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For Adoptive Parents, Questions Without Answers

Emily Berl for The New York Times

FAMILY Susan Merkel and her husband, Barry Leavitt, at home in Chesterfield, N.J., with their daughter, Maia, whom they adopted from China in 2007.

IN almost any adoption, the new parents accept that their good fortune arises out of the hardship of the child’s first parents. The equation is usually tempered by the thought that the birth parents either are no longer alive or chose to give the child a better life than they could provide.       


Emily Berl for The New York Times             

Judy Larch, with her daughters, Gabrielle, foreground, and Amanda, both from China, said she had faith in her adoption agency.                           

An area in Hunan Province in China was said to be a source for stolen children.                           

On Aug. 5, this newspaper published a front-page article from China that contained chilling news for many adoptive parents: government officials in Hunan Province, in southern China, had seized babies from their parents and sold them into what the article called “a lucrative black market in children.”       

The news, the latest in a slow trickle of reports describing child abduction and trafficking in China, swept through the tight communities of families — many of them in the New York area — who have adopted children from China. For some, it raised a nightmarish question: What if my child had been taken forcibly from her parents?

And from that question, inevitably, tumble others: What can or should adoptive parents do? Try to find the birth parents? And if they could, what then?       

Scott Mayer, who with his wife adopted a girl from southern China in 2007, said the article’s implications hit him head on. “I couldn’t really think straight,” Mr. Mayer said. His daughter, Keshi, is 5 years old — “I have to tell you, she’s brilliant,” he said proudly — and is a mainstay of his life as a husband and a father.       

“What I felt,” he said, “was a wave of heat rush over me.”       

Like many adoptive parents, Mr. Mayer can recount the emotionally exhausting process he and his wife went through to get their daughter, and can describe the warm home they have strived to provide. They had been assured that she, like thousands of other Chinese girls, was abandoned in secret by her birth parents, left in a public place with a note stating her date of birth.       

But as he started to read about the Hunan cases, he said, doubts flooded in. How much did he — or any adoptive parent — really know about what happened on the other side of the world? Could Keshi have been taken by force, or bought by the orphanage in order to reap the thousands of dollars that American parents like him donate when they get their children?       

In his home in Montclair, N.J., Mr. Mayer rushed upstairs to re-examine the adoption documents.       

According to the news reports, the children were removed from their families when they were several months old, then taken to the orphanages. “The first thing I did was look in my files,” he said, speaking in deliberative, unsparing sentences. According to his paperwork, his daughter had been found on a specific date, as a newborn.       

He paused to weigh the next thought.       

“Now, could that have been faked?” he said. “Perhaps. I don’t know. But at least it didn’t say she was 3 months old when she was left at the orphanage.”       

According to the State Department, 64,043 Chinese children were adopted in the United States between 1999 and 2010, far more than from any other country. Child abduction and trafficking have plagued other international adoption programs, notably in Vietnam and Romania, and some have shut down to stop the black market trade.       

But many parents saw China as the cleanest of international adoption choices. Its population-control policy, which limited many families to one child, drove couples to abandon subsequent children or to give up daughters in hopes of bearing sons to inherit their property and take care of them in old age. China had what adoptive parents in America wanted: a supply of healthy children in need of families.       

As Mr. Mayer reasoned, “If anything, the number of children needing an adoptive home was so huge that it outstripped the number of people who could ever come.”       

This narrative was first challenged in 2005, when Chinese and foreign news media reported that government officials and employees of an orphanage in Hunan had sold at least 100 children to other orphanages, which provided them to foreign adoptive parents.       

Mr. Mayer was not aware of this report or the few others that followed. Though he knew many other adoptive families, and was active in a group called Families With Children From China — Greater New York, no one had ever talked about abduction or baby-selling.       

“I didn’t even think that existed in China,” he said.       

Again he paused.       

“This comes up and you say, holy cow, it’s even more complicated than you thought.”       

“ADOPTION is bittersweet,” said Susan Soon-Keum Cox, vice president for public policy and external affairs at Holt International, a Christian adoption agency based in Eugene, Ore., with an extensive program in China. The process connects birth parents, child and adoptive parents in an unequal relationship in which each party has different needs and different leverage. It begins in loss.       

Adoptive parents and adoption agencies have powerful incentives not to talk about trafficking or to question whether a child was given up voluntarily, especially given how difficult it is to know for certain. Such talk can unsettle the children or anger the Chinese government, which might limit the families’ future access to the country or add restrictions to future adoptions. And the possible answer is one that no parent wants to hear.       

Most parents contacted for this article declined to comment or agreed to speak only on the condition of anonymity. Several said they never discussed trafficking, even with other adoptive parents. To a query from The New York Times posted on a Web forum for adoptive parents, one parent urged silence, writing, “The more we put China child trafficking out there, the more chances your child has to encounter a schoolmate saying, ‘Oh, were you stolen from your bio family?’ ”       

Such reticence infuriates people like Karen Moline, a New York writer and a board member of the nonprofit advocacy group Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform, who adopted a boy from Vietnam 10 years ago. “If the government is utterly corrupt, and you have to take an orphanage a donation in hundred-dollar bills, why would you think the program was ethical?” she said. “Ask a typical Chinese adoptive parent that question, and they’ll say, my agency said so. My agency is ethical. People say, the paperwork says X; the paperwork is legitimate. But you have no idea where your money goes.       

“Now you have to give $5,000 as an orphanage fee in China. Multiply that by how many thousand adoptions. Tens of millions of dollars have flowed out of this country to get kids, and you have no accounting for it.”       

Agencies say that cases of child abduction are few compared with the number of abandoned Chinese babies who found good homes in America. The abductions reported in August were of 16 or more children taken from their parents between 1999 and 2006. According to the investigation, population-control officials threatened towering fines for couples who violated the one-child policy because they were too young to be married or already had a child, or because they had themselves adopted the child without proper paperwork. When the parents could not pay, the officials seized the children and sent them into the lucrative foreign adoption system.       

“The incident when it happened was resolved quickly by the Chinese in a way that was drastic and made very clear that the Chinese would not tolerate trafficking,” said Ms. Cox, of Holt International. “I’m not saying there are not any other incidents, but people can be assured that the process in China is a good one.”       

