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Hey guys...

I am a mom of a child by birth and two children from Ethiopia. Both times we used chsfs. (we would never again, ever btw...)

But you didn't want to hear that, here is what I am curious about:

Well, before I ask, I just want to say that both our adoptions had incorrect information about both our kids. First my son, we adopted him at the start of the ethiopia program for the agency. No info on papers except everyone died and Uncles name. My son came to us with full blown TB. Everywhere. Lungs, heart etc. He would of died in 6 months in Ethiopia. (He is better now btw) Oh, and the TB wasn't on the paperwork either :(

We decide to adopt our little girl. When we brought home our son, there was no video, birth family meeting etc. So we requested that while we were down in Hosanna could someone try to contact my son's uncle. They did. So we had my daughters birth mother to meet and my son's uncle showed up. First my daughters birth mom... she clearly had some sort of mental illness so who knows what is true on my daughters paperwork... ie: did they coerce her to give up my daugher? who knows with 2 interpreters and this is the kicker; an employee of chsfs told me and I quote, 'she is waiting for you to give her money now.' 'That is what all families have done here...' WHAT???
Now my son, the first words out of the uncles mouth was (in english as he was the village maths teacher), 'I am sorry, we lied.' He thought that if my son had any living birth parents that they wouldn't except him. He said he would like to show us my son's village. The dream of every AP right? Visit where their child was born etc. My life has never been the same from that moment we arrived in a beautiful valley near Doyo Gena. There were no less than 45 relatives to meet!!!! Birth mother, with a NEw Baby on her hip, birth sister just a few years older than my son. She looked just like him!! Uncles, aunties, even maternal grandmother and grandfather. I know my son was sick and probably would not of made it, and that is why they made that decision. (and his birth father did pass) Don't ask me where that new baby came from....

Ok ok , so this is what I am wondering:
Has anyone who has found out that their children had so much false info. and if it wasn't for IA, has anyone brought their children back to their first family??

And before you think that I would, forget it! My son is my son. There I said it. Have I thought about it? God yes. But no. He Is My Son now. I just need to say this because from everything that I have read so many parents are telling their stories. Has anyone ever done this and what was the outcome, we Never talk about that. The adults who have been adopted and don't believe in International adoption etc have they just ever gone back??

Also, in the eyes of the U.S. government, where do they stand? If we all come together to stop IA from Ethiopia and really tell them our stories, would they revoke our 'parentship' for lack of a better word and send them back??

These are honest questions from my heart that I have thought and thought about. Dani, what do you think?

Brangelina want to adopt Haitian girl

Brangelina want to adopt Haitian girl
February 8 2011 at 12:42pm 

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Angelina Jolie and her husband Brad Pitt, left, arrive for the Golden Globe Awards.
Angelina Jolie is reportedly set to adopt a fourth child.
The ‘Tourist’ actress wants to open up her and partner Brad Pitt’s home to a four-year-old girl called Leah who lost her entire family in the earthquake that devastated Haiti in 2010.
Angelina – who already has three adopted children, Maddox, nine, Pax, seven, and Zahara, six, and naturally conceived Shiloh, four, and two-year-old twins Knox and Vivienne – first met the child in February 2010, a month after the natural disaster, and the child is expected to go visit her and Brad and their other children before the adoption is authorised in the latter stages of this year.
A source told the Daily Mirror newspaper: “Angelina’s lawyers are in the process of getting an authorisation so Leah can spend some time with her in America. That’s standard procedure, basically they need to make sure Leah will adapt well.
“A lot of observers from groups such as the Red Cross are ensuring that Angelina is treated like anybody else and not fast tracked, which would be viewed insidiously.”
There are worries adoption authorities in the small Caribbean nation may not be able to cope with the massive interest in Angelina’s plans, but the 35-year-old screen star determined to get through the “final steps” to adopt Leah.
The source added: “There is also a concern about the Haitian authorities not being able to deal with such international pressure. But for now, Angelina is almost reaching the final steps of the gruelling adoption process.
“If Leah fits well within her family in the States, she will be able to adopt her.” - Bang Showbiz

