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My Mom is a Blonde With Blue Eyes: Identity Crisis and Other Struggles of Indian Children Raised in White American Families

The social expectation is that adoptees should always be grateful for their adoption, ignoring the fact that it is a complicated, lifelong, and often traumatic journey.

Americans adopting children from India is not new. In 2021, India sent 245 children, the second largest after Colombia, for adoption, according to data released by the U.S. State Department. However, there is little research done on the lifelong impact of the adoption experience on the adoptees, especially in the adolescent years, and their families. Studies suggest that essential shifts in life roles and relationships occur in the post-high school period. In early adulthood, when the adoptees analyze their roots and belonging, it may trigger insecurities about their identity and self-worth.

In the adoption triad, there is the birth mother/family, child, and adoptive parents. Birth mothers and their families are constantly ignored or spoken of negatively in society. The adoptees, biologically separated from their mothers, are traumatized and yearn for love and a sense of belonging. The adoptive parents are often the voices one hears the most. Adoptees’ voices are not often heard.

It is, however, crucial to listen to their lived experiences. I have collected the life experiences of a few Indian adoptees who came to the U.S. in the 1980s and were mostly raised in small rural towns. I will focus on their self-identity and their identification shaped by myriad life experiences growing up in ‘foreign’ families vastly different from their roots. It is not only race and ethnicity that separates them, it is also their cultural backgrounds — language, religion, food, attire, and customs. Being separated from their birth families at a very young age, these children have tried to cope with racial and cultural differences. They have come a long way in making a space for themselves, shaping their careers, and building their families.

Transracial Adoption: A Few Case Studies

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Committee on the Family: Ban adoption from the Congo and establish expert body

Committee on the Family: Ban adoption from the Congo and establish expert body

25 January 2023

Zagreb - On Wednesday, the parliamentary Committee on the Family and Youth presented proposals to improve the law on inter-country adoptions, including a ban on adoptions from countries that are not signatories to the Hague Convention and for an expert body to monitor adoptions.

The Committee held a thematic session in light of the trial of eight Croatian citizens who went to Africa to adopt four children from the Democratic Republic of the Congo. They were arrested in neighbouring Zambia on charges of attempted child trafficking.

Most children are adopted from Colombia, Ukraine, China, India and South Korea, and according to data from 2020, DR Congo is only in 19th place, said Professor Dubravka Hrabar from the Faculty of Law in Zagreb.

Committee on the Family: Ban adoption from the Congo and establish expert body

Zagreb - On Wednesday, the parliamentary Committee on the Family and Youth presented proposals to improve the law on inter-country adoptions, including a ban on adoptions from countries that are not signatories to the Hague Convention and for an expert body to monitor adoptions.

The Committee held a thematic session in light of the trial of eight Croatian citizens who went to Africa to adopt four children from the Democratic Republic of the Congo. They were arrested in neighbouring Zambia on charges of attempted child trafficking.

Most children are adopted from Colombia, Ukraine, China, India and South Korea, and according to data from 2020, DR Congo is only in 19th place, said Professor Dubravka Hrabar from the Faculty of Law in Zagreb.

The Hague Convention on the protection of children and cooperation in connection with international adoption is a document that lays down standards aimed at preventing child trafficking. However, DR Congo is not a signatory to that document, warned Hrabar.

"We need to react urgently and ban adoptions from 'non-Hague countries'." This requires the coordination of various state bodies. I am concerned that we may be part of a wider chain of child trafficking because I know that there is drug, prostitution and child trafficking," said Hrabar.

US Woman Helps A’bad Children On Empathy

Human emotions and relations can heal sickness and truly warm the cockles of the heart. One such relationship has been between a 59-year-old American woman and Indian children whom she has come here to aid. These children suffer from the rare condition of bladder exstrophy, and she felt the need to help them after seeing her own adopted Chinese-origin daughter suffer from the same condition.

A number of pediatric patients and their parents come to meet her from near and far at an international programme at Ahmedabad Civil Hospital being run for the last 15 years.

Child adopted from orphanage

Florida resident Pamela Artigas hails from an affluent family. She said she wanted to do something for the community when she came to know that there was a child with a heart ailment at an orphanage run by XU Zhou Welfare organisation in China, who nobody was willing to adopt. Pamela adopted a little girl, Lily. After some time, she learnt that another 2-year-old was not getting adopted as she was suffering from bladder exstrophy, where her bladder was outside her body. The child was tied to a chair when Pamela saw her for the first time.

Pamela said, “I loved the child at first sight and soon started the procedure to adopt her. It takes 18 months to adopt a child in China. I contacted bladder exstrophy expert Dr Grady Richard in the US even before the process was complete.”

DIA - Danish International Adoption

Orphanages in Mumbai are being phased outIt happens once in a while that orphanages in DIA's cooperation countries close. This unfortunately applies to the Indian orphanage Bal Vikas.We have contact with several adoptees and adopters who are naturally worried about what will happen to adoption papers, for example, or who would like to see the orphanage again.Our adoption coordinator, Tina, is in close dialogue with the contact person in India, who is the long-time leader of Bal Vikas, Jaisita.There is not yet a concrete date for closing and the plan is that the adoption papers will be stored with an authority in Mumbai.Jaisita is currently working on getting more concrete information and as soon as we hear from her, we will announce more here, on Facebook and on the website.You can read more about the orphanage's phasing out on our website.