A 2010 State Department report said there were “no reliable estimates” of the number of children kidnapped for adoption in China, but cited Chinese news media reports that said the figure might be as high as 20,000 children a year, most of whom are adopted illegally within the country, especially boys.       

But it is hard to know, said David Smolin, a professor at the Cumberland School of Law at Samford University in Birmingham, Ala., who has written extensively about international adoption and trafficking. Changes in China in the early 2000s — a rising standard of living, an easing of restrictions on adoption within the country, more sex-selective abortion — meant that fewer families abandoned healthy babies, Professor Smolin said.       

“Orphanages had gotten used to getting money for international adoption,” he said, “and all of the sudden they didn’t have healthy baby girls unless they competed with traffickers for them.”       

PROFESSOR SMOLIN has two daughters, whom he and his wife adopted from India as teenagers. Within six weeks the girls disclosed that they had been kidnapped from their birth parents. But when Professor Smolin and his wife tried to find the girls’ biological parents, he said, no one wanted to help.       

When he started to speak publicly about his experience, he met other parents in the same situation — hundreds of them, he said. “They all said they felt abandoned by adoption agencies and by various governments,” he said. “There’s a sense that other people in the adoption community did not want to hear about these circumstances. People were told that it was not a good thing to talk about. So you’re left alone with these practical and moral dilemmas, and that is overwhelming.” In the end, it took more than six years for the couple to find their daughters’ birth parents, by which time the girls were young adults.       

Susan Merkel, 48, who with her husband adopted their daughter, Maia, at 9 months old in August 2007, said that even within their own home, her husband did not like to talk about the possibility.       

“My husband really feels like it’s something that we don’t know whether that’s the case and would rather not think about it,” she said at her home in Chesterfield, N.J.       

But for Ms. Merkel, who is studying social work at Rutgers University, the uncertainty is haunting. Her daughter’s orphanage, in Hubei Province, which is immediately north of Hunan, is near an area known for strict enforcement of the one-child policy, and Ms. Merkel said she could not shake the possibility that a population-control official had seized her and turned her over to the orphanage.       

Ms. Merkel was adopted as a child, and said that meeting her birth mother had helped her understand her past and herself. What, then, was her responsibility as a parent — to find Maia’s birth parents, who might make a valid claim for her return? How could Ms. Merkel, who got so much out of meeting her own birth mother, not want that for her child? “What I do know is that she’s my daughter and I love her,” she said. “We’re giving her the best family and life that we can. And if she has questions someday, we’ll do all we can to help her find the answers.”       

Ms. Merkel said that she would support Maia’s meeting her birth parents if it was possible, but that she would not willingly return her to them, even if there was evidence that she had been taken.       

“I would feel great empathy for that person,” she said. “I would completely understand the anger and the pain. But I would fight to keep my daughter. Not because she’s mine, but because for all purposes we’re the only family she’s ever known. How terrifying that would be for a child to be taken away from the only family she knows and the life that she knows. That’s not about doing what’s right for the child. That’s doing what’s right for the birth mother.”       

BRIAN STUY, an adoptive father of three in Salt Lake City, runs a service called Research-China.org to help adoptive families learn about their children’s origins. When he has managed to contact birth parents, he said, most were content to learn that their children were alive, that they were healthy and in good homes. “Unfortunately, the reaction of most adoptive parents is to go into hiding,” Mr. Stuy said. “When they have suspicions, they don’t want to come forward.”       

Many parents simply never have suspicions. Tony X. Tan, an associate professor of educational psychology at the University of South Florida whose research specialty is adoption, surveyed 342 adoptive parents of Chinese children last month. Two-thirds said they “never” suspected that their children might have been abducted, and one in nine said they thought about it “sometimes.” Several said the paperwork from the orphanages was inconsistent or suspicious.       

One mother, who adopted two girls from different provinces, wrote, “My Guangxi daughter was adopted with a group of 11 other infants, all roughly the same age, and came home with an extremely detailed description of her first 11 months of life in her orphanage. Yet ‘her’ information was word-for-word the same as the info given the families of the other 11 children adopted at the same time — making it all too specific to be believable.”       

Judy Larch, a Macy’s executive who lives in Pelham, N.Y., said she adopted two girls from China, in 2001 and 2007, because she had heard good things about the program, and because she could adopt as a single woman. Though she has read about trafficking, she said, “I’ve never had any doubts or concerns about their adoptions.” She said she had faith in the adoption agency, Holt International.       

Such faith is small comfort to a woman named Ms. Chen, who said population-control officials in her hometown, Changle, in Fujian Province, took her daughter in 1999. Ms. Chen, who is in the United States illegally, applied for asylum as a dissident this year, but was denied. She declined to speak to The Times, but gave permission for a reporter to watch a videotaped interview conducted by a Christian group in Flushing, Queens, called All Girls Allowed, which works with women’s rights groups in China and maintains a database of photographs of missing children. Her story could not be corroborated.       

In the interview, Ms. Chen said that her first child, born in 1997, was a girl, and that she was under great pressure from her in-laws to produce a son. She became pregnant soon afterward, but this child, too, was a girl. Ms. Chen was in violation of the one-child law, which in her area allowed parents to have a second child after six years. Officials came to her with a choice: give up the second child — then 5 months old — or undergo tubal ligation.       

“I was holding my daughter and crying,” she said on the video. The official told her that if she gave up the child, in six years she could try again to have a son, she said. “I was afraid for my marriage,” she said. “Of course I didn’t want to give up the child. But I was afraid that without a boy my marriage wouldn’t last.”       

She said, “I handed her over meekly.”       

MR. MAYER, in Montclair, who also has an adopted son from Ethiopia, has accepted that he may never know the full truth about his daughter’s beginnings.       

After absorbing the revelations about trafficking, he said, he took a step back. “O.K., what does this mean to my life today? And how does it change my life today?” he said he asked himself. “And today it changes absolutely nothing about my life with Keshi. If I want Keshi to be able to question and to come to terms with the issues of why she would have been put up for adoption in the way she was, she’s going to ask these questions. This is just another one of those questions to which I don’t have a concrete answer. That’s my role as a dad.”       

In the future, families like his may have better answers. Parents or children may be able to search online databases of children whose birth parents say they were taken. For now, though, is it the parents’ duty to ask those questions? Or is it for children to decide, in time, how much they want to know?       

