We interviewed adoptive parents about the adoption of their child. They wanted to participate anonymously. This interview is not specifically aimed at illegal adoption, but it does show how an adoption works.
The adoptive parents have adopted a girl from Hungary. At first she was told that she only had a developmental delay, but once she was in the Netherlands, she was found to have FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome). This can occur if the mother consumes alcohol during pregnancy. FAS is brain damage and/or damage to the central nervous system, which causes physical and psychological impairments. ( Htt p: //www.fasstichting.nl/)
How do you look back on your child's adoption process?
The process of adopting a child is a long one. If they indicate that they want to adopt a child, you must first follow a course. At the time, this was a six-day course in which all aspects surrounding the adoption of a child were discussed. This course is followed by discussions with the Child Protection Board. After these conversations you will (if all is well) get permission to adopt a child. Once you have permission, you find a brokerage organization and the long wait begins. This is because these organizations are looking for parents for a child that is put up for adoption and not the other way around. In practice, this means that you can, for example, be at the top of the waiting list for four years, but if there is no match with the children that are offered, you will not be assigned that child. With us it was the case that we were still orientating ourselves about the countries for which our mediation organization mediated. When we called with the question whether and for how long the waiting list for Hungary was still open, we were told that this waiting list would remain open for a while, but that if we wanted they already had a child available for us. So that was the world upside down, so to speak. The whole process took about two years, which is very short. We look back on the process with a good feeling, partly because it included a very extensive course. When we called with the question whether and for how long the waiting list for Hungary was still open, we were told that this waiting list would remain open for a while, but that if we wanted they already had a child available for us. So that was the world upside down, so to speak. The whole process took about two years, which is very short. We look back on the process with a good feeling, partly because it included a very extensive course. When we called with the question whether and for how long the waiting list for Hungary was still open, we were told that this waiting list would remain open for a while, but that if we wanted they already had a child available for us. So that was the world upside down, so to speak. The whole process took about two years, which is very short. We look back on the process with a good feeling, partly because it included a very extensive course.
After investigations it appears that your child has FAS, this was not revealed during the adoption procedure. Had this been known, would it have influenced your decision to adopt?