 

 

 

Børnehjem i Mumbai udfases

Dr Neela Gokhale Appointed As Additional Judge Of Bombay High Court

The Central Government has notified the appointment of Advocate, Dr. Neela Kedar Gokhale, as an additional judge of the Bombay High Court for a period of two years from the date when she assumes charge.

Gokhale is an alumni of Indian Law Societies’ Law College, Pune, having completed her LL.B in the year 1992. She went on to complete her LL.M. from the University of Pune and thereafter a Doctorate in Law from the Bundelkhand University, Jhansi, Uttar Pradesh. Her topic for Research was ‘Towards a common Law of Adoption’, having worked for many years in the field of domestic and International Adoption and having rendered pro bono services to institutions housing destitute women and children such as Kusumbai Motichand Mahila Seva Gram, Pune among others.

She has practiced Law at the District Level in Pune District Courts, including Family Courts and other Tribunals for about 7 years and thereafter continued her practice in the Supreme Court of India, New Delhi, since the year 2007. She has also advised Promoters, Builders and Developers in completing housing schemes, right from purchase of land, executing Development agreements, Flat booking agreements, examining the title, registration of societies among other things pertaining to drafting and conveyancing.

As far as litigation is concerned, she has been actively involved in appearing in matters of civil, criminal and constitutional nature before the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India, High Courts of Delhi and Bombay. She has also filed Public Interest Litigations in her own name as well as on behalf of persons interested in doing so, which include seeking an efficacious mechanism for voting rights for armed forces personal, challenging various gender-biased provisions, proceedings seeking codification of immunities and privileges for Parliamentarians etc, to name a few. Having specialized in service matters, she has represented many armed forces personnel of the Army, Navy and Air force before various constitutional courts and the Armed Forces Tribunal. She also conducts matters in respect of Family and Domestic Law.

She has also been on multiple panels over the years, including but not limited to Union of India, H.E. Chancellor, Uttar Pradesh, Indraprasth Gas Ltd., Patna University etc. Furthermore, she presently represents the Union of India before the Hon’ble Supreme Court, being on the Panel- A of the Lawyers chosen to represent the Union of India.

Our stories and our records belong to us

One of thousands of adoptees taken away from Greece in the 1950s and 60s, stripped of their citizenship and identities, shares her story story

It was under a bright, warm sun in June last year when I arrived at the Patriotic Institution for Social Welfare and Awareness (PIKPA), a building which holds secrets and history and heartache in its very bones. Comfortably set on a hillside of Penteli outside of Athens, I was there to find out more about myself. This was the place I likely came after I left an orphanage on my way to adoption by a Greek-American couple, strangers to my tiny self. I had issues with my lungs, which I still have 67 years later, and this is the place where people came for further treatment, for rehabilitation, a place to heal and rest.

This visit to PIKPA Penteli was part of my long journey to secure the remainder of my adoption records in order to learn about who I am and from whom I come. I came with journalist and award-winning podcaster Katerina Bakogianni, who is producing a series, “Born Greek,” about the so-called lost children of Greece. She was there as a friend and interpreter.

 

My mother gave birth to me at the Athens Maternity Hospital, which has long since been torn down. We spent nine precious days together. Somewhere. She took me to the Athens Municipal Orphanage (Vrefokomeio) and I became baby number 44488. From there, I went to PIKPA Penteli before going to a final foster home and then to America and new parents.

Family accused of ‘exorcisms,’ food restriction before 4-year-old died in Surry County, warrants reveal

SURRY COUNTY, N.C. (WGHP) — New details are emerging in the death of 4-year-old Skyler Wilson.

According to warrants, Joseph Wilson, who is charged along with his wife Jodi in the death of their adopted child Skyler Wilson, got a text from his wife that there was a “problem” with “swaddling” Skyler on Jan. 5. She also sent a picture of Skyler, wrapped in a sheet or a blanket face-down on the Wilsons’ living room floor with duct tape attaching him to the floor.

Skyler Wilson died on Jan. 9.

Japan probes Unification Church’s ‘shady’ child adoption deals

Japan’s government has ordered the Unification Church to comply with national child adoption rules amid allegations of unauthorized adoption among its believers' families.

Katsunobu Kato, Health, Labor, and Welfare minister, told reporters during a Jan. 23 press conference that an investigation is underway over the church’s shady adoption deals, the Mainichi reported.

“In connection with the adoption mediation business, the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare will provide the information collected… to the investigative authorities regarding the facts related to past adoptions,” Kato said.

The minister stated that a guidance document will be sent on the same day to the Unification Church.

Earlier on Dec. 9, 2022, a similar administrative notice was sent to the Unification Church highlighting the general interpretation of the adoption mediation law.