“I can’t change the past or change whatever anybody has done in China,” Mr. Mayer said. “What’s most important to me is there are real significant issues for my daughter coming of age and understanding her birth story. And I’m committed to supporting her in that and making sure that it’s as honest and truthful and supportive as possible. And that’s a scary thing.”       

Government Plans Fresh Changes In Armenian Child Adoption Rules

The Armenian government is planning to make fresh and potentially far-reaching changes in its rules and procedures for international adoptions of children from Armenia following an RFE/RL report suggesting that they may still be riddled with corruption. Relevant proposals drawn up by Prime Minister Tigran Sarkisian’s office aim to increase the transparency of the process and reduce the role of obscure local middlemen working for Western adoption agencies. They are also meant to make it easier for Armenian families to adopt or bring up orphans. An April 2011 report by RFE/RL’s Armenian service (Azatutyun.am) said that U.S. adoption agencies seem to continue to make thousands of dollars in informal payments to Armenian officials dealing with foreign adoptions. In particular, it cited a sample contract signed by one such agency, Hopscotch Adoptions, with Americans wishing to adopt Armenian and Georgian children. The contract, offered to a potential client in the United States in 2007, explained that almost $5,000 of more than $30,000 charged by Hopscotch for every adoption would be spent on “gifts to foreign service providers and government functionaries performing ministerial tasks as an offer of thanks for prompt service.” It claimed that such gifts are “customary” in Armenia and Georgia and do not violate U.S. law. “Gifts and gratuities” were also a separate spending category in a sample agreement that was offered by another U.S. agency, Adopt Abroad, at least until last April. Officials at the Armenian Ministry of Justice as well as anti-corruption campaigners in Yerevan agreed at the time that such payments amount to bribes and are therefore illegal in Armenia. Government sources say Prime Minister Sarkisian took the report very seriously, instructing his senior staff to initiate a major revision of existing adoption rules. They were quick to come up with relevant proposals. Those were submitted in June, along with copies of the Hopscotch contract obtained by RFE/RL, to an inter-agency government commission on adoptions headed by Justice Minister Hrayr Tovmasian. “The root cause of this problem is a lack of transparency, and we must do something about it,” one senior government official told RFE/RL’s Armenian service (Azatutyun.am). Under the existing rules, the Armenian Ministry of Labor and Social Issues draws up and keeps a national registry of children available for domestic and foreign adoption. The list is supposed to be accessible to prospective adoptive parents. U.S. -- A screenshot of the website of the Hopscotch Adoptions agency.. But according to a department on social affairs at the prime minister’s office, this has not been the case in reality as even government bodies have trouble accessing information about all children listed on the registry, officially called Manuk (Child) Database. In a written statement to the government, the Ministry of Labor said that the database comprised a total of 171 children (135 them kept in orphanages) as of May 1, 2011. However, the head of a ministry division handling adoptions, Lala Ghazarian, spoke of only about 90 such orphans when she was interviewed by RFE/RL’s Armenian service in April. In its written proposals discussed by Tovmasian’s commission this summer, the government department said that “in some cases” children’s inclusion in the database has been a mere formality that legalized pre-arranged adoptions fraught with “corruption risks.” It said this is especially true for healthy babies, the most in-demand category of orphans. The department suggested that the entire database be posted on the ministry website and made available to anyone considering an adoption from Armenia. Tovmasian is said to have personally backed the idea, which also envisages the creation of a separate electronic database of adoption applicants. The latter would thus be put in direct online contact with relevant Armenian authorities in the initial stages of the adoption process. Officials say this would narrow down the scope of shady activities of Armenian “facilitators” receiving lump sums from U.S. and other foreign agencies. Hopscotch paid them $10,500 per child at least until 2007, while Adopt Abroad currently charges a “facilitators fee” of as much as $19,000. Whether a part of this money is also spent on “gifts” is anybody’s guess. None of the Yerevan-based adoption brokers is known to be registered with tax authorities. Another major proposal from Prime Minister Sarkisian’s staff would increase from three to six months the minimum period of time, after an orphan’s inclusion on the database, during which he or she cannot be eligible for international adoption. This requirement, meant to facilitate domestic adoptions, appears to have been violated in at least two cases in 2007. In one such example, an American couple living near Washington, DC adopted a little Armenian girl through Hopscotch in May 2008. Sonia Vigilante, the adoptive mother, revealed on her blog that the girl was less than one month old when she and her husband were first shown her pictures and offered to adopt her in October 2007. Vigilante reacted to the RFE/RL report with a litany of abusive e-mails sent to Ara Manoogian, an Armenian-American activist and blogger who privately interviewed her and several other U.S. adoptive parents and shared their experiences in Armenia with an RFE/RL correspondent. Using a fictitious identity, Manoogian posed as a childless man from Texas interested in adopting an Armenian child. “The girl is mine mine, mine!!!” Vigilante wrote on May 31. “I win, Armenia loses. Hahahahahahahaha!!!” “I don't give a shit what the Armenian crooks think of me anymore,” she said in a subsequent note. Sarkisian aides want to curb foreign adoptions also by reinvigorating a 2004 government program that pays local families to host and raise the orphans until they come of age. The program has had only a limited success, with only 24 children currently placed with foster care providers. The government launched the child fostering scheme as part of a broader toughening of adoption rules that followed another, June 2003 RFE/RL report that likewise exposed possible corrupt practices. The number of annual foreign adoptions has not changed significantly since then. According to the Ministry of Labor and Social Affairs, 61 Armenian children were adopted by foreigners in 2010. The ministry informed Justice Minister Tovmasian’s commission in July that it has started drafting amendments to Armenia’s adoption-related laws and regulations. Those amendments have not been submitted to the commission yet. Whether ministry officials, who have long played a key role in the controversial adoptions, will propose the kind of radical changes that are sought by Sarkisian aides remains to be seen.

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U on Sunday Feature: The lost children

U on Sunday Feature: The lost children

September 17, 2011 5:50am

Kay DibbenThe Sunday Mail (Qld)

WHEN three young people decided to set up a charity to help orphans in Nepal, little did they know they'd also be saving lives and reuniting families from around the globe in Uganda.

