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Danish adopted daughter: "I would have had a good life in a poor family in Korea, because I would have been with my family"

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I don't understand the need of the western world to see itself as being better suited to parent children born on the other side of the globe with a completely different culture. I am of the belief that I would have had a fine life in a poor family in Korea, because I would have been with my family and I would have been part of the majority in the country from which my DNA originates.


Try closing your eyes for a moment, no wait. Then you can't read on. Instead, just try to imagine that you had been put on a plane as a child. After many hours you landed in an African country without your family. In this African country – we can call it Kenya – you were met by two very dark people who told you in a language completely foreign to you that they were now your mother and father.

They hugged you, maybe kissed you on the forehead. Maybe they cried too. They said they had been waiting for just you for years. You didn't understand what happened. Perhaps you were only a few months old and therefore had no language. Maybe you were three years old and deeply unhappy because you missed kindergarten and your Danish mother and father.

Get-together of those adopted from Kerala State Council for Child Welfare planned

A programme to promote foster care is also being planned with the aim of reducing institutionalisation, says child welfare council general secretary


A get-together of those adopted from the Kerala State Council for Child Welfare since 1992 is planned for May, council general secretary G.L. Arun Gopi has said.

 

Mr. Gopi told mediapersons on Tuesday that nearly 1,000 people had been adopted from the council by families within the country and abroad.

 

UP Woman With 4 Children, Whose Adopted Daughter Was Taken Away, Wins Custody

The court observed that the report that led to the girl being taken away was perhaps swayed by the fact that the petitioner has four children born to her.

Prayagraj:

Observing that the court may not let the law defeat the ends of justice, the Allahabad High Court has granted custody of a nine-year-old girl to a woman from who she was taken away "perhaps" because she already had four children of her own.

A division bench of Justice Saumitra Dayal Singh and Justice Manjive Shukle observed in its order issued on Monday that taking a child by way of adoption or foster care is neither contrary to the practices prevailing in societies nor it is something to be looked down upon.

The writ petition had been filed by a woman, named Meena, against a December 13, 2022 order of the Child Welfare Committee (CWC), Fatehgarh, Farrukhabad, whereby she was deprived of the custody of the child.

Desperate and despairing, parents tap sleuth to find Kenya’s lost children

NAIROBI — When Leroy Blessing went missing, his family panicked. The autistic 9-year-old could not talk to strangers easily, and police in his native Kenya scoffed when his desperate parents sought help, saying he was old enough to look after himself.

“They said ‘he’s a big boy, he will come back home,’” Ketty Omondi, Leroy’s mother, recounted. “They never received me with kindness or pity.”

Then Maryana Munyendo stepped in. She heads Missing Child Kenya Foundation, an alliance of voluntary sleuths tracking down missing children. She plastered up posters and blasted social media. A stranger called two days later with the boy’s whereabouts.

Since setting up the group in 2016, Munyendo said she and her two-person team have reunited 1,055 children with their families out of the 1,551 missing children that parents have reported to her. Another 153 were sent to government homes and 28 were declared deceased, leaving 315 active files.

Munyendo, 41, set up the group after a 10-year-old girl went missing in the neighborhood near her office. Locals spotted the lost child after Munyendo put up posters, and the girl was reunited with her family after two days. More families reached out. Buoyed by early successes, Munyendo and her friend Jennifer Kaberi set up the foundation, running it on a shoestring out of Kaberi’s living room. Many of the children were runaways or the victims of parental abductions or traffickers. Some were simply lost and unable to tell strangers where they lived.They started with posters, social media and the introduction of online hashtags and the keywords “MissingChildKE” to bring up names and posters. Then the group expanded, setting up Kenya’s first toll-free number for tracing missing children and badgering local news organizations to air features on the missing.

Emergency for children without families: there are 500 thousand in Europe and Central Asia. A law on European adoption is urgently needed

There are almost half a million minors living outside their families in reception institutions in Europe and Central Asia. What are the possible interventions to counter this situation, always with a view to the supreme interest of the minor?

According to a recent UNICEF analysis  , nearly half a million children – 456,000 – live in reception facilities, including large institutions, in Europe and Central Asia.
This is double the global average and a painful legacy to overcome.

The children most affected

The report shows that children with disabilities are most affected by this situation, while some countries have made progress in deinstitutionalization and kinship care. Western Europe, however, has the highest rate of children in reception facilities, partly due to the arrival of unaccompanied minors and asylum seekers.

