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Child abandonment in Europe is neglected issue, say researchers

Child abandonment in Europe is neglected issue, say researchers

May 29, Other Sciences/Social Sciences


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  Researchers have called for a consistent and supportive approach to child abandonment in Europe to protect the welfare of the hundreds of youngsters given up by their parents every year.

Adoption from Africa: Concern over ‘dramatic rise’

Adoption from Africa: Concern over ‘dramatic rise’

The number of children from Africa being adopted by foreign nationals from other continents has risen dramatically, a report has said.

In the past eight years, international adoptions increased by almost 400%, the African Child Policy Forum has found.

“Africa is becoming the new frontier for inter-country adoption,” the Addis Ababa-based group said.

But many African countries do not have adequate safeguards in place to protect the children being adopted, it warns.

The majority of so-called orphans adopted from Africa have at least one living parent and many children are trafficked or sold by their parents, the child expert group says.

More than 41,000 African children have been adopted and taken out of home countries since 2004, the ACPF report says.

More than two thirds of the total in 2009 and 2010 were adopted from Ethiopia, which now sends more children abroad for adoption than any other country, apart from China.

Adoptable children shortage

Ethiopia has more than 70 adoption agencies, including 15 that only refer children to families in the United States.

Most African children go to the US, which is where most adoptions from foreign countries occur – in 2010 more than 11,000 children from more than 100 countries were adopted by American parents.

Families in western Europe and Canada also adopt African children.

International adoption is also popular in Nigeria, the Democratic Republic of Congo, South Africa, Mali, Ghana, Ivory Coast, Morocco, Uganda, and Burkina Faso, the ACPF report says.

People wanting to adopt children are increasingly turning to Africa because changes in adoption patterns and laws in other countries has resulted in a shortage of adoptable children, it says.

Countries including China, South Korea, Guatemala, Russia, Romania and Ukraine have tightened up eligibility rules and shut down or limited overseas adoption – instead promoting domestic adoption.

According to international law, inter-country adoption should be a last resort – and the rise in the number of children being adopted in Africa and moved to other countries is of concern to child welfare experts.

“Every child has the right to be reared in the country and culture in which it was born,” said David Mugawe, the director of African Child Policy Forum.

The report warned that many countries on the continent do not have strong enough laws and policies to stem illicit activities including child trafficking.

Only 13 African countries have ratified the Hague Convention, which provides various safeguards to try to ensure children are not adopted illegally.

“Compromising children’s best interests while undertaking inter-country adoption is likely and adoption can become a vast, profit-driven, industry with children as the commodity,” the ACPF says.

“The onus is on African states to take urgent and decisive measures to strengthen families and communities to take care of children in their country of origin.”

Help me return to US: Jennifer Haynes writes to Krishna

Help me return to US: Jennifer Haynes writes to Krishna


MAYURA JANWALKAR :  Tue May 29 2012, 03:37 hrs

As correspondence between India and the US go back and forth over the possible deportation of Kolkata-born Kairi Abha Shepherd (30), whose adoptive American mother allegedly failed to complete her citizenship formalities 30 years ago, Jennifer Haynes (30), who landed in Mumbai after deportation has urged External Affairs Minister S M Krishna to intervene in her own case and reunite her with family in the US.

While Kairi Shepherd who suffers from Multiple Sclerosis reportedly told the media that deportation to India, in her case, would be nothing short of a death sentence, Haynes, who was deported to the country in 2008, has been a steadfast survivor, making a modest living in Mumbai. “Kairi Shepherd’s mother died of cancer and she is ailing herself. Someone should show mercy. I survived but everyone may not be able to,” Haynes told Newsline.

“When I was just seven years old, I was adopted from an Indian orphanage by an American couple from Atlanta Georgia via American Aid for International Adoption. The same agency that Kairi Shepherd was adopted through,” Haynes’s letter written on Monday states.

She has narrated the trauma she went through as she changed multiple foster homes since her adoption in 1989 and was allegedly physically and sexually abused. “Never did I think that I was not an American citizen until I was arrested for a minor drug charge and sent immediately for deportation,” Haynes said. Her letter adds, “In 2008, I was separated from my husband and two children in the US and sent back to India, a country which I had forgotten and which had forgotten me.”

