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Five Years in Reunion as an International Adoptee

I am a Chinese International Transracial Adoptee. I reunited with my biological family five years ago. Five years ago already, and going on six years soon. Some days it still feels surreal and other days it feels like I have always known them. 

Six years ago, if you asked me when my birthday was, I would have said December 5, with an uncomfortable feeling and painful reminder of my unknown past. Now, I answer the same question with a pause of whether or not to share my birthday is July 16. If you asked me six years ago how many siblings I have, I would have said half the number I have now. 

 As a child, and even in my teenage years, I was told and convinced that if I was still in China I probably would not have made it through school. I would not have the same opportunities if I still lived there. I might have been hidden or, even yet, maybe not alive. I would not have had the medical care I needed. Being deaf, I would be rejected by society. I would have been poor because my family was assumed to be poor and would not have a “successful” or “happy” life. I wrestled with this supposed “truth” and “luck” I had over the years.

The wonders and beliefs continuously changed through different seasons of life. Sometimes, I could only hold anger because there was no other identifiable feeling. I often became numb and would find myself assimilating to the beliefs around me: “lucky”, “chosen”, “thankful”, “grateful”, and “God’s plan” even when I did not feel like those comments were true. Other seasons, I missed, grieved, and carried the weight of the ambiguous losses alone. 

The experience of the unknown often leaves uncertainty, anxiousness, fear, and confusion. As a child, the unknown was not concrete. The differing answers about my birth parents and my past were what I had to make sense of why I was here. My understanding of my past was based on many different theoretical situations and imaginary scenarios of what possibly happened and a few documents with almost no information. Not even my birthday or finding spot was known to be exactly correct.

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Greek Adoptee in US Discovers Biological Dad After 63 Years

A Greek adoptee in the US eventually discovered the identity of his biological father after 63 years thanks to the Eftychia Project.

The Project is a nonprofit organization that provides assistance and support free of charge to Greek adoptees searching for their roots and Greek families searching for their children lost to adoption.

Thousands of Greek children were sent from Greece for adoption abroad, mainly to the United States, through often questionable means during the Cold War decades of the 1950s and 1960s.

The story of the Greek adoptee retracing the past

Stephen Grater from Tennessee had saved the black-and-white photo of himself in his stepmother’s arms on the balcony of the “Mitera” baby center in Athens in May 1960 on his mobile phone. He was just four months old and preparing for a trip that would end in the United States.

A child of a surrogate mother, now a fighter against the industry

Something was just wrong, but Olivia Maurel did not know what. Until she found out that her parents paid for her. She found her biological mother after a long search.

Olivia Maurel always knew something was “off” about her birth. The secretive behaviour of her mother made it clear to her: the woman who raised her did not give birth to her. “There were no pictures of my pregnant mother, and I am five days old in the first pictures of me.”

The 31-year-old was born through surrogacy in the American state of Kentucky. In her home in Cannes, southern France, the now mother-of-three opens up about her search for her identity, the daily consequences of surrogacy and her fight against the legalisation of the practice in France. “We neglect the effect surrogacy has on children.”

Growing up as an only child in a well-off family, Maurel says she got everything she could ever ask for. “I had a very good education, and my parents dressed me in the best clothes.” However, emotionally speaking, Maurel claims to have lacked a lot. “It was difficult for me to grow up in a family where emotions and feelings were little talked about.”

Maurel faces the consequences of that every day. “My husband sometimes says that I hardly ever hug him. Well, no one ever taught me to hug.”

France suspends adoptions of children from Madagascar

This decision was justified by the conclusions of a report by the United Nations Committee on the Rights of the Child pointing out the flaws in adoption procedures in Madagascar.

International adoption procedures for children from Madagascar by people residing in France have been suspended, according to a decree published on Sunday, October 22, in the Official Journal (OJ) .

“All international adoption procedures concerning children habitually resident in Madagascar by any person habitually residing in France are suspended ,” according to this decree dated October 17.

Adoption procedures for Malagasy children were already subject to a provisional suspension for one year since October 2022.

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Transitieplan bemiddeling interlandelijke adoptie Oktober 2023 | Rapport | Rijksoverheid.nl - Transition plan for intercountry adoption mediation October 2023

The report contains a transition plan for the phasing out of the 4 permit holders for intercountry adoption and transfer of knowledge and skills to 1 Central Mediation Organization: the Intercountry Adoption Mediation Netherlands (IAN).

Apex Court Allows Woman Unable To Produce Oocytes To Undergo Surrogacy, Stays Provision In Surrogacy Rules Qua Petitioner

The Supreme Court yesterday allowed a 38 year-old woman with a congenital disorder known as Mayer-Rokitansky-Kuster-Hauser (MRKH) syndrome, also referred to as Müllerian Aplasia to undergo Surrogacy, as she is not able to produce oocytes in absence of the uterus. The bench further stayed the amendment Para 1(d) in Form 2 of the Surrogacy (Regulation) Rules, 2022 only with respect to the present petition. The medical reports of the District Medical Board read, "...that she (the petitioner) has absent ovaries and absent uterus, hence she cannot produce her own eggs (oocytes)". It is to be noted that the bench awaited a medical report on whether the petitioner is in a position to produce oocytes or not, owing to her medical condition.