Thirty-nine children - filthy, hungry, skinny - walk listlessly through the dirt yard of their Ugandan orphanage.

A far-away rescue


Nation
A far-away rescue



RUBEENA MAHATO in
COIMBATORE, INDIA










PICS: RUBEENA MAHATO

Shangmo with her elder daughter Jael

 


In the suburbs of Coimbatore at Sulur, the first thing that one notices in
the impressively walled Michael Job Centre is the sheer enormity of the complex.


There is a school, a post graduate level college and an orphanage in the
sprawling premises housing some 500 girls that the organization claims are
abandoned or orphaned children of Christian martyrs. The last thing one would
expect to find there are young girls from the remote Nepali district of Humla.
But there they are, all 23 of them with Christian names living for the past nine
years here as orphans despite having parents back home.


They were rescued from the centre last week at the initiative of the Esther
Benjamins Memorial Foundation (EBMF), Nepal, ChildLine India and the Child
Welfare Committee (CWC) at the state of Tamil Nadu.


EBMF got into action when the families of four girls from Humla requested
them to find their missing daughters. The parents of the girls had sent them
along with their brothers in the care of Dal Bahadur Phadera, a local
politician.


Many families in Humla had paid Phadera Rs 5-20,000 to get their children out
of war-ravaged villages at the time and educate them in boarding schools in
Kathmandu. The boys are still in the institution run by Phadera, but the girls,
between 3 to 7 years old, were taken away nine years ago. Their families never
heard from them.


When rescued, many girls didn't remember their parents' names or where they
came from. They have been given Christian names and identities.




An emotional Anna Bella breaks down at seeing her
aunt
In the website of Michael Job Centre, the girls are falsely depicted
as children of Christian martyrs in Nepal murdered by Maoists. The Centre runs
on the donations given by Christians from all over the world for 'orphans'.

 


In one of the pages of the website was where we first saw pictures of Anna
Bella, Daniela, Persius and Jael (Christian names given by the centre, original
names withheld). Their mother and brother had made a three days journey from
Humla to join us in Kathmandu for the trip to Coimbatore in India's southern
tip. Persius and Jael's mother Shangmo Lama had never been in a car before.
After a long and tiring journey to Coimbatore, a frail Shangmo smiled for the
first time when we stepped inside the gate of the Centre to get back her
daughters. She had waited nine years for this moment.



At
first, the principal of the centre flatly denied having any Nepali children at
the centre. But she was forced to accept having illegally kept the girls as
orphans when the photos of the children and the mother were shown (pictured,
right).

 


Outside, a very Nepali looking girl's face stopped me. After few exchanges in
English, I asked if she was Nepali. The girl's face brightened up. Lynsy then
gave me her Nepali name, informed there were now 23 of them left in the centre
and that they have not forgotten to speak Nepali. Soon the news spread of the
team from Nepal and Nepali girls surrounded the principal's office.


There was noisy chatter and a sense of jubilation in the office. Some of the
girls were seven years old and all had parents and families back home and hadn't
heard from them in all these years.


It was an emotional scene when Shangmo met her girls, who at first failed to
recognise their mother. But her brother's daughter Daniela instantly recognised
her aunt.


PP Job, the centre's founder has denied having known that the children had
families in Nepal. The self-styled Christian preacher has alleged that the
children were brought to him by Phadera and that the center has only provided
good education and living to these underprivileged children.



 

 


Michael Job Centre,
Coimbatore
"It is illegal under the Indian law to
bring children, orphaned or not from Nepal to India, and house them in an
institution here. It is a clear case of trafficking," Nandita Rao, Childline's
lawyer told Nepali Times.

 


The Centre is now under investigation by the social welfare department in
Tamil Nadu and has been given 15 days to furnish details and prove that it was
not involved in child trafficking. On Monday, 500 activists from different Hindu
organisations staged a protest outside the orphanage accusing it of
proselytizing.


"Poor countries are turning into a missionary haven for religious zealots and
this has led to a new form of trafficking," says Philip Holmes of Esther
Benjamins Memorial Foundation. The girls are now on their way home by train via
Gorakhpur.


The girls had kept the memory of their home country alive for nearly a
decade, and were full of pride as they sang the Nepali national anthem for the
rescue party from Nepal. They had memorized the words from the mobile ring tone
of a Nepali visiting the center.


Said an ecstatic Sabita Bogati: "I want to go home. I would not mind walking
all the way to Nepal."


POST SCRIPT: EBMF is now preparing to file charges against Phadera for
trafficking. In India, child rights organisations have taken up the issue and
are now planning to bring PP Job and his accomplices to book. Efforts to
repatriate children trafficked from Tibet and Bhutan who were also kept in the
centre are now underway. But even if the children are reunited, their lost
years, separation from parents and loss of identity will never be returned.


Read also:
The missing half, KAPILDEV KHANAL in NUWAKOT



See also:
Circus slave, CLARE HARVEY
"I
thought the circus was glamorous. How wrong I was."


Juggling with young lives, PRANAYA SJB
RANA in MAHARASTRA, INDIA
Nepali child slaves face a brighter future after
rescue from Indian circus abuse














1.
nishachar

Bravo Rubeena ! Heartwarming
stories of the girls' reunion with their families. I wish the rescued children
(and all other children too) are provided with a good education and overall
environment. The last thing one would like to know is the girls willing to
choose more dreadful paths for a search of a better life.


By the way,
pretty soon, we will see this in Nepal: Christians will have a legally protected
reservation (20% ?) in all government agencies including the cabinet, army and
parliament. In the name of inclusiveness and a democracy never seen elsewhere,
the aid agencies, western evangelists and local proxies will then make sure
proselytization goes on unobstructed and under the aegis of the state/public
resources.

If you have read Christian propaganda (globally- some are
online) on Nepal, this clearly seems to be the next step. To prepare ground for
this, a lot of noise about inclusion, ethnic issues, "marginalized communities,"
religions freedom, "correcting history's wrongs", proportionate representation,
reservation and so on is being made right now.

Here's to you- all the
useful idiots- Jesus loves you more than you will know.




2.
ccc

It is a commendable and just action...
but what about the education of these girls now??? and what is the follow up of
the girls who have been rescued?? perhaps the ongoing education of these girls
needs to be ensured now that they are reunited with family. Hope the euphoria of
the rescue does not hamper the future of these girls... Anbu Illam Coimbatore,
(from sources) was also part of this campaign... why does it not find any
mention at all???? perhaps it was missed out per chance.. but it did have some
role to play??


