is largely due to the harsh 25-year regime of Nicolae Ceausescu. In an effort to increase the Romanian population, he heavily fined couples who produced fewer than five children. The dictator, executed after last December's revolution, also made birth control virtually unavailable.

As a result, many people in the impoverished country--where even such basic necessities as food staples and soap are scarce--have relinquished unaffordable children to the state's care.

Although French citizens have been adopting Romanian children for years, it wasn't until Ceausescu's fall that Americans en masse learned of the myriad orphans.

"Since January, we have received as many as 400 calls a week regarding Romanian orphans," said State Department spokesman Charles S. Smith.

But, despite the multitude of children who need parents--and the multitude of Americans clamoring to fill that role for them--adoption is not so simple as jetting to Romania and plucking a child from his bleak surroundings.

On June 11, the new Romanian government temporarily froze all international adoptions to reorganize the procedure. The freeze recently was lifted, but success stories remain few and far between. Only about 35 American families have managed to adopt Romanian children since the revolution, Smith said.

"In a country run by a Communist government for so many years, of course there is a lot of red tape," said Downey lawyer Alexandru Cristea, a native of Romania who has been providing adoption information from the International Institute of Los Angeles over the last few months. While the revised law--which transfers approval of adoptions from the presidential office to district courts--eventually could prove more expedient, Smith warned that its benefits may be slow in coming.

Muslims at the Cape want to Romanian orphans provide a better future

DER SPIEGEL 27/1990 of 02.07.1990, page 142

South Africa 

Completely pollute

Muslims at the Cape want to Romanian orphans provide a better future. But the apartheid stands in your way.
The benefactor of the poor, "says the bearded man behind the counter sales of the apparel business," came 500 years into the sky rather than selfish rich. "Mahomed Yusuf Hassim, 52, a strictly devout Muslim who cares so more needy than the future of the small shop on the outskirts of Pretoria, to be from India übergesiedelter grandfather opened 1910.
The pious merchant advocates clemency for death row, or donate money for burial, when in the neighboring township of a black family no decent funeral for a deceased relatives can afford. His love so far as he felt "somewhat apolitical."
Hassims latest project, however, has for Eddy ensured throughout the country and the government of South Africa fallen into a deep embarrassment. On television, he had pictures of the catastrophic conditions in the orphanages of Romania saw and immediately decided to provide legal redress. "My heart was bleeding," says the Muslim, "because I had no choice."
Together with some friends he organized flights initially for 500 children, with adoptive parents in South Africa a better life should be. But the project has doubled in the pitfalls of South African racial laws verheddert. Because Hassim, have become willing to 2000 adoption parents reported that, like the couple and Kulsum Ismail Latief from Cape Town, for the small Ceausescu want to make victims, including many South Africans of Indian descent, but also black and white citizens.
Under the current adoption law, the Child Care Act of 1983, however, parents can only children absorb the same race - white on white, black to black, Indian to Indian. Also belonging to the same religion and culture is an important prerequisite for an adoption. The question of whether Hassim Romanian children in color or black families can bring this divided country and became a test case for reforming the current mood of the government.
A lady Scottish / British ancestry 'disgusted about that in a letter to the Cape Town Argus, that many adoption candidates "are colored or Indian." Of course, those addicted parents, because: "It is a universal truth that we are better with our own kind of things."
As a "ludicrous" and "irresponsible" attack even child carers Hassims plan. "The Orphans", fearing adoption expert in Johannesburg, but AIDS can be infected. " Romania, which everyone knows, is "completely contaminated." Like hardly any other law, the adoption of rules, the absurdity of the apartheid state: children of mixed couples, which made up for adoption, often racially must be reclassified before they can find suitable parents. If a child is even a white parent, is his first appearance by the officials of the social authorities.
Consequently, in South Africa are almost exclusively white children adopted by white families. The large number of black orphans under the law shall no parents, even though white couples would be perfectly willing to accept them.
Even the maintenance rates for orphans are graded according to skin color. Foster parents of white children receive 153 rand (about 100 marks), for Indian children or colored edge 123, for only 70 black rim. The risk of black infants in the first six months of birth to die is six times as high as among white babies.
"Mischievous" cites Noel Zaal, Professor of Private Law, in Durban, the adoption of rules of apartheid - if only because the interests of the child contrary to international practice hintanstehen need. "Unfortunately," says the lawyer, "this law is forcing the parents, also abroad after adoptive babies around."
After some hesitation - in order to avoid conflicts, officials had considered the Romanian children from the beginning of a particular racial assigned - the government now, they measure than whites. All adoption applicants are not white, therefore, have only one chance, if they succeed, the young Romanians later for color or black declare it.
Theoretically this is possible. Every year in South Africa officially, several hundred people and Chinese mestizos, Indians, Blacks or Whites reclassified. The state, however, it did not like, if fair-skinned people "down" can. Most ask for color and black color white to be explained what the authorities sometimes mercifully grant.
In the coming year should also be reformed adoption law, promises trouble in the government. Until then she wants to delay the arrival of the children. A spokesman said that officially had no Hassim of adoption applications received.
The turn is waiting by the authorities of the exact conditions to know for the adoption to families wanting to be able to demand information. "This barbaric act," urged Hassim, "must be lifted immediately." f