The ‘nobody’s child’ that Shepherd fears being had been Haynes’s destiny for three years as she tried piecing her life together in a city she remembered nothing about. However, her Indian passport that she obtained last year, gave her what she never had — a nationality.

Haynes’s case seeking action against her adoption agency is pending before the Supreme Court. However, she is uncertain if she will ever be able to return to the US. “I am trying desperately to return home to my kids Kadafi (9) and Kassana (8) who are missing me and need their mother,” Haynes pleads in her letter.

“I am sure you as External Affairs Minister can sure help me in my situation,” Haynes’s letter to Krishna says.

How does an adoptee get deported? More easily than one might think

How does an adoptee get deported? More easily than one might think

Photo by Geoff McKim/Flickr (Creative Commons)

An "examination room for adopted children" in Guangzhou, China, April 2010

Q: How does someone adopted legally as a baby by American parents get deported?

A: Relatively easily, and it's happened to several one-time adopted kids.

The case that's been getting media attention lately is that of Kairi Abha Shepherd, a 30-year-old Utah woman who was adopted from an orphanage in India when she was three months old. In spite of her legal adoption when she was an infant, the 10th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals recently upheld an immigration court's decision that Shepherd is in the United States illegally and is deportable.

How and why? It's tricky, but it's a situation that quite a few adoptees have fallen into over the years. Shepherd's adoptive mother, who also adopted other children, died from cancer when her daughter was eight years old. At the time of her death, she had not completed her daughter's application for U.S. citizenship, although the girl was in the country legally.

And there lies the problem. While there are now laws in place that protect younger adoptees, older adoptees not covered under a 2000 statute whose parents failed to naturalize them remain legal residents, subject to deportation if they run afoul of the law. In 2007, Shepherd caught the attention of U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement when she was jailed in Salt Lake City for a probation violation; in 2004, she had pleaded guilty to check forgery, a deportable offense.

Like others in her situation, she didn't know she could be deported until this happened. Some background from a story in the Deseret News:

A widow and single mother to seven children, Erlene Shepherd died in 1991 of breast cancer, never having filed the proper paperwork for Kairi Shepherd, her youngest child. Kairi Shepherd went to live with one of her adoptive siblings, a sister, until she was 14, and then an adoptive brother until she graduated from high school, Smith said.

A sibling said their mother had filed the proper paperwork for her other children.


This is almost always the catch in these cases, which are fairly rare, but do happen every so often. Younger adoptees are covered by the Child Citizenship Act of 2000, which made citizenship virtually automatic for most adopted children brought into the U.S. But it doesn't apply retroactively. According to news reports, Shepherd was 11 months too old to qualify for protection under this law when it took effect in February, 2001.

At the same time, tighter immigration laws that took effect in 1996 made it easier to deport non-citizens, with legal residents convicted of certain crimes, including some misdemeanors, losing most forms of relief under the law. Caught in the middle are people like Shepherd.

Others deported in recent years have included Jess Mustanich, adopted from El Salvador by two U.S. citizen parents from the San Jose area when he was six months old. After years fighting his deportation, he was sent to El Salvador in 2008, at 29. His parents had divorced before naturalizing him, and his father said he'd run into roadblocks after that. At 18, Mustanich and some friends stole from his father, who called the cops - and he was convicted of burglary.

From a story I wrote about him just after he was deported:

Described by his father as “a middle-class white kid” raised in an Anglo household, Mustanich learned a handful of Spanish words from Latino detainees while in immigration detention, but is otherwise starting over as a stranger in a strange land.

Speaking by phone Friday from a San Salvador hotel, he described going through customs at the airport.

“They brought out some guy, and he asked, 'Why don't you speak Spanish?' ” Mustanich said. “I told him it was because I was adopted, and he said, 'Then why are you here?' ”


Not all the former adoptees deported have been young. A few years ago, ICE deported Alejandro Ebron, a Japanese-born man from California who was nearing 50 when he was sent back to Japan. He had been adopted in 1959 as a one-year-old by Navy sailor who was Filipino American and who raised him with his Mexican American wife, both long deceased. I interviewed Ebron for another story while he was detained in San Diego, contesting his deportation:
"I grew up thinking I was half Filipino and half Mexican," Ebron said. "They could send me to Mexico and I would get by. I can speak a little Spanish. But Japan? I'm going to be in trouble if they send me there."