The TRUTH will set you FREE...




3.
ccc

It is a commendable and just action...
but what about the education of these girls now??? and what is the follow up of
the girls who have been rescued?? perhaps the ongoing education of these girls
needs to be ensured now that they are reunited with family. Hope the euphoria of
the rescue does not hamper the future of these girls... Anbu Illam Coimbatore,
(from sources) was also part of this campaign... why does it not find any
mention at all???? perhaps it was missed out per chance.. but it did have some
role to play??


The TRUTH will set you FREE...




4.
jivanta

thanku



5. Philip
Holmes

I really hoped that this wouldn't
become some kind of a religious football to kick around. Dr Job's Center, from
what I saw of it last week during the rescue, was all about religious extremism
and that is unpleasant be it Christian, Muslim or Hindu. Dr Job's activities and
blatant trampling over child rights would be total anathema to those Christians
who ARE doing good social work in India in a low key way without any
proseltysing agenda. These include one wonderful Catholic priest who I know has
been personally involved in the repatriation of these children and who helped us
on circus rescue back in 2007. Hailing as I do from Northern Ireland originally
I would commend religious tolerance and respect for one another in this new
Nepal.




6. Philip
Holmes


For ccc:


The truth that will set you free is that the only organisations involved in
this were Esther Benjamins Memorial Foundation, ChildLine India Foundation and
the local Child Welfare Committee all operating with the support of the Nepal
Foreign Ministry and the Nepal embassy in Delhi. Who else might have jumped on a
bandwagon after I left Coimbatore I cannot say.


Follow up is crucial and we pride ourselves in doing that well rather than
being "headline grabbers". We will take each case on its own merits but clearly
dropping a child who has been in English medium school in Tamil Nadu into a
Nepali medium school in Humla is not on the face of it a desirable option.
Although if that is what the child wants, then fine and we'll help with that. I
think it makes more sense to find a good English medium boarding school that is
accessible to families.


Dr Job can pay for the reintegration costs. He has been raking in money from
far and wide on the backs of these children and he needs to compensate them for
what he has put them through. We will pursue that compensation - and I have told
him so.


Best wishes.





7. Radha Krishna
Deo


Many Many thanks to Rubeena mahato,


we hope baburam government and humanright comission will take immediate
action. every year 5000 to 7000 women and girls disappered from nation through
porous boder and human traffickers net works saling them to GCC in addition to
India. what's the function of Womencomission and about 200 women CA in Assembly
?


sacnepal





8. Philip
Holmes


ccc:


Setting the record straight, yes indeed, Anbu Illam Don Bosco were indeed
involved in that they provided shelter for the girls after they were removed
from Dr Job's Center - and after we (including the journalist) left the scene.
They work closely with ChildLine.





9.
jo

How unfortunate, have travelled thru this
lovely area and would like to see those crazy western religious folk kept out of
the area. It is happily and successfully buddhist and hindu, and does not need
to have these western religious zealots tainting the area with there version of
religion. I hope those in Humla will discourage religious organisations from
coming there. The eyes of the world need to keep watch.




10.
NEPALI

BRB GOVERNMENT IS SAME AS PREVIOUS
THREE & OTHER GOVERNMENT OF NEPAL. THEY NEED REMITTANCE eVEN FROM AMORAL
JOB.HENCE NO ACTION FOR THIS ISSUE. RUBI SH POLITICIAN & BUREAUCRATS ARE
GOVERNING NEPAL. MISFORTUNE TO  COMMON PEOPLE.




11. Tashi
Lama

This story of girls rescued from far
South India can be eye opening for the Nepalese people, but in reality thousands
end up in the Indian brothels every year, which is worse then the girls at the
missionary center. In the picture we can see the girls with clean school
uniform, which I think is good part, but the bad and saddening part is losing
their true identity behind.

At present in Nepal, there are many
Christian missionaries after the collapse of King Gyanendra's rule, these
missionaries are taking advantage of secular government of Nepal, their main aim
is to convert maximum of innocent Buddhist and Hindus in their religion, as
these missionaries are well trained in the art of converting people by different
means and tactics. The laborers, sales person, mechanics, carpet weavers and
even the travelers at the bus park are not spared, there are preachers in every
corner of valley, for the smarter people, they approach in smarter ways and for
the illiterate, they have different ways to brain wash them. These Christian
missionaries are well organized, they might open small school and small clinic,
which are all free and the true motive behind is to convert people into
Christianity, these free schools and clinics are not opened with sheer sense of
love and compassion for the poor. The more radical ones are the Baptist and
Protestant Christian missioners, Nepalese converted by these two groups shows
disrespect to their own ancestral religion, they even spread blasphemy in the
society against Buddhism and Hinduism, this in long run will create a big
trouble for Nepalese society, like that in Nigeria.

Converting people by
means of luring with help and aids and by brain washing them with illogical
belief is stupidity unlawful practice, such acts in reality saws the seed of
communal violence in
future!

BEWARE!...........BEWARE!................BEWARE!

EU fails to safeguard human rights

EU fails to safeguard human rights

Friday, September 16, 2011

TWO current media topics suggest that Europe has a long way to go before we can consider ourselves civilised.

Mary Raftery’s excellent RTÉ documentary series “behind the walls” details past and ongoing problems within Ireland’s mental health sector; the second story relates to the alleged imprisonment of captive slave labourers in Britain.

While we are rightly concerned and appalled at what has happened in both instances, we seem less concerned as a European community with what is still happening within our borders. In 2004 an Amnesty International report into mental institutions in Romania detailed the use of captive slave labour to prop up an under-funded care system. Individuals who did not need to be in institutions were being retained in the system to carry out unpaid maintenance and facilities work, replacing an inadequate budget with slave labour. No significant reform of the Romanian mental health system has taken place in the interim; suffering as depicted in the RTÉ documentary still goes on today, within the borders of the EU.

Surrogate not legally a baby’s mother, judge rules

Surrogate not legally a baby’s mother, judge rules

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“It’s tough for the legislators to keep up, and this is a case where it may be lagging,” said Rich Gabruch, lawyer for “John” and “Bill,” the same-sex couple who are now properly called the parents of “Sarah,” who was conceived with John’s sperm and an ovum from an anonymous donor, and carried to term by “Mary.”