BFA revoking of licence

U.S. DEPARTMENT OF STATE
Bureau of Consular Affairs
Office of Children’s Issues

_______________________________________________________________________________________________________
February 8, 2011
On December 9, 2010, the Government of Ethiopia revoked the Better Futures Adoption Services’ registration to operate in Ethiopia because of the organization’s misuse of its license in activities concerning the welfare of children.
The U.S. Embassy strongly recommends that prospective adoptive parents who have entered into an agreement with Better Futures Adoption Services, or who are planning to adopt through Better Futures Adoption Services, seek the advice of a legal professional.
The Embassy's Adoptions Unit can be reached at consadoptionaddis@state.gov.
Please continue to monitor http://adoption.state.gov/ for updated information as it becomes available.

Fiji - Overseas adoption query

Overseas adoption query

Elenoa Baselala
Monday, February 07, 2011

THE Government will soon work on having inter country agreements on the adoption of children.

Social Welfare permanent secretary Govind Sami said his department had received enquiries regarding the matter from other countries, particularly our metropolitan neighbours, Australia and New Zealand.

However, because of the lack of an agreement between the countries, adoption of Fijian children by foreigners had been put on hold, Mr Sami said.

The department, however, is still processing local adoptions.

Mr Sami said the process could take six to eight months before approval was given for the legal adoption of a child.

He said, potential parents would be screened and put through various checks.

Following the adoption, there is a "cooling period" before the department will check on the child and the "new" family again.

Children who come under State care usually are either abandoned, victims of abuse or have nowhere else to go, Mr Sami said.

"The recent statistics from the ministry and the police reveal that between the years 1995 to 2009 a total of 1008 cases of child neglect were reported followed by the following: 666 sexual cases, 610 physical abuse, 430 beyond control cases, 314 abandon and lost cases, 250 cases of emotional abuse.

"The cost of neglect cannot be measured in dollars. It has lifelong repercussions to an individual and society," the permanent secretary said.

Mercy's Family To Sue Madonna

Mercy's Family To Sue Madonna
Press Trust of India
Sunday, February 06, 2011 (London)
  
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Madonna's adopted Malawian daughter's family is threatening to sue the 'Queen of Pop', claiming that she did not keep her promise to let them see the 5-year-old.

The family has claimed that they were guaranteed regular contact with Mercy James, when the 52-year-old adopted her from an orphanage in June 2009, reported a website.

But they have not seen her since, despite Madonna having made two return visits to Malawi with Mercy and the family have now enlisted the help of Malawi's leading civil rights group CILIC to prepare a legal case.

"I believe they have a case in law because there appears to have been a verbal contract between them and Madonna's representatives. I am preparing a letter which will appeal to Madonnas lawyer Alan Chinula to intervene on the family's behalf and ask Madonna to kindly let Mercy meet her family," said Emmie Chanika, director of CILIC.

The child, whose 16-year-old mother died five days after giving birth, was raised by her grandmother and uncles, but placed in the care of the Kondanani Children;s Village when they could no longer look after her.

Mercy's grandmother Lucy Chekechiwa, said the family always intended to bring Mercy back to live with them once she was six, when they believed her immune system would be strong enough to tackle the country's endemic diseases.

"The baby needed feeding and the orphanage offered me a wet-nurse to take care of that. We know Madonna gave a lot of money to the orphanage, and the people there persuaded us to let her have our child," said the 72-year-old.

Mercy was the second Malawian child adopted by Madonna, who has two older children from two previous relationships, 14-year-old Lourdes and Rocco, ten.

In 2008 she adopted one-year-old David Banda from an orphanage in the capital city Lilongwe. He was taken back to meet his father Yohane Banda for the first time in three years in March 2009.

Madonna could face lawsuit from Mercy's family

Madonna could face lawsuit from Mercy's family

by Candy Bellinger, Feb 6th 2011

The family of Mercy James, Madonna's adopted daughter, are reportedly considering taking legal action against the Queen of Pop.

Mercy's Malawian family claim Madge agreed that they would have regular contact with the five-year-old but have neither seen nor heard from her since the adoption in 2009.

According to the Daily Mail, the family have now turned to civil rights group CILIC for help.

Emmie Chanika, director of CILIC, told the newspaper: "Mercy's family have met me several times over the past year and they have been very upset.