The petitioner-woman intended to achieve motherhood through gestational surrogacy within the legal framework in India, however the substitution of Clause 1(d) in Form 2 which is the Consent of the Surrogate Mother and Agreement for Surrogacy read with Rule 7 of the Surrogacy (Regulation) Rules, 2022 made under the Surrogacy (Regulation) Act, 2021 restricted her to do so. As per the amendment, a couple undergoing surrogacy must have both gametes from the intending couple and donor gametes are not allowed.

Accordingly, a bench of Justice B.V. Nagarathna and Justice Ujjal Bhuyan observed, “…wife not being able to achieve parenthood owning to the ‘disability on account of an absence of uterus or repeatedly failed pregnancy, multiple pregnancies or an illness which makes it impossible for a woman to carry a pregnancy to viability or pregnancy that is life threatening’, the justification for necessitating surrogacy are all related to the woman or the wife and do not refer to the male at all. Therefore, the whole scheme of the Act revolves upon the ‘disability of the woman to conceive and have a normal child and the medical indications necessitating gestational surrogacy’ in Rule 14 explains the various circumstances which would incapacitate a woman from having a normal pregnancy and having a normal child. In such circumstances, therefore, the intending couple would have to have a child through a donor oocyte because in any of those conditions it may not be possible for the woman to produce oocytes. Otherwise, the Rule 14A which has to be read as part of Section 2r cannot be given effect to all, having regard to the Scheme of the Act”.

While noting that the couple had already commenced the procedure for becoming parents before the amendment came into force i.e. March 14, 2023, the bench further observed, “Therefore, the amendment which is now impeding the intending couple from achieving parenthood through surrogacy, we find is prima facie contrary to what is intended under the main provisions of the Act. In the circumstances, the Amendment is stayed, i.e. Clause 1(d) of Form 2 read with Rule 7 of the Rules, in so far as the petitioner herein is concerned. It is needless to observe that if the petitioner otherwise fulfils all other conditions mentioned under the Act, she is entitled to achieve parenthood through surrogacy”.

Senior Advocate Sanjay Jain appeared for the petitioner and ASG Aishwarya Bhati appeared for the respondent.

Welfare Of Child Is Of Paramount Consideration: Bombay HC Grants Guardianship To Caregiver Over Biological Parents

The Bombay High Court has allotted the Guardianship for a minor child to its caregiver finding the biological parents unfit for the same. The Court, after considering extensive evidence including medical reports, affidavits, WhatsApp communications, and photographs, emphasized the paramount importance of the child's welfare. The petitioner filed a Guardianship Petition seeking legal guardianship of a minor child. The petitioner provided evidence, including a report from Hospital and a discharge card, indicating that he was handed over to her with the consent of his biological parents.

A Bench of Justice R.I. Chagla found, “I have interacted with the minor child Gabriel in my Chambers and have found that he is extremely attached to the Petitioner. Further, the biological mother, Respondent No.2 has deep psychological issues and this was noticed whilst passing of this Order in Court as there was a huge commotion caused by the Respondent No.2 which disturbed Court proceedings. The Respondent No.1 is very aggressive and has acted in defiance of orders of this Court by stating that he will forcefully take Gabriel from the custody of the Petitioner.”

Advocate Filji Frederick appeared for the Petitioner and Advocate Rajiv Basant Chaudhary appeared for the Respondents.

The petitioner argued that she had been taking care of him since his birth, providing for all his needs and ensuring his well-being. The respondents, who were biological parents, contested the petitioner's claims, alleging that their child was forcibly taken from them and seeking his custody back.

The respondents filed affidavits denying the petitioner's contentions and claiming that they had requested his return, but the petitioner refused. The Court also considered WhatsApp communications and photographs, which showed the respondents visiting the child at the petitioner's residence and acknowledging the petitioner as his caregiver.

Inter-Country Adoptions: Delhi High Court Pulls Up CARA For Issuing Mere Support Letters Instead Of NOCs, Says Process Can't Be Made Onerous

JAGDISH SINGH SHARY v. CENTRAL ADOPTION RESOURCE AUTHORITY

 

Taking a grim view of the matter, the Delhi High Court has said that the issuance of no-objection certificates (NOCs) by Central Adoption Resource Authority (CARA) cannot be made onerous for those who opt for inter-country adoptions.

Justice Prathiba M Singh said that in terms of the modified Adoption Amendment Regulations, 2021, CARA is mandated to issue NOCs to Hague Adoption Convention ratified countries.

The court said that the “issuance of mere support letters is completely inexplicable, especially once the documentation is completed by the parties.”