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A Saskatchewan judge has ruled that a woman who gave birth to a baby girl in 2009 is not actually the child’s mother, in a decision that exposes the gap between legislation and reality in modern parenthood.

“It’s tough for the legislators to keep up, and this is a case where it may be lagging,” said Rich Gabruch, lawyer for “John” and “Bill,” the same-sex couple who are now properly called the parents of “Sarah,” who was conceived with John’s sperm and an ovum from an anonymous donor, and carried to term by “Mary.”

“The way we’re reading this decision is that the other father can now be listed on [the birth certificate],” Mr. Gabruch said. “The next step would be to list [Bill] specifically,” although he acknowledged the case has moved into “uncharted waters.”

In granting John and Bill’s request, supported by Mary, to remove Mary’s name from Sarah’s birth certificate, Madame Justice Jacelyn Ann Ryan-Froslie of the province’s Court of Queen’s Bench, noted that the law defines a “mother” as the woman who delivered a child, and presumes she is also a parent, which is no longer always true.

Being a parent is an important legal designation, she wrote, and it does not apply to Mary, who surrendered all parental rights to John and Bill after Sarah’s birth. Among the lifelong rights and obligations that come with parentage are that a Canadian parent may confer citizenship regardless where the child is born; a parent must consent to any future adoption; and a parent may register a child in school or obtain documentation, such as a passport or health card, on behalf of the child.

“It is clear from the definition of ‘mother’ contained in The Vital Statistics Act, 2009, that Mary, the gestational carrier, is Sarah’s mother for the purposes of that Act as she is the woman from whom Sarah was delivered. Naming her as Sarah’s mother on the registration of live birth raises a presumption that she is also Sarah’s biological mother,” the judge wrote.

“In this case, I am satisfied on a balance of probabilities that Mary, the gestational carrier, is not Sarah’s biological mother. I am also satisfied neither [John nor Bill] nor Mary ever intended that Mary would assume any parental rights or obligations with respect to Sarah. As such, a declaration that Mary is not Sarah’s mother is warranted.”

As adoption moved out of the cultural shadows in recent decades, the concept of “mother” was split, in colloquial language if not the law, into “biological mother” and “adoptive mother.” But the rise of reproductive science has further split the biological mother category into “egg donor” and “gestational carrier.” Add to this the new legality of same-sex marriage and adoption, and the old legal categories no longer seem to grasp the facts.

Provinces have moved to follow the changes, but the pace is slow. In the 1990s, legislatures across the country moved to abolish the notion of illegitimacy. From then on, a person’s status as a child of their parents did not depend on being born into wedlock. Likewise, the legal presumption that the husband of the mother is the father of the child has fallen out of favour, as it fails in the case of a married surrogate.

Alberta, for example, has a rule that allows an egg donor to be declared the mother of a child if the gestational carrier consents after birth. But in Sarah’s case, the egg donor was anonymous.

Mr. Gabruch said it is unlikely his clients would have won if Sarah had come from Mary’s own ovum, rather than a donor’s.

“I don’t know if the judge would have taken the step that the judge took,” he said. “There would have been a greater risk for us, in making the application, of being unsuccessful.”

Birth certificates are routinely changed in all provinces, to correct mistakes or reflect adoptions, and declarations of parentage are relatively common, but are usually about paternity. Declarations of non-maternity, such as this one, are very rare.

Saskatchewan has no precedents, but in in 2002, an Ontario judge declared that a gestational carrier was not the mother of a child, largely because the carrier gave her consent.

In 2000, a Manitoba judge ruled in the case of a woman who was a gestational carrier for her sister-in-law’s ovum, fertilized with her brother’s sperm. The judge refused to declare the sister-in-law to be the mother of the as yet unborn child, and declined to make an order about paternity to avoid the uncomfortable outcome of siblings being listed as parents. And in 2007, the Ontario Court of Appeal declared a child to have three parents under the law: her biological father and mother, and her mother’s same-sex partner, all of whom were actively involved in the child’s life.

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MADONNA'S CONTROVERSIAL ADOPTIONS

MADONNA'S CONTROVERSIAL ADOPTIONS

September 13, 2011, 12:47 pm Dan McDougall

When Madonna first swept into the African nation of Malawi, chequebook in hand, she vowed to save its impoverished people. Five years later, she has brought them two controversial adoptions, broken promises and a charity caught up in a fraud investigation.

 

A flight of grey mourning doves scatters as dusk descends on the Malawian village of Zaone. On the edge of town, elderly matriarch Lucy Chekechiwa eats cold lumps of cassava root. Pinned to the wall of her one-room home is a grainy photograph of a woman and child. The woman is, unmistakably, Madonna; the baby she is clutching is Mercy James, Lucy's granddaughter. The 62 year old hasn't seen the girl, now five, since Madonna took her to London on a private jet in 2009.

 

Madonna is not the first Western traveller to Malawi to find her life changed by the poverty she encountered – nor the first to try to effect changes. This tiny country, wedged between Tanzania, Zambia and Mozambique, is horrifically poor. About 12 per cent of its 15 million inhabitants are infected with HIV/AIDS; life expectancy is just 44 for men and 51 for women, according to the World Health Organization; and 65 per cent of the population lives on just $1 a day.

The singer's interest in Malawi began in 2006 when she secretly visited a number of orphanages there. According to Hollywood lore, she had been encouraged to adopt an African child by Brad Pitt, a close friend of her then-husband Guy Ritchie, and was said to be so moved by what she saw in Malawi she got out her chequebook straightaway, offering tens of thousands of dollars to individual non-government organisations (NGOs).

That same year she went back, filmed a documentary about the country's orphans, and announced she was setting up her own charity, Raising Malawi. Her motives, she admitted, were mixed: "I thought, 'I have to help. I have to save these people.' And then I thought, 'Wait a minute; I think it's the other way around. I think they might be saving me.'"

Soon afterwards, she and Ritchie adopted their first child from Malawi, one-year-old David Banda. Controversy followed almost immediately when David's father, who had been unable to afford to feed his son, claimed he had not understood the adoption was final; he said he thought the couple would merely care for and educate the boy overseas.

