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UAE woman helps expats adopt children

UAE woman helps expats adopt children

For Menon, who is a mother of two with four grandchildren, each of the 1,600-plus stories is a silent feat in itself

By Sharmila Dhal, Senior Reporter Published: 00:00 May 13, 2010Reader comments (0)

Omana Menon says a single home study report can take at least 15 days to complete and involves a lot of paperwork Image Credit: Xpress/ Abdel-Krim Kallouche

Dubai: Omana Menon still recalls the first couple who approached her in 1986. They needed her help in adopting a child.

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Orphanage preparing for influx of children

Orphanage preparing for influx of children

12 May 2010 by Tamara Neely - Staff Reporter No Comments 127 views

A Haitian orphanage founded by an Okotoks charity is pushing to construct a new building to accommodate the pending influx of children left homeless by the earthquake that devastated the island in January.

God’s Littlest Angels vice-president Jeff Ryan estimated there are approximately 500,000 orphans currently living in the tent city being managed by the Red Cross. It takes time to determine whether a child has any living relatives, he said.

There are two fundraisers taking place this month to help generate funds needed to expand the existing orphanage sitting on 4.8 acres of land purchased in 2006.

The orphanage directors had been fundraising for the new building prior to the devastating earthquake on Jan. 12. After the earthquake their daily operating costs skyrocketed, including food and water. They also took on the burial and funeral costs for staff and even members of the community. Every one of the 172 orphans and all staff at the facility survived the earthquake, however, staff in their homes perished and others lost family members.

“We didn’t have enough money for our everyday needs, so we put the building on hold,” said Ryan. “You can’t take money from the building fund to buy groceries, but we decided that we need to build this new orphanage and build it quickly while looking after everyday needs.”

Every child who was at the orphanage prior to the earthquake has since been adopted and delivered to their new families in Canada, Belgium, France and the Netherlands.

Now the staff is caring for 69 children from another orphanage destroyed by the earthquake and 11 children who were dropped off.

“Kids are coming all the time,” said Ryan. “We are finding out if there are no living relatives, then we take them in. We’re preparing for an influx of kids.”

Many of the children are suffering malnourishment, in addition to suffering from a lack of human touch and care.

“We took in a boy last week who is a year old and he was five pounds,” said Ryan. “I thought there was a mistake. I thought it was 15 pounds. But he was five pounds. He didn’t have enough strength to eat.”

Four containers of essential goods, including food, tents and medical supplies, were finally released by the Haitian government. After taking four weeks to arrive from Canada the government held onto the containers for another three weeks according to Ryan.

Ryan said the donated tarps, medical supplies, rice and beans will help the whole mountain community where the orphanage is situated, not just the 80 orphans.

“The orphanage is in Peition Ville in the mountains and we’re not getting any aid from Red Cross ourselves, we are the aid,” said Ryan. “So not only is the stuff we’re bringing in the containers for the orphanage, it’s also for the whole community. It’s bad enough that we had the earthquake, but it’s hurricane season next.”

Residents of Okotoks and other foothills communities can help God’s Littlest Angels by supporting the orphanage’s fundraising events this month.

The Deb Grey Ride of Hope for Haiti takes place on Saturday, May 15. The convoy of motorcycles will leave Okotoks at 9:30 a.m. and arrive in Sylvan Lake for lunch at 1 p.m. Entry is $25 and riders are asked to collect $100 in donations.

A fundraiser featuring music by Nashville band High Valley and live and silent auctions takes place in Cochrane on May 28 at 6:30 p.m. Tickets are $10.

Children have right to live within family - minister

Children have right to live within family - minister

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Children who had no hope of ever being reunited with their natural parents should be given up for adoption because they had the sacrosanct right to live within a family, Family Minister Dolores Cristina said yesterday.

Ms Cristina said she wanted to see the courts exercise more often their right to remove parental rights and give the children up for adoption.

“I would like to see this happening more because I believe that children have the right to live in a family and we have many families who would like to adopt,” she said.

In a report published on Tuesday, outgoing Children’s Commissioner Carmen Zammit said incompetent mothers and fathers who refused to reform should have their parental rights permanently removed.

She echoed the words of the former CEO of the Foundation for Social Welfare Services, Joe Gerada, who, in October 2008, insisted that failed parents should be forced to give their children up for adoption rather than condemn them to an institute for years.

Mrs Cristina said the law allowed for children to be permanently taken from their parents and given up for adoption. “Children should have the sacrosanct right to live within a family,” she insisted.

Ms Cristina said that, although fostering was a very good alternative to a natural family, there should also be other alternatives to children who spent many years living in an institution, never knowing what it meant to live in a family.

