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Have mercy on a father, Madge

Have mercy on a father, Madge

 

Aug 8, 2010 12:00 AM | By BONGANI MTHETHWA 

Malawian dad of Madonna's adopted child wants to see her


SAVING UP: James Kambewa hopes to get enough money to visit his daughter in London Picture: JACKIE CLAUSEN
SAVING UP: James Kambewa hopes to get enough money to visit his daughter in London Picture: JACKIE CLAUSEN
quote 'I think about her every day. Having a baby is a blessing. So I go through the emotional pain of not living with her every day' quote

The Malawian father of pop star Madonna's adopted daughter is waiting tables in Durban to save up for a flight to London to see his only child.

If James Kambewa makes it that far, it will be the first time he sets eyes on the five-year-old since her controversial adoption by Madonna about a year ago.

Kambewa moved to South Africa from his home town of Kasungu last September, missing a rare chance to see Mercy in the flesh when the 52-year-old singer and her daughter visited Malawi in April to set up a £10-million academy for girls.

In an interview with the Sunday Times this week, an emotional Kambewa recalled his heartbreak at never having met "my baby".

"As a father, I think about her every day. Having a baby is a blessing. So I go through the emotional pain of not living with her every day," he said.

But the shy 26-year-old, who has accepted he will never gain custody of his daughter, admitted he had no idea how to go about securing a meeting with Madonna and his child.

"I would like to make peace with Madonna so I can meet my baby," he said.

"I need someone to advise on me how to go about doing that. From the time I learnt that my daughter was still alive, I've been longing for a chance to meet her."

He said he had initially opposed his daughter's adoption by the singer because he wanted her to grow up as a Malawian and be raised according to his own culture.

"Sadly, she can't learn any of that now, but I would still like her to be raised in a good way that any child is supposed to be raised," he said.

Kambewa has only seen his daughter on TV and in newspapers. He does, however, have six pictures of her taken when she was three, sent to him by a friend. He would not elaborate on how his friend had obtained those photos.

Mercy's mum, who was 14 when she fell pregnant, died while giving birth to her, and Kambewa said he believed that his daughter had died with her.

He said he discovered later, through a friend, that Mercy was alive and at an orphanage.

He declined to talk about circumstances around the discovery of his child, except to say: "It's a very long story and I don't want to talk about that."

Relatives of Mercy's mother, who were angered that Kambewa had shirked his responsibility as a father, reportedly backed Madonna's adoption bid.

Kambewa had tried unsuccessfully to convince the Malawian authorities that he was the biological father of the child.

Despite having offered to go for a DNA test to prove paternity, as well as his willingness to appear in court, his efforts were fruitless.

Madonna had met Mercy at a Malawi orphanage in 2006 - the same year she adopted another Malawian child, David Banda, from another orphanage.

Malawian law prohibits foreigners from adopting unless they have been resident in the country for at least 18 months. However, the country's supreme court overturned a lower court ruling barring Madonna from adopting Mercy and decided that the singer's charity work in the country made her worthy of adopting a child from there without being a permanent resident.

Madonna's charity, Raising Malawi, helps feed, educate and provide healthcare for more than a million orphans.

But human rights groups accused the government of giving the singer special treatment and said the case would encourage foreigners to adopt Malawian children at will.

"I would appreciate if Madonna could even send me pictures of how she looks like now as I don't get any pleasure of being with her. It's emotionally painful for me as a father," he said.

"I'm very happy that Madonna is taking care of her. But as a parent, from the moment I heard that she was still alive, I wanted to meet with her and I'm hopeful that I'll meet her one day."

Formulate law on inter-country adoptions: SC

Formulate law on inter-country adoptions: SC

First Published : 08 Aug 2010 11:30:28 AM IST
Last Updated : 08 Aug 2010 11:41:06 AM IST
 