Others who have been deported in recent years include Jennifer Haynes, who was also adopted from India. Deported in 2008, she continues fighting to return to the U.S., where she has a family of her own. Some of these cases have turned especially tragic. Joao Herbert, a young Brazilian-born adoptee, was deported there in 2000 at age 26. Not long afterward, he was murdered.

The website Pound Pup Legacy, dedicated to adoptees and foster children, has a list of former adopted children who have been deported or face deportation.

Bub is already well-travelled

Bub is already well-travelled

29th May 2012 4:00 AM

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Andrea and Kate van Doore-Nave from Pialba have welcomed a daughter, Anouk Lien India, born on May 23 weighing 7lb 10oz.

Andrea and Kate van Doore-Nave from Pialba have welcomed a daughter, Anouk Lien India, born on May 23 weighing 7lb 10oz.

Bub is already well-travelled ( Kate van Doore )

BEFORE she was even born, little Anouk Lien India had already visited three countries.

Anouk's mum Kate van Doore-Nave and her partner Andrea are involved with the Forget Me Not Children's Home, a charity in Hervey Bay that supports orphaned children overseas.

The couple travel to do work with the charity about twice a year and when Kate was about 20 weeks pregnant they visited Nepal, Uganda and India.

"She is well travelled already," Kate said.

Because they have spent so much time overseas, especially in Nepal, Kate said they were both relaxed about the visit.

Deported woman seeks MEA’s help

Deported woman seeks MEA’s help

May 28, 2012

 

In a letter to Krishna, Jennifer Edgell Haynes, claims that she was a victim of child trafficking, sexual abuse and exploitation after she was adopted by an American couple when she was seven years old.

Seeking the minister's help. Image courtesy PIB

 

“Until three years back I believed I was a citizen of the United States. Now I realize that I was a victim of child trafficking, sexual abuse and exploitation,” Hayens said in an email sent to the minister through Anjali Pawar, of Sakhee, a Pune-based NGO.

“When I was just seven years old, I was adopted from an Indian orphanage by an American couple from Atlanta Georgia via American Aid for International Adoption,” she said.

“Unfortunately the adoption was a fraud and within a year of arriving in the United States I found myself placed with a foster family who later adopted me, where I was sexually abused and physically beaten. Thereafter for the next ten years I was shuffled from foster home to foster home,” she said.

“Never did I think that I was not an American citizen until I was arrested for a minor drug charge and send immediately for deportation.

“In 2008 I was separated from my husband and two children in the US and sent back to India, a country which I had forgotten and which had forgotten me,” Hayens said.

“I’m trying desperately to return home to my kids Kadafi, 9 and Kassana, 8 who are missing me a lot and need their mother,” she said adding that her case is also pending in the Supreme Court of India.

The petition before the Supreme Court, she noted, will “take years together for adjudication”.

“By then my children who are yet minor will be grown up. I request intervention by your office…” Haynes said in her email dated 28 May.

The copy of the email sent to Krishna was released in Washington today.

Washington:

An Indian orphan who was deported from the US in 2008 following her arrest on drug charges today wrote to External Affairs Minister SM Krishna asking him to help her get back to the US so that she can live with her two children – eight and nine year olds.

The New Adoption Law

The New Adoption Law
Last updated: 2012-05-28 12:42 EET
Adoptiile in Romania  We start with a point of view
recently voiced by the head of the Romanian Adoption Office, Bogdan Panait:


Bogdan Panait: ”We badly need to raise the awareness of all families; we
seriously need to raise the system’s awareness, but when things are not going
well in the family we need to find a solution so that children may live a normal
life. Nowhere around the world can a protection system provide a normal life. A
normal life can only be family life.”


A normal and caring family
that really wants you and where you can feel safe; that’s what any child around
the world wants. Recently, Romania has taken yet another step further to make
such a wish come true, passing a new adoption law. And, as “no one can live a
normal life in the system”, as the State Secretary with the Romanian Adoption
Office Bogdan Panait said in the beginning, the new law is trying to speed up
the entire procedure setting up clear deadlines. Speaking now is Ramona Popa, a
Cabinet Manager with the Romanian Adoption Office.