Time is also of the essence when taking such decisions. “I am not a social worker, a psychologist or an expert on children but they say that, even at a young age, by the time they are a year or 18 months, children would already have felt the absence of living in a family,” Mrs Cristina said.

http://www.timesofmalta.com/articles/view/20100513/local/children-have-right-to-live-within-family-minister

 

Our Stories :: The Journey from Doctor to Parent

Our Stories :: The Journey from Doctor to Parent

As written by Dr. Jane Aronson for American Infertility Association

November 13, 2000

People congratulate me daily and ask me how my life has changed since Ben came into my life. Obviously my life has changed in a myriad of ways concretely. I am tired and a bit thin and pale. How could I get any thinner? Anyway, it isn't easy being a "Mama" to an infant, at my age, but I am having a lot of fun. Every morning, I am up at 6 a.m. with a boy who is talking and happy; he smiles at me as I pick him up to change him. He gets his morning "bottie" in bed with my partner and me. We listen intently to his gentle, rhythmic sucking sounds; we are heavy with exhaustion, but we sigh and exalt in his happiness.

It is still hard to believe that I really have a son. When someone asks me "How is your son, Dr. Aronson?" I hear the words, but it is so difficult for me to take these words in and believe them. I answer quickly and briefly, thinking that maybe, I don't have a son; maybe if I answer, I will hear myself and realize it isn't true. I dreamed of a boy for 25 years and at 49 years of age the dream is real and I feel at peace; my life has fallen into place. I was sad, wanting, and longing all these years and this dear, sweet person, Benjamin, named by my partner, Diana, has smoothed out my edges, put my life into perspective, given me the balance I needed. His little handsome face fills my vision all day; I race home to him and yearn for the smell of formula on his breath and a chance to see his eyes become little slits and his lips open just a little with that sound he makes when he is happy. "haah". I long for him to suck on my nose.he is teething miserably.

Tics common in orphanages, disappear in foster care

Tics common in orphanages, disappear in foster care

EthiopianReview.com | May 13th, 2010 at 8:04 am

The earlier the children were removed from the orphanage and the longer they lived with their foster family, the larger the reduction in tics. Such tics are common in children with autism, but it is unclear whether they are related to brain damage, the authors note.

“These results underscore the need for early placement in home-based care for abandoned children,” they write in the May issue of Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine.

Dr. Charles Nelson, of Children’s Hospital in Boston, and colleagues turned to data from the Bucharest Early Intervention Project, a study conducted at the invitation of the Romanian government by American investigators of 187 current and formerly institutionalized children.

The experts call that children adopted abroad to maintain contact with his biological family

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The experts call that children adopted abroad to maintain contact with his biological family

Spain has nearly 50,000 adopted children, many of which upon reaching adulthood are also beginning to wonder about its origins | There are 13 million orphans of father and mother, but 95% had more than five years | "Do not seek children for adoptive families but families for children "

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Adoption Medicine Brings New Parents Answers and Advice

Our Stories :: In the News :: "Adoption Medicine Brings New Parents Answers and Advice", from the New York Times (Health & Fitness)

September 4, 2001

By David Tuller

Ann and Stanley Reese were thrilled last summer when they adopted two toddlers from Romania, Ileana and Tratan, and brought them home to Rye, N.Y. But two days later, Ms. Reese noticed that Ileana was limping badly and took her to the emergency room.

The doctors determined that Ileana had broken her ankle in two places. Then they delivered the really bad news: she had an advanced case of osteoporosis, a bone-thinning condition that primarily affects older people. Unnerved, Ms. Reese called Dr. Jane Aronson, a New York City pediatrician who is an expert on the health problems of children adopted from abroad.

Romanian adoptees struggle to adapt

Romanian adoptees struggle to adapt

By Kate McGeown

BBC News

In the third of a series of articles on Romanian orphans, Kate McGeown finds out what happened to the lucky few who were adopted abroad.

Lex feels completely English, although he was born in Romania

The Infinite Mind: Attachment

The Infinite Mind: Attachment

Week of January 2, 2002

It's human to connect. Without the opportunity for consistent relationships early in life, though, development founders. This show explores attachment disorder and attachment problems that affect children who have been abused and neglected. Guests include psychiatrist Dr. Charles Zeanah, clinical psychologist Robert Karen, Thais Tepper, the founder of the Network for the Post-Institutionalized Child, and Joyce Peters, the adoptive mother of a child with attachment disorder.

Host Dr. Fred Goodwin begins the show by noting that attachment disorder is a relatively new term that was absent from psychiatric textbooks as little as five years ago. Since then, an increase in adoptions from Eastern Europe, Russia and China and a new appreciation for the importance of environment in shaping children have brought attachment problems to the fore. Dr. Goodwin notes that the term attachment disorder is reserved for children who are so damaged by abuse and neglect they don't bond with caretakers and wreak havoc on everyone around them. Many of them, Dr. Goodwin points out, make remarkable recoveries.

Joyce Peters then discusses her daughter, Elizabeth, who was abandoned by her birth mother at the age of four. After that, Elizabeth was moved from 10 foster homes until, at the age of 8½, she was adopted by Peters. Elizabeth had tantrums, stole, lied, played with fire and rebuffed contact with Peters. Eventually, a doctor diagnosed Elizabeth with attachment disorder. She has since received therapy. Peters recounts her daughter's progress and says, since Elizabeth can now talk about her traumatic past, says she's confident Elizabeth will make it. You can e-mail Joyce Peters at joy2522@aol.com.