NEW DELHI: Expressing apprehension that Indian children adopted by foreign nationals could be exploited, the Supreme Court has asked the Government to consider formulation of a suitable law to regulate inter-country adoptions.
A bench of Justices Markandeya Katju and T S Thakur observed that presently there is no legislation in the country on such adoptions as a result of which Indian children adopted by foreign parents are vulnerable to exploitation.
The bench passed the direction while appointing Solicitor General Gopal Subramanium as amicus curiae (special counsel) to assist the court on the tricky issue while dealing with the special leave petition filed by a cerebral palsy-afflicted American and his wife who wanted to adopt a mentally challenged 11-year old boy.
"Why should we interfere with the concurrent findings of the District Judge and the Delhi High Court that the child could be exploited. The question is once the child is taken out of the country, the jurisdiction of Indian courts ends.
(Then) What will be the fate of the child," the bench asked a senior counsel appearing for the couple.
The Delhi High Court had on August 31 last year rejected the plea of Craig Allen Coates and his wife Cynthia Ann Coates, residents of Winnebago, USA, to adopt a minor Indian after holding that the couple, already having two sons and a daughters, intended to exploit him as a domestic help.
It had concurred with the findings of a District Judge that the intention of the couple did not appear to be bonafide.
"The real intention of the appellants (Coates) in adopting the child who is suffering from mental delays (mental growth has not kept pace with age) appears to exploit him as domestic help for the husband who has been suffering from cerebral palsy since birth," Justice V B Gupta of the High Court had observed.
The boy is presently lodged at a child welfare centre in Saritha Vihar.
The High Court had said the wife was working as a supervisor nurse and getting a huge salary in the US and the couple wanted to adopt the boy so as to employ him to look after her husband.
It also imposed a cost of Rs 20,000 on the couple for abusing the process of law. Aggrieved by the High Court's ruling, the couple filed the SLP in the Supreme Court.
The apex court, while refusing to grant any immediate relief to the couple, said in an order, "We also request the Law Commission to consider recommending legislation on the matter of inter-country adoptions as at present there is no legislation on the subject and there is a pressing need for the same.
"The Law Ministry, Government of India, may also look into the matter," the bench said, while adjourning the matter by four weeks.
 
 

Brekelmans: Goedbedoeld, maar toch mislukt

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  Goedbedoeld, maar toch mislukt

Nederland telt honderden particulieren initiatieven gericht op hulp aan arme landen. Die hulp is altijd goed bedoeld en komt ook heel vaak echt aan bij de mensen die het nodig hebben. Maar soms gaat het mis. Zoals in het geval van oud CDA-statenlid Maarten Brekelmans.

Disability Rights International Launches New Name and Website

Disability Rights International Launches New Name and Website

August 6, 2010, Washington, DC– We are proud to announce our organization’s new name, Disability Rights International. Our mission has not changed. Formerly Mental Disability Rights International, we remain committed to protecting the human rights and promoting the integration into society of people with disabilities. Our new name reflects the reality that people with any kind of disability—whether mental or physical—are often shut away from society, locked in institutions, and denied basic human dignity and rights.


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The Worldwide Campaign to End the Institutionalization of Children

After years of fighting abuses against children on a country-by-country basis, Disability Rights International has gathered much evidence that the institutionalization of children with disabilities is a worldwide problem. Over the past 16 years we have documented abuses against children in over 25 countries in the Americas, the United States, Eastern Europe and Russia, the Middle East and Asia.  The dangers of institutionalizing children are pervasive and take place all over the world, including well-resourced, developed countries.  Disability Rights International is calling for an end to the institutionalization and abuse of children.      

The goal of the Worldwide Campaign to End the Institutionalization of Children, including our forthcoming report and follow-up advocacy, is to challenge underlying policies that lead to abuses against children on a global scale.  One of the main drivers of institutionalization – particularly in developing countries – is the use of misdirected foreign assistance funding to build new institutions or rebuild old crumbling facilities, instead of providing assistance and access to services for families who want to keep their children at home. Disability Rights International’s worldwide report will document the role of international funders in perpetuating the segregation of children with disabilities.       

Locked away and forgotten      

Children with disabilities around the world are locked away in institutions and forgotten – many from birth. We have seen children left permanently tied into cribs and beds where many die. Some die from intentional lack of medical care as their lives are not deemed worthy. Some die from lack of touch and love. Most in these conditions never make it to adolescence. And those who do are condemned to a lifetime inside the walls of an institution just for having a disability. Children with disabilities are rarely eligible for foster care in countries where it is available and parents who do want to keep their children with a disability almost never receive any help or support. And governments and international donors spend millions worldwide building and rebuilding these torture chambers for children with disabilities instead of supporting families, substitute families when necessary and community services and education.     

