The dark history of adoption

New book tells the story of the 1950s and 1960s illegal adoptions from abroad and, not least, the one-man army, Tytte Botfeldt, who on his own raised African children to Danish couples and helped to establish the adoption organizations we know today

Potential adopters must have "good mental health, a healthy harmonious personality, a good marriage, a nuanced environment," wrote county social director and later chairman of the Youth Commission Lars Lundgaard in 1982 on the adoption of foreign children and continued:

“It is not just super people who fulfill these conditions. But there must be surplus and harmony. It is also there in the ordinary Danish family. "

About 15 years ago, the market for illegal adoptions was tried to be brought under control by issuing permits to the persons and organizations that had for years provided Afrotish children to Danish couples in direct contravention of the legislation.

NGO workers call for consultative meet on August 20 to discuss Nagaland’s adoption policy

Eastern Mirror Desk

Dimapur, Aug. 10: The Central Adoption Resource Authority (Cara), which functions as the nodal body for adoption of children in India and has the mandate to monitor and regulate in-country and inter-country adoptions, contradicts the special provisions of Article 371 (A) for Nagaland, according to Dr. Hesheto Chishi, the chairman of Nagaland NGOs Forum.

During a press conference in Dimapur on Saturday, Chishi said that in order to address this issue, a consultative meeting among stakeholders on child adoption would be held on August 20 in Dimapur.

He said that the Cara guideline posing a threat to Article 371 (A) concerns ‘legal and customary laws.’

Yesterday hit my one month mark since we stepped foot at John Abraham Memorial Bethany Home. (This was supposed to be uploaded on the mark, but it woukdn't have come out as it did).

It's a long one, but this part means the world to me. It was an experience that will stay with me.

The point of our trip to India was to go here and Kodangal to see where I spent my time when I was here. We wanted to explore the life I never knew.

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Before I continue about the trip, during the trip, my mom remembered a video she received from a doctor that visited the orphanage two months before my dad went. She got it transferred to DVD and some photos will compare it from 1999 to now, as well as some other content.

Illegal adoptions of Sri Lankan children: Neil and Nour in search of their true origins

Neil, 32, takes off this Sunday with his sister, Nour, for Sri Lanka. They hope to find their respective biological mothers and discover the truth about the conditions of their adoption.

In the faded picture he gives us, the youthful face of his biological mother shines. His thick black braids run along his yellow polka dot dress. She is 19, smiles, beautiful, staring at her baby. And if this cliché was a masquerade, this young woman, a usurper? What if Neil, 32, adopted at 1 month by French parents, was not named Siriwardane?

He does not know anymore, doubt everything. Since he discovered a report in late May about the existence of a huge trafficking of children adopted in Sri Lanka in the 1980s, the postcard of his childhood is troubled. At this time, faced with the growing demand for adoptions, babies would have been stolen from maternity hospitals, with the complicity of recruiters, or bought from poor mothers. Actresses playing their role then handed them to the adoptive families. And a large number of birth certificates would actually be fake.

Is this his case? That of his big sister? The truth, they will go and fetch her together. Nour, a 33-year-old Sinhalese born from another sibling, also wants to understand. Was his mother really 39, his original name is Nilanthi? A ticket for Colombo in his pocket, the two Parisians welded will leave this Sunday in the footsteps of their respective biological mothers for a fortnight.

Marianne (Mary) Iwanek (nee Kolijn), social reformer and social worker, b November 12, 1943; d April 1, 2019

Becoming an orphan at the age of 15 gave social worker Mary Iwanek a great empathy and understanding of those she went on to help.

As head of adoption services in New Zealand in the 1990s, she was a leading figure in changing the adoption practice and law in this country.

Iwanek, the youngest of Adriana and Leendert Kolijn's 10 children, was born in Vleuten, the Netherlands, in 1943. Her father, a police commander, was in the Dutch underground resistance after refusing to work for Hitler.

After her parents died, and most of her siblings had emigrated, at 15 she became a state ward. Her brother Herman, on holiday from New Zealand, became her guardian. If she had stayed, she would have become a domestic servant. Instead, she became the first state ward to emigrate.

The adoption support fund is a lifeline for parents like us. At a time of political turmoil, it must not be overlooked

t was the question that brought serious, life-altering consequences for our family. The social worker sipping coffee in our lounge leaned forward and casually asked us whether we could consider adopting this little girl.

Adoption was not on our radar. We had three children by birth and our journey as foster carers had only just begun. Our first foster placement – the baby crawling between us – was healthy and beautiful and, as far as I understood, about to be wrenched away to be adopted. But the social worker wanted what was best for this child, who had already suffered enough early childhood trauma without an additional move to another family.

Foster carers should not be kept in the dark about the children they support

Krish Kandiah

Adoption of stepchildren - even without a marriage certificate

So far it was not possible to adopt as a couple without marriage certificate the child of the partner. This is unconstitutional, decided now the Federal Constitutional Court.

By Klaus Hempel, ARD-Rechtsredaktion

If a man or a woman wants to adopt the partner's children, this is only possible under the law if both are married. For unmarried couples living in a non-marital partnership, it is not yet possible to adopt stepchildren. The Federal Constitutional Court considers this unconstitutional. This violates the fundamental right of children to equal treatment.

Important for personal development

Ayat Ahmed is a healthy toddler, just two months shy of her second birthday and learning her ABC’s with her mother in a small Dubai apartment.

But it hasn’t always been this way. Born premature and battling pneumonia, she weighed only six and a half pounds at three months old when her Canadian adoptive parents, Tauseef Qureshi and Ameera Hanif, travelled to Pakistan to become her legal guardians.

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Now, 18 months later, the couple is fighting to bring Ayat home, challenging a Canadian ban on adoptions from Pakistan, while also struggling against Qureshi’s recent cancer diagnosis.

“We stand a family divided on two separate continents, living apart, not knowing when we will have the chance to see each other,” Qureshi said from his south Ottawa home.

A San Jose man who was sexually abused for years by his adoptive parents once contemplated taking a $40,000 settlement offer, unsure if the court would rule in his favor at a trial.

On Monday, he learned that he’d been awarded a $28 million judgment.

Denis Flynn, 27, said his lawyer called him that night and told him to look at his email. Flynn almost passed out when he saw the decision. But the money is not the most important thing, he said.

“This was never about the money. I needed to tell my truth, and the wrong thing to do would have been to continue to suffer,” Flynn said. “When I got that email, all my doubt went away. The law had stated that I did the right thing by coming forward.”

Flynn was 9 when Ralph and Carolyn Flynn adopted him from an orphanage in north Russia and moved him into their luxurious Los Gatos home. Soon after, his father began molesting Flynn, at times on a daily basis. Later, his mother molested him, too.

Karnal, August 8

A three-day-old girl child was found abandoned at the cradle baby centre (palna house), an initiative of the state government for giving shelter to abandoned children, at the entrance of MDD Bal Bhawan — an orphanage — on Thursday.

At 1.10 pm, the security guard of Bal Bhawan spotted the baby in the cradle and informed PR Nath, founder general secretary of the orphanage. The girl was wrapped in a towel.

Nath said that the staff members took care of her and informed Child Welfare Committee chairman Umesh Chanana and president of the orphanage Parminder Pal Singh. They also informed Deputy Commissioner Vinay Pratap Singh about it.

“With the permission of CWC chairman, the girl was taken to the civil hospital for medical check-up. Doctor told us that she is around three-days-old and her health is good. A complete medical check-up will be done on Friday,” said Nath.