"They have a strong recollection of being told that they would be able to see Mercy and have regular contact with her - and that when she is an adult she will return to live with them in Malawi."

Mercy's 16-year-old mother died soon after childbirth and she was raised by her grandmother and uncles. But when they were no longer able to look after her, she was placed in the care of the Kondanani Children's Village, from which Madge adopted the little girl.

A lawyer is now reportedly "looking into" the case and the family hope to reach a "proper agreement" with the singer.

Meanwhile Madge is also facing criticism over her plans for a girls' school in Chinkhota, Malawi.

Two years ago, the press were on hand to capture the moment the pop superstar laid a foundation brick for the facility but apparently, building work has since ground to a halt.

However, a statement posted on Madge's Raising Malawi website said: "My original vision is now on a much bigger scale. I want to reach thousands not hundreds of girls.

"I want to do more and I want to do it better."

Ben Phiro, spokesman for Malawi's Ministry of Education, told the Mail: "Madonna has said she has changed her plans and wants to build community schools instead of the academy but we know nothing about this.

"Her lawyers ought to know better."

What do you think? Should Mercy have regular contact with her Malawian family? Leave a comment below...

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After nearly five years of searching, a village in Quang Binh is finally getting answers about the fate of 13 children

After nearly five years of searching, a village in Quang Binh is finally getting answers about the fate of 13 children


A Ruc mother in Quang Binh Province holds up photos of her two children. She claims a local center sent them out of the country without her consent.

The Italian International Adoption Commission has pledged to cooperate with Vietnamese authorities in reviewing accusations from an ethnic minority community that a welfare and education center conned them out of 13 of their children.

Without their knowledge, the families claimed, their children were sent abroad for adoption back in 2006.

The accusations were initially dismissed by local authorities.

Last year, a UNICEF-commissioned report brought their allegations to light once again. The report cites a Danish anthropologist working in the area as saying that the children had been adopted by American and Italian couples.

Late last year, Quang Binh Provincial authorities issued an apology to the Ruc parents.

Since then, the Italian Embassy has reviewed specific information regarding five of these children and has confirmed that four are in Italy.

The US Embassy has refused to confirm or deny these allegations, citing privacy rights.

The fate of the other nine remains a mystery, for now.

Last week, Italian officials said that the adoptions were conducted in a legitimate fashion.

“We emphasize that the dossiers on the thirteen children, whose names we got only in December 2010, have been thoroughly investigated,” said Daniela Bacchetta, vice president of the Italian Commission for International Adoption. “Even today, they appear to be flawless.”

Despite her confidence in the legitimacy of the adoptions, Bacchetta said the case remains open.

“Should the outcome of the investigation carried out by the Vietnamese authorities confirm the assumptions of irregularities, we would agree on the steps to take with the Vietnamese Central Authority,” she said.

Earlier this month, Thanh Nien Weekly reported that the birthparents of 13 Ruc children in the north-central province of Quang Binh had come forward and claimed that they had been deceived by the employees of a provincial assistance center.

The parents, most of whom are impoverished and illiterate, claimed that representatives from the center had offered to educate and care for their children in a nearby town.

As a result, they turned them over in early 2006.

Six months later, they claimed, the kids were gone and no one would tell them where they were.

The center director Le Thi Thu Ha recently told Vietnamese media sources that all 13 children were turned over to an Italian adoption agency.

The Sai Gon Giai Phong newspaper quoted Ha as saying that all of the children were being brought up in Italy, mostly around the southern city of Naples.

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Dr. Peter Bille Larsen worked in Quang Binh in the late 1990s. In 2008, he says, he alerted Vietnamese authorities and embassies of the parents’ complaints.

Larsen, familiar with the Ruc community, helped deliver specific information and documents regarding five children to Vietnamese authorities in 2008.

The Italian authorities reviewed these recently, and confirmed that four were living in Italy. The fifth, they say, must be somewhere else.

The UNICEF report released last November claimed that some of the children had also been adopted by American couples. Larsen also said that American adoption agencies were operating in the region in 2006, though he could not confirm whether or not the children were in the US.

