Mary was adopted from Faith Home in Porur in 1973, and raised by her adopted parents in Lerum, Sweden.

CHENNAI: Ever since she was a child, Christina was drawn to the name Mary. She was adopted from Faith Home in Porur in 1973, and raised by her adopted parents in Lerum, Sweden. Her fascination was such that Christina decided to incorporate the name into her first business.

When she returned to Chennai in 2018, a document from the Madras High Court revealed that her birth name was Mary. The 46-year-old legally changed her name to Mary Christina Rhedin. While the papers gave her some answers, they also raised many questions - about her parents, her extended family and her half-brother, who she didn’t know existed.

What am I?

Seated in Café Mori, INKO, Mary’s laugh fills the air as she recalls the moment when she met her adoptive mother.

As per the data from the State Adoption Resource Agency (SARA) under the Department of Women Empowerment and Child Welfare (DWECW) only 50 children, the majority belonging to the age group of 0-5 years, were adopted in the State from the year 2016 till now. Officials state that girls and children with special needs are less likely to be adopted.

As per the data from the year 2016, only 26 children were adopted from Rajkiya Sishu Sadan in Dehradun and 18 children were adopted from Rajkiya Sishu Sadan in Almora. Only six children were adopted from the registered NGOs in last three years and 12 children are under process for adoption.

Providing further information regarding this, an official from DWECW said, “The kids in the 0-5 years age group get adopted soon but children above this age group are less preferred for adoption. The second less preferred category of children are those with special needs and girls. Even though we are growing and educating there is very less awareness when it comes to implementation.

The foreigners, however, are more active in adopting our children especially those with special needs rather than people from our state.”

The State Commission for Protection of Child Rights (SCPCR) chairperson Usha Negi said, “It is important that people of our state rise above the mentality of moulding a child in the way they want.

Parenthood: this is how you reduce a child to a remedy for childlessness - Nederlands Dagblad

Artificial generation of children through donors degrades the child into a means against childlessness. Not the desire to have children, but the interests of the child must come first.

In recent weeks, the work of fertility doctor Jan Karbaat has appeared in the media in a painful way. In addition to using his own sperm for fertilization of women, he carelessly dealt with medical data from - then anonymous - donors.

More than fifty people, so begotten, went to court. Seventeen of them had abnormalities due to insufficient monitoring of donors.

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2Bernard Sintobin, CEO ad interim van Unicef België.

RV Bernard Sintobin, CEO ad interim van Unicef België.

Unicef België ontslaat directeur definitief na beschuldigingen over adoptiefraude: “Geen andere keuze”

Het ontslag van de kersverse interim-directeur van Unicef België, Bernard Sintobin, was nodig gezien de aard van de beschuldigingen tegen hem. Dat heeft de voorzitter van Unicef België, Eddy Boutmans, gezegd op een persconferentie. Sintobin komt voor in een onderzoek van het federaal parket naar het verhandelen van kinderen uit Guatemala. Sintobin zelf is van plan klacht in te dienen wegens “laster en eerroof” tegen onbekenden.

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Talking about adoption with children is not easy. No matter how well counselled foster or adoptive parents are, or how prepared to handle the tough questions, finding the right words and the right approach is hard when it comes to speaking to your adopted child.

In India, adoption is still a delicate issue with many parents preferring to side step the subject, dress up the truth as a fable or simply hold out as long as they can. However, counsellors and therapists urge parents to normalise the concept of adoption, to start talking to their children about how they came to be a part of the family and to not make it a secret.

Even then, a little help in the form of a relatable story or an anecdote can go a long way in bolstering the confidence of adoptive parents who struggle to ease their children to the facts. Former actor turned child rights activist and author Nandana Dev Sen’s latest book, In My Heart intends to address this concern, with illustrations by Ruchi Mhasane and text that are perfect for interactive reading.

It tells the story of Mia, a little girl who is curious about where babies come from and with a little help from her parents, goes back to the place where she came from, to look for her “tummy mummy”. On her quest, she meets people who have all played an important part in her life, loved her and shared some beautiful moments with her. Even as Mia does not find her tummy mummy, she realises she is blessed with a different but extremely loving family and it makes her happy.

In My Heart is a deceptively simple and gentle story that takes on one of the most difficult parts of parenting an adopted child. Its tender moments and pleasant illustrations make for splendid bed time reading, with the trickiest issues addressed in a language that appeals to children.