Undeterred, Madonna ploughed on with her mission to "save" more of Malawi's children. A series of high-profile fundraisers organised by the singer in Hollywood culminated in a star-studded event in 2008, co-hosted by Gucci, in a massive marquee at the UN headquarters in New York. In front of A-listers, such as P Diddy, Gwyneth Paltrow and Drew Barrymore, Madonna said that, inspired by her adopted religion of Kabbalah, she was going to set up a school in Malawi. "I want credibility as a philanthropic organisation," the singer told the $2500-a-plate crowd, as she punched the air.

The Raising Malawi Academy for Girls was to be a $15 million boarding school for 400 girls, a template already set up by Oprah Winfrey in South Africa. Madonna's project aimed to focus on law and medicine. Like Oprah, Madonna hoped to have a nationwide application process, selecting the best female student from each village for the school.

The launch raised nearly $4 million and Madonna reportedly promised to match every dollar anyone gave. Questions were asked about why a pop star and a fashion label had been granted use of the hallowed UN lawn. Gucci had no further links to Raising Malawi beyond the event.

In Malawi, though, the government was so excited about a prestigious school being established in their country they agreed to donate 450,000 square metres of land for the project (which meant evicting the people living on it), charging only $8600 a year for a 99-year lease.

Then, in 2009, Madonna decided she wanted to adopt another child from Malawi. The country does not generally allow international adoptions to prospective parents who have not lived in the country for at least 18 months, fearing its children might be exploited by child traffickers. But again, they made an exception for Madonna. On her next trip, she overcame legal challenges both by local authorities and the family of the girl she intended to adopt and, within a few months, in June 2009, she came home with three-year-old Mercy James.

Madonna also visited the site of her proposed academy and symbolically laid the first brick, inscribed with the words "Dare to Dream". (When the hygiene-conscious singer later waved to TV cameras, she was clutching a bottle of hand sanitiser.) Somehow the image seemed to symbolise a Westerner who was not willing to get her hands dirty.

In Lilongwe, the Malawian capital, serious concerns were being raised by other charities about Madonna's links to Kabbalah. American and British evangelist groups that had been established in the country for decades feared a battle for souls when Raising Malawi announced it would introduce Spirituality for Kids, Kabbalah's youth charity, to Africa.

What she could not have foreseen was that the LA-based Kabbalah Centre, Madonna's partner in the project, would soon be under investigation for fraud by the Internal Revenue Service (IRS)Raising Malawi would be implicated, and Madonna herself would be left looking, at best, foolish. Worse still, around $3 million in raised funds seems to have disappeared in the charity's head offices in LA without ever reaching Malawi.

In March, in a carefully worded statement, Madonna said the school would not be built and she would now focus on other projects in the country. Nowhere was the disappointment felt more keenly than around the site of the planned school.

 

Madonna with adopted daughter Mercy.

 

"This was our dream, too, for the girls of our village," says Grevansio Makina, 42, who lost his maize field to the project. "Our daughters have been working harder, studying, aiming for this dream – to live and study in this dream school. But their hopes have died and so have our hopes of a better future for them."

The abandonment of such a crucial part of her vision – the school itself – was a body blow to Madonna, not least because it brought the activities and methods of her charity under greater scrutiny. Raising Malawi seems to have resorted to controversial techniques in order to raise money, and the scale of its reach appears to have been exaggerated – presumably to persuade donors to dig deeper. The charity employed a US-based team to raise funds through cold-calling, and a website was set up on which dramatic statistics purported to show both the scale of the need in Malawi and what the charity was doing there.

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For a start, it stated the charity's work had already reached more than a million orphans in a country where, according to some estimates, the total is 850,000. Many of the figures it gave were wrong, and a number of projects attributed to the charity were, in fact, projects set up by NGOs that existed long before it was created. "Raising Malawi has hijacked a number of existing projects, some of which have been in operation for decades, and advertised them as their own," says a senior source at Oxfam.

Until recently, blogs on the website claimed that more than 66,000 children and caregivers living with HIV/AIDS, malaria, or other diseases received life-saving treatments thanks to Raising Malawi; and 73,000 children and caregivers are receiving nutritious meals daily. The website previously stated 10,000 children had received supplements to counter the effects of severe malnutrition – which, if true, would rival the UN effort on the ground. Raising Malawi has now radically revised the website, changing statistics, like how many community-based organisations it has helped – from 1750 to "several".

Some time before the school project stalled, the nation's information minister, Patricia Kaliati, praised Madonna: "What she is doing for the orphans of this country, very few superstars can do that – she has managed to raise their plight on the world stage. Madonna has built clinics in rural areas where the government has failed to reach. Because of that, she has saved many lives of pregnant mothers who could have died." Has she? Leading Malawian journalist Raphael Tenthani says not: "Raising Malawi has not been building clinics in rural areas to save lives. This is complete misinformation."

In a statement posted online, Madonna insisted she was still committed to the country: "My original vision is now on a much bigger scale. I want to reach thousands, not hundreds of girls. I want to do more and I want to do it better," she said. But the Ministry of Education spokesperson, Ben Phiro, says she has yet to consult the government on her plans: "We know nothing about this."

In the ruckus that followed the axing of the academy – allegations of local incompetence, financial mismanagement and "outlandish expenditures" countered with legal action from African staff for severance pay – the most important fact to emerge is that only $850,000 of the $3.8 million spent on the academy was actually spent in Malawi. The lion's share, almost $3 million, was handled by the Kabbalah Center, including more than $1 million in unspecified "construction costs", according to their accounts.

In New York, Madonna has been fighting what one aide calls an "absolute shit storm". When the news broke of the school project's collapse and, later, the IRS probe, the star's PR machine went into overdrive. Statements were issued and journalists close to the singer's agent, Liz Rosenberg, wrote sympathetic pieces on entertainment websites, claiming that Madonna had been duped by the Malawians she employed to build the school, and that she had been robbed by her closest charity advisers in the US.

For hardened aid workers in Africa, the demise of the project has come as little surprise. "She has been spectacularly naive," said one Unicef contact.