Ramona Popa: “For
children whose parents are unknown, the file can be submitted to court within 30
days since the birth certificate was issued. For children whose parents say from
the very beginning they do not want to look after them and want to give them up
for adoption, both they and their relatives up to four times removed can submit
the file to court within 60 days since the parents or the relatives issue their
last statement.”


Although statistics mention around 67 thousand
institutionalized children, the old legal provisions allowed for a limited
number of those children to be eligible for adoption. However, in Romania there
are around 1,700 families who want to adopt a child. Dina Pluhovici is the
president of the Bucharest Branch of the ADOR Copiii Association, the community
of adoptive families. She will now be sharing with us her experience of adoptive
parent.


Diana Pluhovici:” Under the old law, if we wanted a child to
be declared eligible for adoption we needed the consent of the relatives up to
four times removed. Now let’s be honest: I myself don’t know who my relatives
four times removed are, let alone the institution who goes at all lengths to dig
into the family history. A provision of the new law states that the very moment
a social protection measure is stipulated for the child, and if for a whole year
the family as well as the identified four-times-removed relatives do not wish to
get involved in the upbringing of the child, that particular child should become
eligible for adoption. My little girl became eligible for adoption almost four
years ago when she was about three years and eight months old. Three years and
eight months of doing nothing and letting that child in the system, depriving
her of the right to be raised in the middle of a loving and harmonious family!
And also with no balanced upbringing. Especially from an emotional point of
view, as these children have already been going through a trauma. The trauma of
being abandoned.”


Now Diana Pluhovici is the mother of Antonia, a
little girl of Rroma origin, whom the old adoption law had her spend almost five
years in the system before she was entitled to having a family.



Diana Pluhovici:” When I met her, my daughter was 4 years and 9
months old. A rather old child who, according to the statistics of the Romanian
Adoption Office was a child hard to adopt. However, her age did not bother us.
It was all we wanted: to become parents. We were not particularly interested in
her condition or her ethnic roots, I just said I wanted to be a mother. I wasn’t
interested in anything else. And that despite the fact that the moment I was
shown her file I saw she was a child with an Apgar 1 score, a resuscitated child
with a neurological condition. But that didn’t matter at all. I said I wanted to
see the child. And the moment I saw that little browned eyed wonder, who was
trying to draw your attention, all those things didn’t matter at all.”



Even though the diagnosis proved not to be accurate, and Antonia
turned out to be a perfectly normal child, there still was a problem: the new
family had a period of accommodation, with psychological blocks and fits of
rage. This is often encountered in families that bring in a new child all of a
sudden, and some time is needed for things to settle. From this point of view,
the law omitted a very important aspect, according to Diana Pluhovici and the
ADOR association.


Diana Pluhovici: “Since we adopted an older child
we got no parental leave for raising and caring for the child. This is a
problem, and it persists. You can’t tell the child ‘Well, we’ll spend this
weekend with you, but on Monday I’m going to work, you will go to kindergarten,
your babysitter or grandma will pick you up and that’s it.’ You cannot that,
because then it’s a failed adoption, and no one wants that.”


The
good news is that the law allows changes as long as they support and speed up
the adoption procedures. Here is Bogdan Panait, undersecretary with the Romanian
Adoption Office:

Bogdan Panait: “We are open to amendments. The law in
its present form is a living law, meaning it is undergoing changes, so that
whatever we didn’t take into account from the very beginning can be regulated as
things go along, so that in the next three years we have a law that is
completely in line with the interests of the child and totally meets the needs
of this nation”.


The most important thing for the institutionalized
child is to have a family, even if he or she lives in another country. The new
law on adoptions, which came into force on April 7th, opens the door for
international adoptions. Not for foreign citizens, but for Romanians living
abroad. Here is Ramona Popa, cabinet manager for the Romanian Adoption Office:



Ramona Popa: “We have expanded the range of persons who may adopt a
child in Romania to Romanian citizens residing abroad. So far, the means by
which a national or international adoption was defined was country of residence.
Now the principle is where one’s usual residence is. We have widened the range
of people who may adopt children to Romanians whose primary residence is
abroad”.