Children with pedophile foster fathers

For years, Berlin youth welfare offices have sent children to pedophile foster fathers. The victims are still suffering from the consequences of abuse. The Youth Senator wants to work the cases. When asked for compensation for the victims, but the district office Tempelhof-Schöneberg cross.

They bought apple pie and put it in the middle of the table. But the cake remains untouched this afternoon in a small apartment in Berlin-Steglitz, where Marco and Sven tell their sheer unbelievable story. They both do not want to hear their real name on the radio. You are in your mid-thirties, spent almost half of your life with your foster father, Fritz H. "By a monster," they say today.

"We were raised by this man, just to fulfill his desires, to be there, if you should fulfill those wishes."

Sven was a foundling. Emaciated and ill, he came to his now deceased foster father, got to know Marco there.

The children that the Netherlands did not want to help

In the book "Forgotten by the Fatherland" Wilma van der Maten speaks with Indian women, who came to the Netherlands as orphans during the colonial period. "After independence, the Dutch state suddenly no longer felt responsible for the orphans she had removed from the kampung!"

the Dutch Indies administration was quite racist during the colonial period, according to the book "Forgotten by the Fatherland" that our correspondent Wilma van der Maten wrote. She spoke with orphans from then, now very old, who were then taken away from their brown mothers and ended up in a Dutch "asylum". White Dutchmen were not allowed to marry indigenous women. Indonesia celebrates 70 years of independence on Monday. The orphans from back then still feel abandoned by the Netherlands. The Netherlands left them alone after 1945.

“When I didn't ask for it, the Dutch government was on my doorstep to take me away from my mother. The social service has done this twice. Now that I am old and in need of help, they don't give home. Where did they go? ”, Jane Hardy (79) wonders. After her father, a sailor, drowned during the Battle of the Java Sea on 27 February 1942, this government service removed the "illegitimate children" from her mother in the kampung, the hamlet. The government refused to provide her mother, a native woman, with benefits. The rejection stated that she was not officially married to a Dutchman. "He lived in the Dutch East Indies, didn't he," says Jane. Her father drowned during one of the greatest naval battles in colonial history. Was the Netherlands not responsible for his death?

The children ended up in separate orphanages separately from each other. Jane was then still a toddler. The colonial administration considered her Javanese mother without a Dutch man by her side suitable for taking care of her children. Most "native" women could not read or write. There was a danger that the brown mothers would teach the little Indo-Europeans too much of her own Indian traditions. They knew nothing about Dutch culture. Her children spoke local dialects and felt happy for a long time in the slums where these women lived. That was a dangerous development and a threat to the colonial state. “Life in the kampung did not benefit the loyalty of the children to the Dutch authority. That was soon to come to an end ”, governor-general Marshal Herman Daendels reasoned at the time. In the orphanage they received a strict, nationalistic upbringing and vocational training. It was in the best interests of the child, according to the colonial government.

King Albert has already donated DNA this morning in the Boël case

King Albert II has already given a DNA sample this morning in the Delphine Boël case. VTM NEWS reports this and the news is confirmed by his lawyer. The former head of state thus complies with the judgment of the Court of Appeal.

The court of appeal in Brussels ordered King Albert II in a judgment of 16 May to surrender a DNA sample. Delphine Boël's lawyers had asked for such a test because Delphine wants to prove that Albert, 84, is her father.

At first, Albert did not respond to the court's question. But two weeks ago the Court of Appeal decided to oblige the king to provide the expertise. If he did not, he would have to pay a penalty of 5,000 euros per day. So it doesn't come to that.

After an extensive reading of the judgment and consultation with his lawyer, the king decided to undergo DNA expertise. "Because he respects the legal institution," says Albert's lawyer Alain Berenboom. The DNA sample has already been taken this morning, the lawyer confirms, after VTM NEWS brought out the news.

Bud Wichers, Pewarta, a Dutch national who was amazed at Surabaya

Until Now Didn't Know Who The Original Parent Is

His name doesn't match his face. Bud Wichers, a very Caucasian name. However, once you meet the person, everyone will be shocked. Because, his face is very Indonesian. The 42-year-old man was indeed the adopted child of a Dutch family born in Jakarta.

Hanaa Septiana, Surabaya

BUDIMAN Wichers is an Indonesian name. He was born to a poor family. Because he had no money, his parents left him with an orphanage. Budi, his nickname, was later adopted by Dutch citizens. Until now, Budi never knew who his original parents were. He was difficult to find out because of the limited data at that time.