In 2008, the US and Vietnam agreed not to renew their bilateral adoption agreement.

However, US embassy officials could not confirm nor deny that any of the thirteen children had been adopted by American couples.

“Due to privacy rights, we are not able to release information about US citizen adoptive parents or adoptees from the Quang Binh Province,” a US State Department official said.

Lorenzo Angeloni, the Italian Ambassador to Vietnam, confirmed that the Italian Commission for International Adoption (CAI) is conducting its own assessment of the issue.

Ambassador Angeloni said that five Ruc children were processed by the Italian organization.

“CAI is well aware of the investigations regarding five children belonging to the Ruc minority (please note that only five children were adopted through Italian organization[s]) and is conducting assessment on the matter,” he wrote in an email.

Bacchetta claimed that only four children were adopted by Italian parents and that all related procedures were conducted with “flawless, comprehensive and conclusive” documents.

“No trace of the fifth child could be found and hence he was not adopted by any Italian couple,” she said.

Asked to clarify a possible contradiction between her and Angeloni’s statements about the number of children adopted, Bacchetta said: “I confirm my previous statements [ ... ] Ambassador Angeloni’s statement had a more general approach, based on our comments to the UNICEF/ISS draft, without the update I have thoroughly explained.”

Bacchetta said the Italian authorities were surprised by the figure, thirteen.

“Only after reading the report drafted by the International Social Service on behalf of UNICEF did we learn that the procedures that allegedly caused concern involved 13 children,” she said.

However, Larsen questioned this assessment.

He said documentation sent to Italian authorities included official letters by the social authorities saying the children would be returned to families “upon improved conditions.”

“The so-called letters giving all rights to the center, on the contrary, were handwritten, undated (except for the year 2005) – and signed by illiterate parents,” he said.

He said testimonies from birthparents have revealed a lack of parental consent. They discovered that their children were adopted after approaching the center, and in some cases, birthdate change.

“How this can be considered flawless is still a mystery or is this really representative of businessas-usual in the adoption system? I hope not.”

Larsen said that from 2008, authorities had been encouraged to undertake thorough investigations of all suspected Ruc cases (estimated then to be around 13) as well as others undertaken in the province. He said countries with active adoption agencies in the province, including both the US and Italy, have been encouraged to investigate all adoption cases undertaken in the province.

“There is a risk and concern that the Ruc may not have been the only parents experiencing such kinds of irregularities. We will soon learn about the true extent of these practices in the concerned center and province from a more comprehensive investigation,” he said.

Amidst all the systematic irregularities revealed in the case, it is most important to consider that after all these years, Ruc birthparents are still hoping to see their children again. “The case should not get lost in bureaucratic corridors and legal procedures,” he said.

 

After 18 months, adoptions at Pune's Preet Mandir resume

After 18 months, adoptions at Pune's Preet Mandir resume

Published: Saturday, Feb 5, 2011, 10:11 IST

By Bhagyashree Kulthe | Place: Pune | Agency: DNA

A ray of hope has dawned upon a number of orphans in Preet Mandir, whose adoptions had been held up for the last one-and-a-half years. On Thursday, a 2-year-old girl was finally united with her South African adoptive parents, bringing joy all around.

This was the first adoption at Preet Mandir after the Bombay high court’s green signal to resume the process, which had been halted for many months following a Central Bureau of Investigation (CBI) probe against the adoption agency.

Government simplifies adoption procedure

Government simplifies adoption procedure

By: Hungary Around the Clock
2011-02-04 09:42

The cabinet expects simplified adoption procedures and the introduction of related child care benefit to lead to a rise in adoptions, social affairs state secretary Miklós Soltész told reporters on Thursday.

 

Child care benefit for those who adopt children up to age ten has been available since January 1.

 

One of the adoptive parents may stay at home with the child for six months even if the child is beyond the age at which maternity benefits would be paid.

 

The number of adoptions has fallen in the past ten years. At present about 2,000 couples are waiting to adopt babies.

 

These changes are expected to persuade more women to give birth and give up their babies for adoption instead of having abortions, Soltész said. He added that abortion cannot be banned, nor is it worth banning it.

 

He confirmed that no changes are planned to regulations on adoptions for same-sex couples.