The new law, which is child oriented, brings about another
interesting change: the family adopting the child must tell them the truth in
order to avoid future trauma. Here is Diana Pluhovici once again:



Diana Pluhovici: “I actually encourage families to tell, and the new
law makes it compulsory to tell children the truth, and that is a good thing. It
is true that you can’t tell a three year old, ‘you’re adopted’, but you can tell
him or her your family’s history, at least that’s what I did. I told her when I
met my husband, when I got married, and Antonia really wanted to hear it. A few
days ago she herself told me that she’d adopt a child, too”.


As she
waits for Antonia to grow up, Diana Pluhovici and the ADOR association have one
more wish: for Romania to declare June 2nd National Adoption Day. If that
happens, we hope as many children as possible will celebrate this day within
their own families, which is where they really belong.
The New Adoption Law
Last updated: 2012-05-28 12:42 EET
Adoptiile in Romania  We start with a point of view
recently voiced by the head of the Romanian Adoption Office, Bogdan Panait:


Bogdan Panait: ”We badly need to raise the awareness of all families; we
seriously need to raise the system’s awareness, but when things are not going
well in the family we need to find a solution so that children may live a normal
life. Nowhere around the world can a protection system provide a normal life. A
normal life can only be family life.”


A normal and caring family
that really wants you and where you can feel safe; that’s what any child around
the world wants. Recently, Romania has taken yet another step further to make
such a wish come true, passing a new adoption law. And, as “no one can live a
normal life in the system”, as the State Secretary with the Romanian Adoption
Office Bogdan Panait said in the beginning, the new law is trying to speed up
the entire procedure setting up clear deadlines. Speaking now is Ramona Popa, a
Cabinet Manager with the Romanian Adoption Office.


Ramona Popa: “For
children whose parents are unknown, the file can be submitted to court within 30
days since the birth certificate was issued. For children whose parents say from
the very beginning they do not want to look after them and want to give them up
for adoption, both they and their relatives up to four times removed can submit
the file to court within 60 days since the parents or the relatives issue their
last statement.”


Although statistics mention around 67 thousand
institutionalized children, the old legal provisions allowed for a limited
number of those children to be eligible for adoption. However, in Romania there
are around 1,700 families who want to adopt a child. Dina Pluhovici is the
president of the Bucharest Branch of the ADOR Copiii Association, the community
of adoptive families. She will now be sharing with us her experience of adoptive
parent.


Diana Pluhovici:” Under the old law, if we wanted a child to
be declared eligible for adoption we needed the consent of the relatives up to
four times removed. Now let’s be honest: I myself don’t know who my relatives
four times removed are, let alone the institution who goes at all lengths to dig
into the family history. A provision of the new law states that the very moment
a social protection measure is stipulated for the child, and if for a whole year
the family as well as the identified four-times-removed relatives do not wish to
get involved in the upbringing of the child, that particular child should become
eligible for adoption. My little girl became eligible for adoption almost four
years ago when she was about three years and eight months old. Three years and
eight months of doing nothing and letting that child in the system, depriving
her of the right to be raised in the middle of a loving and harmonious family!
And also with no balanced upbringing. Especially from an emotional point of
view, as these children have already been going through a trauma. The trauma of
being abandoned.”


Now Diana Pluhovici is the mother of Antonia, a
little girl of Rroma origin, whom the old adoption law had her spend almost five
years in the system before she was entitled to having a family.



Diana Pluhovici:” When I met her, my daughter was 4 years and 9
months old. A rather old child who, according to the statistics of the Romanian
Adoption Office was a child hard to adopt. However, her age did not bother us.
It was all we wanted: to become parents. We were not particularly interested in
her condition or her ethnic roots, I just said I wanted to be a mother. I wasn’t
interested in anything else. And that despite the fact that the moment I was
shown her file I saw she was a child with an Apgar 1 score, a resuscitated child
with a neurological condition. But that didn’t matter at all. I said I wanted to
see the child. And the moment I saw that little browned eyed wonder, who was
trying to draw your attention, all those things didn’t matter at all.”



Even though the diagnosis proved not to be accurate, and Antonia
turned out to be a perfectly normal child, there still was a problem: the new
family had a period of accommodation, with psychological blocks and fits of
rage. This is often encountered in families that bring in a new child all of a
sudden, and some time is needed for things to settle. From this point of view,
the law omitted a very important aspect, according to Diana Pluhovici and the
ADOR association.