ESCROQUERIE A L'ADOPTION D'ENFANTS ROUMAINS A PONT-A-CELLES

ESCROQUERIE A L'ADOPTION D'ENFANTS ROUMAINS A PONT-A-CELLES

MEGETTO,FRANCO

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Vendredi 15 juin 1990

Escroquerie à l'adoption d'enfants roumains

Inzagerecht (geen anonieme donoren)

De Telegraaf

04-04-1990

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Road to Foreign Adoptions Gets Rockier

Road to Foreign Adoptions Gets Rockier

Tighter regulations, rising costs, and changing attitudes increase hurdles for those seeking children from other lands. FAMILY

By Bart Eisenberg, Special to The Christian Science Monitor FEBRUARY 28, 1990

SAN FRANCISCO — SINCE World War II, many Americans and Europeans have looked abroad in their quest to adopt children. But while the practice remains a highly rewarding way to build a family, the source countries are shifting, regulations are tightening, and costs are escalating. The biggest factor is a changing attitude in South Korea, which has provided more than half the foreign children adopted by United States families. That country is gradually reducing foreign adoptions with the intent of bringing the rate to near zero (see chart). Reasons include a declining birthrate, increasing affluence, and a growing acceptance of adoption within the country.

``It's been a long time coming,'' says Susan Cox, director of development and public relations for Holt International in Eugene, Ore., the agency that pioneered Korean adoptions. ``Some agencies have ignored this all-too-apparent trend and made promises to clients that they couldn't keep. Now, they are facing a cold reality. But Koreans have nothing to be apologetic for. They've done a tremendous job of trying to ensure that every child has a family. In emphasizing national adoptions, they're on the threshold of a new era.''

Roemeense weeskinderen vinden tehuis in Israel

Nieuw Israelietisch weekblad

26-01-1990

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Pure ellende in Roemeense kindertehuizen/Pure misery in Romanian children's homes

Pure ellende in Roemeense kindertehuizen Door Carine Neefjes correspondent in Den Haag

De zeven dagen die Zef Hendriks in Roemenië doorbracht, vormen voor hem de meest bewogen week van zn leven. De directeur van de Nederlandse adoptie-organisatie Wereldkinderen bezocht er tehuizen waar kleine kinderen wonen. „Ik heb nog nooit zo iets treurigs gezien. Magere, ongezonde kindertjes die nauwelijks speelgoed hebben. Alleen een geel, plastic eendje, dat boven de gammele bedjes hangt. Als het kind zn armpjes uitstrekt, kan het met het beestje spelen".

Hendriks is geschrokken van de situatie in Roemenië. Toen hij vorige week vertrok, was hij tamelijk onverschillig. Gewoon een zakenreisje, dacht hij. Even kijken of Nederlanders ook Roemeentjes kunnen adopteren.

Zo veel ellende bij elkaar, had Hendriks niet verwacht. „Ik ben in vier kindertehuizen in Boekarest geweest. Vreselijk. Kinderen liggen in ijzeren, gespijlde bedden. Het lijkt net alsof ze achter tralies zitten. Matrassen zijn kapot, dekens en lakens zitten vol gaten. Overal ruikt het naar urine. De luiers zijn flinterdun en nemen het vocht niet op. En er is geen zuster die het kind kan verschonen".

„Het ergste is dat kinderen niet kunnen spelen. En dat is juist zo belangrijk voor een kind. Als het niet speelt, zal het later nooit goed terechtkomen. Een kind heeft stimulans nodig. Vergelijk de situatie met een jongere die niet naar school gaat, of een volwassene die nooit werkt: die belanden vroeg of laat ook in de goot".

Romania Stops Overseas Adoption Of Its Orphans

Romania Stops Overseas Adoption Of Its Orphans

Sydney Morning Herald

Thursday January 11, 1990

CANBERRA: Romania has ruled out further adoptions of orphans overseas, dashing the hopes of Australian couples wanting to adopt Romanian children.

An Australian Immigration Department official visiting Bucharest had reported that Romania viewed the suggestion of foreign adoptions as"distasteful", the Acting Minister for Immigration, Mr West, said in a statement.

NOS NEUF PETITS ROUMAINS DOIVENT ARRIVER CE SOIR (Belgium)

NOS NEUF PETITS ROUMAINS DOIVENT ARRIVER CE SOIR

CLAEYS,JANINE

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Mercredi 10 janvier 1990

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