    

Child in Restraint Chair

Child in restraint chair at the Judge Rotenberg Center in the US

Atrophied Child in Romania

A teenager in Romania, muscles atrophied from a lifetime in a crib

Jorge in cage

A teenager with austism, Jorge, locked in a filthy cell in Paraguay

Findings by Disability Rights International on conditions of institutionalized children includes:    

– In Mexico, there is almost no official oversight of children in private institutions, and children have literally “disappeared” from public record. Preliminary evidence suggests that children with disabilities have been “trafficked” into forced labor or sex slavery; 

– In the United States, children with autism and other mental disabilities living at a residential school in Massachusetts are being given electric shocks as a form of “behavior modification”; 

– We have found children with autism in Paraguay and Uruguay locked in cages;

– In Turkey, children as young as 9 years old were being given electro-shock treatments without anesthesia until we exposed the barbaric treatment; 

– In Romania, we found teenagers with both mental and physical disabilities hidden away in an adult psychiatric institution – near death from intentional starvation. Some of the teens weighed less than 30 pounds;

– In Russia, we uncovered thousands of neglected infants and babies in the “lying down rooms,” where row after row of babies with disabilities both live and die in their cribs.

– In almost all institutions with children, we find them rocking back and forth, chewing their fingers or hands or gouging at their eyes or hitting themselves – all attempts to feel something rather than nothing and a reaction to total sensory deprivation and a lack of human love or contact;

Instead of providing children with the families or caregivers and the love they need, self abusive children in institutions are tied into cribs and chairs, tethered into strait jackets, wrapped tightly into blankets, and hands covered completely in plastic bottles, causing more pain to a child already living a horribly abused and neglected life.  

The reform of international development policy is essential to our goal of ending the worldwide institutionalization of children with disabilities.  We have found that the United Nations, European governments, and other international donors play a major role in perpetuating the institutionalization of children with disabilities. In developing countries, the infusion of foreign financial support can have tremendous influence on social policies and human rights.  Well-meaning but misguided international donors have, unfortunately, been part of the problem in much of the world.  International support has often been used to rebuild and refurbish orphanages, psychiatric facilities, and other institutions at the expense of community programs and families. This support reinforces outmoded systems of institution-based services and perpetuates discrimination and segregation of children with disabilities worldwide.     

We need to establish a worldwide consensus that institutionalization of children with disabilities can and should be brought to an end. We need to fight to protect those children suffering today and to stop the next generation of children with disabilities from ever being locked away and forgotten   

Surgeons arrested in Ukraine for selling transplant organs

Surgeons arrested in Ukraine for selling transplant organs

Donors were recruited and paid up to $10,000 for their kidneys and other organs

Ukraine's interior ministry says four surgeons and four others have been arrested for taking part in a scheme to recruit organ donors from former Soviet countries and transplant the organs into wealthy foreigners.

The head of the ministry's department on human trafficking, Yuriy Kucher, says the scheme was headed by an Israeli who was arrested last month.

Kucher said yesterday that they sought mostly kidneys from people in Ukraine and other countries. Most of those who sold their organs for up to $10,000 (£6,300) were impoverished young women.

Surgeries were performed in Kiev, Azerbaijan and Ecuador, Kucher said. The surgeries cost up to $200,000 apiece.Those arrested have been charged with human trafficking and face up to 15 years in prison if convicted.

China police rescue 22 abducted women, children

China police rescue 22 abducted women, children

BEIJING — Police rescued 22 women and children abducted by a human-trafficking ring that operated in southern China for two decades, state media reported Thursday.

Eighteen victims were reunited with family members during an emotional ceremony Wednesday in Nanning city in southern Guangxi province, the official Xinhua News Agency said.

Guangxi police uncovered the ring during a three-month investigation and arrested seven people in coastal Fujian province on July 22, Xinhua said. One of the suspects confessed to police the group had operated since 1989, kidnapping women and children from cities in Guangxi to sell in Fujian.

Human trafficking is a serious problem in China, which has a thriving black market in girls and women who are sold as brides. Babies are also abducted or bought from poor families to sell to childless couples.