A welcome based on family and community

Children without families: Aibi, "500 thousand in the Old Continent and Central Asia". Griffini, "a law on European adoption is needed"

 

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Children without families: Aibi, "500 thousand in the Old Continent and Central Asia". Griffini, "a law on European adoption is needed"

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In the end, Indian children have been lucky because they have landed in Denmark

Reader's letter: DR is currently uncovering a documentary about ten Indian, adult "Danes" who were adopted to well-intentioned, loving Danish adoptive parents without the knowledge that they were illegally robbed of their own biological parents in India. A corrupt and probably well-paid adoption center in India is behind the crime - certainly without the knowledge of the Danish adoptive parents.

I understand the frustrations of the Indians. They feel robbed of their Indian identity, their maybe-life in India, their association with biological parents and siblings. I just think the story lacks a little nuance and gratitude.

The Danish adoptive parents have given their adopted children a dignified, good, loving upbringing in a safe environment here in Denmark. They have been given the right conditions for a good life. The alternative in India has been extreme poverty without the possibility of either education or the possibility of just a tolerable existence in a huge country with so many poor people. I would think that the adoptees had to live with a red dot on their forehead as either belonging to a low caste or possibly casteless. A life of poverty and perpetual despair.

I understand the Indians' frustration; but I miss a certain form of saying thank you for, despite a forced adoption, that they have landed in happiness-land Denmark compared to India.

Danish Report Underscores 'Systematic Illegal Behavior' in South Korean Adoptions

COPENHAGEN, DENMARK — 

A Danish report on Thursday said adoptions of children from South Korea to Denmark in the 1970s and 1980s was "characterized by systematic illegal behavior" in the Asian country.

These violations, the report said, made it "possible to change information about a child's background and adopt a child without the knowledge of the biological parents."

The report was the latest in a dark chapter of international adoptions. In 2013, the government in Seoul started requiring foreign adoptions to go through family courts. The move ended the decadeslong policy of allowing private agencies to dictate child relinquishments, transfer of custodies and emigration.

The Danish Appeals Board, which supervises international adoptions, said there was "an unfortunate incentive structure where large sums of money were transferred between the Danish and South Korean organizations" over the adoptions.

Sweden is considering stopping adoption from the Philippines

Norway has already stopped adoption from the Philippines. Now the Swedish authorities are considering doing the same.


Last week it became known that Bufdir recommends a complete halt to all foreign adoptions to Norway.

It also became known that all adoptions from Thailand, Taiwan and the Philippines have been stopped.

This happens after a year in which VG has made a number of revelations about illegal adoptions to Norway.

Among other things, VG has told about how babies are sold in the Philippines - and that fake birth certificates are a big problem.

Dimitri Leue and Samuel Vekeman make a performance about adoption. “Adopted children need a double portion of love”

Musician Samuel Vekeman was adopted from Congo as a toddler with a hereditary disease. He made a play about it with Dimitri Leue. “Ban international adoption? No, it saved my life.”

Sam Renascent is the stage name of musician and producer Samuel Vekeman (30), aka “the Antwerp reincarnation of Kanye West and Stromae”. There is a special meaning behind it. “Renascent comes from the Latin verb renascere which means 'to be reborn',” Vekeman explains. “I see my adoption as a rebirth. In Congo I might never have been able to turn my passion into a profession. Here I was given the opportunity to build a new life and I am very grateful for that.”

As a drummer and actor, Vekeman has often appeared on stage with his mentor Dimitri Leue (49). Now the duo is making a theater performance together for the first time. One of the first about adoption in Flanders, they claim. In Loos , in which actresses Clara Cleymans and Inge Paulussen also play, the life of a couple with a fervent desire to have children intertwines with that of a sister and her adopted brother, who take stock after the death of their father. Copywriter Leue talked to numerous adoptive parents and children. At what price can you tear a child away from his homeland? And can the love between parent and child ever truly transcend the blood bond?

It has become a piece that Vekeman would have liked to have seen when he was 16, to better understand why he always felt “between two worlds”. Not from here, but not from there either. When he was 2, he was given up by his parents in Kinshasa. He ended up with a warm family in the Catholic community of Sant'Egidio in Antwerp. The man who took him to Belgium by plane disappeared at the airport with the northern sun ("I was his one-way ticket to Europe"). But otherwise, Vekeman's story bears little resemblance to the abuses that made the news in the autumn, when it emerged that several Ethiopian children had not been voluntarily given up and that there were errors in their files. In anticipation of the new adoption decree, Minister of Welfare Hilde Crevits (CD&V) imposed an intercountry adoption stop .

Dimitri Leue and Samuel Vekeman have worked together before. — © Ksenia Kuleshova