In Malawi itself, Madonna's detractors are more vitriolic. "What has happened was written in the script," says Desmond Kaunda, director of the Malawi Human Rights Resource Centre. "The world's greatest economists and minds have failed in Africa. They are still failing. Madonna is a singer. What does she bring to the table? Nothing but the fact that she is famous – that is not enough."

Mercy James, whose mother died five days after giving birth, was raised by her grandmother and uncles at first, but placed in the care of the Kondanani Children's Village as they couldn't afford to buy formula to keep her alive. They can barely feed themselves. "We loved the girl so much. She belonged to us. But what choice did we have but to let her go? Does that mean we lose her completely?"

The adoption paper reads: "Ms Madonna married Guy and they have one son. Mr Ritchie continues to visit the family, but Ms Madonna has custody rights. She is in sound mind and owns a personal house in Beverly Hills in California. She has a large yard with a swimming pool, which is fenced. A shopping mall within walking distance. She has another house in London. Financial information shows she has impressional [sic] income in excess of $500 million. She is intelligent, articulate and outgoing, and shares strong family values."

A stamp says "approved".

Malawi's Human Rights Consultative Committee, a coalition of around 85 NGOs, has accused Madonna of "child kidnap" and of being a "bully" when she adopted Mercy James. Madonna, who clearly loves the children, has never commented on the dispute.

Through the torn, flapping curtain that passes for a door on the tent belonging to Mercy James's grandmother, the view is of a charred and spent landscape: the fields of millet that once surrounded this community have long been sacrificed for charcoal. Children skip between blackened tree stumps. In front of mud-block homes their mothers sell miserable packages of dirt-coloured groundnut and chillies. Lucy says Mercy James whispers to her on the wind at night. "Why did God allow this woman to come here?" she asks, breaking down in tears.

Claimants Rummage through Samaritan’s Purse










Claimants Rummage through Samaritan’s Purse
11 September 2011
Published On  Sep 11,  2011

 Charities board continues to settle, transfer property of NGOs with revoked licences









 












Close to 53 individuals have claimed, last week, that they have shares in properties belonging to Samaritan Purse, found in Addis Abeba, which the board of Charities and Civil Societies Agency (CCSA) had decided to confiscate.

The properties were confiscated in December 2010, after the CCSA revoked its licence in August 2010 for hiring 14 foreign nationals without the proper work and residence permits over a three year period. The NGO was also found guilty of evading tax in the amount of seven million Birr by Ethiopian Revenues and Customs Authority (ERCA).

The agency had appointed a liquidator to assess the value of all assets owned by Samaritan Purse and settle debts and liabilities it owes. Properties of the NGO, established in 1979 for victims of war, poverty and famine, which are located in branch offices across the country, have not yet been fully assessed and valuated, but those located in Addis Abeba have been finalised.

The three member liquidation committee had called for those who claim to have a stake or share in the properties to come forth, two weeks ago. Many of those who came forward, in the 10 days given for debtors to come forth, were former employees of the organisation, according to Assefa Tesfaye, public relations for CCSA.

However, not all of those who have claims will get what they ask for.

“The agency will only pay those who come up with evidence which verify their claims,” Assefa told Fortune. “There are claims which have no evidence.”

After the licence was revoked, the board had granted Samaritan Purse access to its bank account, which had been blocked by the agency, to pay salaries of its employees for August and September 2011.

Once all the debtors have been paid and liabilities are settled, the remaining properties will be transferred to a charity or civil society organisation with similar vision and purpose by the agency, according to the Charities and Civil Societies Proclamation.

The proclamation, passed in 2009, had received a lot of criticism from human rights organisations when it was passed. It had reclassified Charities and Civil Society Organizations (CSOs) into local and international based on the amount of funds and resources they get. Those charities and CSOs, which receive more than 10pc of their funds from international sources, were classified as international while those with funds less than 10pc were classified as local. It had also further outlined areas and sectors, where those classified as international were not allowed to operate.

In the just ended fiscal year, the agency which had registered 407 organisations under the new classification, had revoked the licences of four international and one local charity organisations and frozen the accounts of two local NGOs.

Including Samaritan Purse, the agency had revoked the licences of Mobility without Barriers Foundation - Ethiopia (MwBF-E), International Islamic Relief Organization (IIRO), Better Future for Adoption Service (BFAP), and Coalition for Action against Poverty (CAP), a local organisation.

The MwBF-E’s, an organisation established for safer and versatile assisted mobility options, licence was revoked after the agency had determined that grants from UNICEF for the purchase of wheelchairs and other materials were transferred to the organisation’s headquarters. It also accused David Winters, the company’s representative, of receiving a payment of 50,000 dollars for 1,000 hours while registered as a volunteer at the Ministry of Labour and Social Affairs (MoLSA).

“The organisation had 80,000 Br in debt, which the agency settled out of the assets that were confiscated,” Assefa told Fortune. “We will transfer the remaining property to an organisation in similar endeavours.”

The agency also revoked the licence and confiscated the properties of BFAP for child trafficking.

“Having found one million Birr in their account, we are in the process of settling debts the organisation owes,” Assefa told Fortune. “We will soon make an announcement for those who may have claims with the organisation to come forward soon.”

All the assets of IIRO had already been transferred to the Ethiopian Islamic Council, whereas no material properties of CAP were found and the 150,000 Br that was in its bank account was gone, according to Assefa.

By MAHLET MESFIN
FORTUNE STAFF WRITER

Hilversum (RNW) - De Nederlandse adoptieouders Marco en Brigitta Neervoort, die in Colombia twee weken vast zitten in een hotel,

Hilversum (RNW) - De Nederlandse adoptieouders Marco en Brigitta Neervoort, die in Colombia twee weken vast zitten in een hotel, kunnen weg.

De autoriteiten zijn met veel officiële documenten uit Nederland overtuigd geraakt van de goede bedoelingen van het stel. Vannacht bleek dat Colombia een uitreisvisum voorbereidt.

Twee weken geleden werden Marco en Brigitta en hun 8-jarig adoptiezoontje Ruben tegen gehouden door de douane in Colombia. Het probleem was dat Ruben eerder door een ander Nederlandse stel was geadopteerd en dat de naam van die adoptieouders nog in zijn paspoort stond.

Marco Neervoort heeft RNW laten weten dat het gezin hoogstwaarschijnlijk komend weekeinde terugkomt naar Nederland.