Newspaper photos and television images showed an emotional reunion, with weeping mothers hugging their children.

State broadcaster China Central Television showed one father crying as he sat next to his son, telling reporters: "It has been a few years. Every time I saw other people with their children on the streets I would think of him. I missed him so much."

Introducing Andrew-Aleksandar Thomas Santor!!

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 4, 2010

Introducing Andrew-Aleksandar Thomas Santor!!

We have just received word this evening that the Bulgarian court has approved our adoption. He is officially our son!!! We had been checking our email ALL day, knowing that our case was being heard today, and had finally given up on hearing anything. Jen checked one last time around 6:30 while we were heating up dinner and getting ready for the college home group we host. There was the email! We all started screaming and kissing. We've been wired ever since. You can imagine how difficult it was to put the kids to bed tonight!









We are told that the actual court decree will take another two weeks. After that the Bulgarian agency will work on getting his new birth certificate and paperwork required by the Hague convention. We will not know our travel dates until this happens, but we are expecting no later than early September.

Money for the remaining amount continues to trickle in. On Monday night, our 3yr. old niece emptied her piggy bank into our donation jar that sits on the counter. We've learned to thank God for every penny of provision and not discard even the smallest gift.

We are still needing over $9,000 to finally bring our son home. This amount includes air fare, agency fees, medical exit exam and a weeks worth of accomodations while we travel. If you would like to be a part of bringing Andrew home please click on one of the fundraisers listed on the sides of this post. Just in the last few weeks we've received $40 from a friend at church, $10 for a loaf of Jen's bread, the piggy bank money from our niece, and even a $10 donation via the "Donate" button on this page.

Another friend from church is offering a photography class. The cost of the class will be donated to our adoption fund. Just to have someone help by taking up our cause is a tremendous blessing and we are so grateful.


God has provided every cost upfront from the first $550 application fee. So we are in no positon to doubt his provision now. This is His story and He will be faithful to finish what He started.

On a side note:
Two weekends ago Jen suddenly felt the urgent need (nesting?)to make sure everything was in place for Andrew's homecoming, even though we had no news. We needed two dressers for the boys and wanted bookshelves to organize our home (specifically the homeschool materials that had accumulated in piles throughout the house).

We decided to take a trip to IKEA to see what we could find. We found two solid wood dresser within our budget, but were not sure if the dimensions would fit so we decided to go home and check the measurements. On our way out the door we notice the "As Is" section. There we discovered two 4' w X 6'h solid wood bookshelves. $62 a piece, marked down from $250! We grabbed them.

When they were assembled at home they not only fit all of our home school supplies but also all of Aaron's books that have been sitting in boxes in our attic for the past 7yrs. We took some measurements and realized that it would not be difficult to build in a corner desk between the bookshelves. Jen's mom and dad eagerly planned the whole thing out so that once we had the money we could finish it off.


The following weekend we returned to pick up the two dressers that we now knew would fit; however, this weekend there was only one on the shelf. As we spoke with a service guy in the "As Is" section, Jen's dad noticed two solid wood dressers already loaded on a cart, bigger and better than the two we were trying to buy. $49 a piece, marked down from $200!

Jen's dad was determined to make our desk happen now and suggested quickly looking down an aisle for desk tops. We found an exact sized piece of wood for the desk and the shelf above only $20 a piece, so now we wouldn't have to wait. The very next day her parents came and worked until 1a.m. to finish the desk.

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Altogether we bought 2 brand new, solid wood dressers, 2 brand new, solid wood bookshelves and a custom built, solid wood desk for only $328!! Again God provides.

Supreme Court asks Union govt to modify adoption laws

Supreme Court asks Union govt to modify adoption laws
Published: Wednesday, Aug 4, 2010, 2:20 IST
By Rakesh Bhatnagar | Place: New Delhi | Agency: DNA




The Supreme Court has asked the Centre to re-examine the country’s archaic adoption laws that make it difficult for foreigners to adopt Indian children, pointing out that there are at least 12 million orphan children in the country who are forced to beg, work as domestic helps, or languish in government’s orphanages.

A bench of Justices Markandey Katju and TS Thakur on Monday said the Law Commission could consider recommending legislation for inter-country adoptions since there are no laws at present.