Diana Pluhovici: “Since we adopted an older child
we got no parental leave for raising and caring for the child. This is a
problem, and it persists. You can’t tell the child ‘Well, we’ll spend this
weekend with you, but on Monday I’m going to work, you will go to kindergarten,
your babysitter or grandma will pick you up and that’s it.’ You cannot that,
because then it’s a failed adoption, and no one wants that.”


The
good news is that the law allows changes as long as they support and speed up
the adoption procedures. Here is Bogdan Panait, undersecretary with the Romanian
Adoption Office:

Bogdan Panait: “We are open to amendments. The law in
its present form is a living law, meaning it is undergoing changes, so that
whatever we didn’t take into account from the very beginning can be regulated as
things go along, so that in the next three years we have a law that is
completely in line with the interests of the child and totally meets the needs
of this nation”.


The most important thing for the institutionalized
child is to have a family, even if he or she lives in another country. The new
law on adoptions, which came into force on April 7th, opens the door for
international adoptions. Not for foreign citizens, but for Romanians living
abroad. Here is Ramona Popa, cabinet manager for the Romanian Adoption Office:



Ramona Popa: “We have expanded the range of persons who may adopt a
child in Romania to Romanian citizens residing abroad. So far, the means by
which a national or international adoption was defined was country of residence.
Now the principle is where one’s usual residence is. We have widened the range
of people who may adopt children to Romanians whose primary residence is
abroad”.


The new law, which is child oriented, brings about another
interesting change: the family adopting the child must tell them the truth in
order to avoid future trauma. Here is Diana Pluhovici once again:



Diana Pluhovici: “I actually encourage families to tell, and the new
law makes it compulsory to tell children the truth, and that is a good thing. It
is true that you can’t tell a three year old, ‘you’re adopted’, but you can tell
him or her your family’s history, at least that’s what I did. I told her when I
met my husband, when I got married, and Antonia really wanted to hear it. A few
days ago she herself told me that she’d adopt a child, too”.


As she
waits for Antonia to grow up, Diana Pluhovici and the ADOR association have one
more wish: for Romania to declare June 2nd National Adoption Day. If that
happens, we hope as many children as possible will celebrate this day within
their own families, which is where they really belong.

The New Adoption Law

The New Adoption Law
Last updated: 2012-05-28 12:42 EET
Adoptiile in Romania  We start with a point of view
recently voiced by the head of the Romanian Adoption Office, Bogdan Panait:


Bogdan Panait: ”We badly need to raise the awareness of all families; we
seriously need to raise the system’s awareness, but when things are not going
well in the family we need to find a solution so that children may live a normal
life. Nowhere around the world can a protection system provide a normal life. A
normal life can only be family life.”


A normal and caring family
that really wants you and where you can feel safe; that’s what any child around
the world wants. Recently, Romania has taken yet another step further to make
such a wish come true, passing a new adoption law. And, as “no one can live a
normal life in the system”, as the State Secretary with the Romanian Adoption
Office Bogdan Panait said in the beginning, the new law is trying to speed up
the entire procedure setting up clear deadlines. Speaking now is Ramona Popa, a
Cabinet Manager with the Romanian Adoption Office.


Ramona Popa: “For
children whose parents are unknown, the file can be submitted to court within 30
days since the birth certificate was issued. For children whose parents say from
the very beginning they do not want to look after them and want to give them up
for adoption, both they and their relatives up to four times removed can submit
the file to court within 60 days since the parents or the relatives issue their
last statement.”


Although statistics mention around 67 thousand
institutionalized children, the old legal provisions allowed for a limited
number of those children to be eligible for adoption. However, in Romania there
are around 1,700 families who want to adopt a child. Dina Pluhovici is the
president of the Bucharest Branch of the ADOR Copiii Association, the community
of adoptive families. She will now be sharing with us her experience of adoptive
parent.


Diana Pluhovici:” Under the old law, if we wanted a child to
be declared eligible for adoption we needed the consent of the relatives up to
four times removed. Now let’s be honest: I myself don’t know who my relatives
four times removed are, let alone the institution who goes at all lengths to dig
into the family history. A provision of the new law states that the very moment
a social protection measure is stipulated for the child, and if for a whole year
the family as well as the identified four-times-removed relatives do not wish to
get involved in the upbringing of the child, that particular child should become
eligible for adoption. My little girl became eligible for adoption almost four
years ago when she was about three years and eight months old. Three years and
eight months of doing nothing and letting that child in the system, depriving
her of the right to be raised in the middle of a loving and harmonious family!
And also with no balanced upbringing. Especially from an emotional point of
view, as these children have already been going through a trauma. The trauma of
being abandoned.”