The court also sought solicitor general Gopal Subramanium’s assistance in a matter concerning an aged American couple whose plea to adopt an orphan from India have been rejected by the Delhi courts.

The judges are hearing a petition by Craig Allen Coates and his wife, Cynthia Ann Coates, residents of Westfield Street Oshkosh, Winnebago, Wisconsin, USA. The couple, with three grown-up children, claim to be medically and financially fit and have a “strong desire” to adopt a minor male child in order to “further expand their family”.

They want to adopt 11-year-old Anil, who was found abandoned by the police and transferred to an orphanage. The Child Welfare Committee, which is in charge of adoption of abandoned children, had granted the ‘no-objection’ certificate to adopting Anil while the Coordinating Voluntary Adoption Resource Agency (CVARA) and the Central Adoption Resource Authority (CARA) took care of the inter-country adoption details.

But the Delhi district court judge, which is the legal guardian of all abandoned and orphaned children, rejected Coates’ application for adoption.

The couple moved the Delhi high court, which upheld the lower court’s judgment. The Delhi HC expressed its doubts on the Coates’ plea of “further expanding the family”, noting that Craig Allen has cerebral palsy and that Cynthia Ann, a working medical nurse, needs to take care of him.

“It is quite likely that an additional child may get neglected. Also one cannot completely rule out the possibility that child may be exploited and used as a mere helper for Coates, who is disabled, once the child reaches foreign land,” the HC added.

The couple also couldn’t offer a satisfactory reply to the HC’s query as to why it was so keen on adopting an Indian child rather than an American. Thus, the HC said the “real intention” of the Coates in adopting an Indian “appears to be to use him as a domestic help” and rejected their claim.

The Supreme Court will now examine whether Anil should be given for adoption to the Coateseven as it seeks a law for inter-country adoptions.

Government extends suspension of adoptions

http://www.times.co.sz/index.php?news=19219

Government extends suspension of adoptions

By SIBONGILE SUKATI on August 04,2010



MBABANE — Government has extended the suspension period for the adoption of Swazi children.

According to the Deputy Prime Minister, Themba Masuku, there was an increasing demand for Swazi children by foreign nationals and this was one of the many concerns that his office had.

Although he did not have the specific number of applications, Masuku said he had seen a huge increase in the applications between last year and March hence one of the reasons for suspending it in order to review the act.

The suspension was announced by the DPM in March but it had been expected that it would be lifted by the end of June. However this did not happen as there were many issues to be sorted out.

Masuku said another problem was that there were very few applications for adoption from Swazi nationals and said this was also worry to government.

Interviewed in his Parliament office on Monday, the DPM said the Adoption Act of 1952 was no longer relevant in the context of new laws, especially those international laws that concern human trafficking.

He said Swaziland was in the process of ratifying the 1993 Hague Convention.

The DPM said he was further awaiting a report that was compiled by a joint task team from the welfare offices and ministry of Health and Justice.

"There is a serious lack of internal adoption and further there is a need for them to be streamlined," he said.

He said they also wanted adopted children to be able to trace their roots should they want to in the future.

He said, for example, if a child with a Dlamini surname is adopted, then that child’s surname should not be totally changed to that of the adoptive parents.

"They should be able to be called Dlamini-Anderson for example and then the children can be allowed to change their surname should they wish to, once they are all grown up," he said.

He said the number of orphans in Swaziland was shocking as evidenced by the 90 000 figure for the recently paid school fees for Orphaned and Vulnerable Children (OVCs).

Masuku said the recently reported adoption case where an American was allowed to take a child out of the country happened in December 2009.

Bombay high court registry gets a week to trace adoption papers

Bombay high court registry gets a week to trace adoption papers

Published: Tuesday, Aug 3, 2010, 2:37 IST

By Mayura Janwalkar | Place: Mumbai | Agency: DNA

The high court registry may have to search for 35-year-old original documents, perhaps stored in a forgotten shelf, in the case of the inter-country adoption of Daksha Van Dijck, 34, a Dutch psychologist who has sought to trace her biological roots.

Van Dijck, adopted in 1975 by Dutch national Johan Van Dijck and raised in Netherlands, returned to India 2001 in search of her biological parents.