Now Diana Pluhovici is the mother of Antonia, a
little girl of Rroma origin, whom the old adoption law had her spend almost five
years in the system before she was entitled to having a family.



Diana Pluhovici:” When I met her, my daughter was 4 years and 9
months old. A rather old child who, according to the statistics of the Romanian
Adoption Office was a child hard to adopt. However, her age did not bother us.
It was all we wanted: to become parents. We were not particularly interested in
her condition or her ethnic roots, I just said I wanted to be a mother. I wasn’t
interested in anything else. And that despite the fact that the moment I was
shown her file I saw she was a child with an Apgar 1 score, a resuscitated child
with a neurological condition. But that didn’t matter at all. I said I wanted to
see the child. And the moment I saw that little browned eyed wonder, who was
trying to draw your attention, all those things didn’t matter at all.”



Even though the diagnosis proved not to be accurate, and Antonia
turned out to be a perfectly normal child, there still was a problem: the new
family had a period of accommodation, with psychological blocks and fits of
rage. This is often encountered in families that bring in a new child all of a
sudden, and some time is needed for things to settle. From this point of view,
the law omitted a very important aspect, according to Diana Pluhovici and the
ADOR association.


Diana Pluhovici: “Since we adopted an older child
we got no parental leave for raising and caring for the child. This is a
problem, and it persists. You can’t tell the child ‘Well, we’ll spend this
weekend with you, but on Monday I’m going to work, you will go to kindergarten,
your babysitter or grandma will pick you up and that’s it.’ You cannot that,
because then it’s a failed adoption, and no one wants that.”


The
good news is that the law allows changes as long as they support and speed up
the adoption procedures. Here is Bogdan Panait, undersecretary with the Romanian
Adoption Office:

Bogdan Panait: “We are open to amendments. The law in
its present form is a living law, meaning it is undergoing changes, so that
whatever we didn’t take into account from the very beginning can be regulated as
things go along, so that in the next three years we have a law that is
completely in line with the interests of the child and totally meets the needs
of this nation”.


The most important thing for the institutionalized
child is to have a family, even if he or she lives in another country. The new
law on adoptions, which came into force on April 7th, opens the door for
international adoptions. Not for foreign citizens, but for Romanians living
abroad. Here is Ramona Popa, cabinet manager for the Romanian Adoption Office:



Ramona Popa: “We have expanded the range of persons who may adopt a
child in Romania to Romanian citizens residing abroad. So far, the means by
which a national or international adoption was defined was country of residence.
Now the principle is where one’s usual residence is. We have widened the range
of people who may adopt children to Romanians whose primary residence is
abroad”.


The new law, which is child oriented, brings about another
interesting change: the family adopting the child must tell them the truth in
order to avoid future trauma. Here is Diana Pluhovici once again:



Diana Pluhovici: “I actually encourage families to tell, and the new
law makes it compulsory to tell children the truth, and that is a good thing. It
is true that you can’t tell a three year old, ‘you’re adopted’, but you can tell
him or her your family’s history, at least that’s what I did. I told her when I
met my husband, when I got married, and Antonia really wanted to hear it. A few
days ago she herself told me that she’d adopt a child, too”.


As she
waits for Antonia to grow up, Diana Pluhovici and the ADOR association have one
more wish: for Romania to declare June 2nd National Adoption Day. If that
happens, we hope as many children as possible will celebrate this day within
their own families, which is where they really belong.

Lumos - Assessment children "Childhood for All"

“Childhood for all”

28 May 2012

The State Agency for Child Protection, the Agency for Social Assistance and Lumos Bulgaria met with the parents of 1252 children with disabilities living in institutions in order to explore their willingness and possibilities to maintain contact with them. The assessment took place within the framework of the project “Childhood for all” aimed at deinstitutionalization of children with disabilities. Such assessment is done for the first time in Bulgaria. During the meetings with the parents, the experts heard hundreds personal stories about the reasons of abandonment, the feeling of guilt, about the secrets kept for years.

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