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Blog: Ghana is Calling.

SUNDAY, APRIL 18, 2010

Ghana is Calling.

On the telephone (many times), and now in my head. I haven't had a decent night sleep since we learned the truth about our Bubbly. I haven't had a decent night sleep since I knew that her friends had experienced the same type of pain. I haven't had a decent night sleep since I learned that some of them are still living the nightmare. I'm tired.

But, Ghana keeps calling. Many, many times. Usually, in the middle of the night. Mostly, we answer because we are always ready to hear from birthparents. Sometimes, it's not them and the voice on the other end of the phone is someone I would rather not ever hear from again. I want to shout "make it STOP!!!". Last night the 2am phone calls woke my two-year-old and my Giggles. She wants to know why Ghana is calling so much. She never wants to talk to them again because they make me cry. She tells me to forget Ghana. Ghana hurt her, her brother and sister and her friends. Obviously, that's a problem. I try to reassure her that there is beauty in Ghana, there is good. We need to tell her that it's not Ghana itself, that it's just a few people. I want to focus on my own family, to not have to make or receive any more phone calls of a disturbing or threatening nature. I don't want to clean up other people's messes that leave other adoptive parents broken hearted. I don't want to hear anymore desperate Ghanaian voices on the other end of the phone asking me for help. I want it all to stop. I want someone else to deal with it. I want to plug my ears and yell "la la la la LAAAAA!". But, it's not to be. It's too hard to ignore children.

It's like being in a dark building and having two doors, one with the lit "exit sign" and one without. You know the one with the light will lead you further into the building, so you desperately search for the one without a sign. You know that the one without a sign will lead you out of the darkness entirely, to a much happier place. But, no matter how hard you try, you can't find it. God makes it hard to find because He obviously doesn't want me to take the easy way out. So, I faithfully continue to use the door with the sign, the path God seems to want me to follow. I get deeper and deeper, then I can see the path ahead for a little while, then someone makes it disappear. But, I keep following those exit signs, hoping that someday this will all be a bad memory.

Father takes adopted son to see boy's homeland

Father takes adopted son to see boy's homeland

Karl Stroud and his son, Aaron, in Vietnam.

By Amy Bertrand

POST-DISPATCH LIFESTYLE EDITOR

04/17/2010

Sixteen adopted children returned last year

Sixteen adopted children returned last year

17/4/2010

Last year 16 children were returned to the state-run institutions from where they were adopted, according to Idália Moniz, adjunct State-Secretary for Rehabilitation, who highlighted unexpected divorces as one of the main causes for their return.

There are currently 2,776 children in Portugal who are eligible for adoption (data from February 2010), 547 of whom State Secretary Moniz says ‘no one wants’ as they are older than three years of age, have siblings, are ill, or simply because of the colour of their skin.

Nevertheless last year fewer children were given back to the system than in 2009, when 20 adoptees were replaced into state care.

Dr. Ronald Federici: Romanian Orphans Q&A

Ron Federici

On June 26, Washington, D.C. will play host to a reunion of the first children rescued from orphanages in Siret, Romania. The horrific conditions of orphans in Siret and other Romanian institutions were brought to light by a 1990 ABC Turning Point report, “The Lost Souls” and a follow-up in 1997 entitled “Romania: What Happened to the Children.” The exposé launched efforts around the United States to help the neglected and abused children.

The Romanian crisis, which has a long history related to communism and economic turmoil, continues today. Dr. Ronald Federici discussed the current state of orphanages in Romania and other parts of the world, as well as the adoption programs in the United States. Dr. Ronald Federici is a psychologist and founder of several American relief efforts for the Romanian orphans.

He first visited Siret’s orphanages in 1996 as a consultant for the follow-up report. Federici, who has adopted two Romanian orphans, is founder of the American chapter of the Romanian Challenge Appeal. He is also the author of Help for the Hopeless Child: A Guide for Families.

Read the transcript below.

KENYA: Climate Change, Poverty and Tourists put Maasai Daughters at Risk

APRIL 16, 2010...12:54 AM

KENYA: Climate Change, Poverty and Tourists put Maasai Daughters at Risk

A rise in human trafficking points to more than one cause

Kenya Correspondent, Charles Njeru – Women News Network – WNN

A Maasai tribal girl studies at a school near Narok, Kenya. World Concern, an international relief organisation, provides opportunities for education in an area without other schools. It's a big deal culturally for girls to have a chance to learn. Image: Derek Sciba / World Concern via http://worldconcern.org

How to Prevent Adoption Disasters

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How to Prevent Adoption Disasters

Urteil Fatma bleibt in Izmir - vorerst

Urteil Fatma bleibt in Izmir - vorerst

Im Fall der zweijährigen Fatma aus Regensburg, die von ihrer leiblichen Mutter den Pflegeeltern weggenommen wurde, muss nun die Katholische Jugendfürsorge entscheiden. Zuvor hatte das Regensburger Familiengericht die Forderung der Pflegeeltern abgelehnt, das Mädchen aus der Türkei nach Deutschland zurückzuholen.

Stand: 16.04.2010

Das Gericht musste eine Entscheidung zum Wohl des Kindes treffen, nicht zum Wohl der Pflegeeltern. Richterin Barbara Pöschl stütze sich in ihrem Urteil vom Donnerstag auf ein psychologisches Gutachten. Demnach würde eine Rückkehr nach Deutschland das Kind erneut belasten.

Eine von der Pflegemutter hinzugezogene Psychologin interpretiert den Fall anders: Fatma sei traumatisiert worden, indem die leiblichen Eltern die Zweijährige an einen unbekannten Ort gebracht hätten. Zudem hätten sie ihr die wichtige Bindung zur Pflegemutter genommen.

Evangelische Zentralstelle Für Adoption An EVAP Delegiert

Evangelische Zentralstelle Für Adoption An EVAP Delegiert

Posted on April 15, 2010. Filed under: Adoptivfamilie,Bewerber,Fachkräfte,Jugendhilfe,Netzwerke | Tags: Freie Träger der Jugendhilfe, Auslandsadoption |

Das Diakonische Werk der Evangelischen Kirche in Deutschland informierte den PFAD Bundesverband am 14.04.10 darüber, dass die Koordination und verbandspolitische Vertretung des Arbeitsbereiches der Adoptionsvermittlung auf Bundesebene an den Evangelischen Verein für Adoptions- und Pflegekindervermittlung Rheinland e.V. (EVAP) delegiert wurde.

Ab sofort übernimmt die Geschäftsführerin, Frau Inge Elsäßer, die inhaltliche und organisatorische Verantwortung für den fachpolitischen Informationsaustausch unter den evangelischen Fachdiensten sowie die verbandspolitische Begleitung des Arbeitsfeldes und vertritt das Arbeitsfeld Adoption in evangelischer Trägerschaft auf bundespolitischer Ebene.

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Split arises over adoptions from Haiti

Split arises over adoptions from Haiti

NEW YORK | Logistical challenges and potentially bitter disputes lie ahead as passionate advocates of adoption press for changes that might enable thousands of Haitian children affected by the earthquake to be placed in U.S. homes.

The obstacles are daunting, starting with a need to register Haiti's dislocated children. If done right, this would enable authorities to distinguish between children who might be good candidates for adoption and those with surviving relatives willing to care for them.

There also will be efforts to overhaul Haiti's troubled child protection system, update its adoption laws and boost support for family reunification programs in Haiti.

But even before those goals are pursued, there are sharp divisions over how vigorously and quickly to seek an expansion of adoptions.

A prominent leader of the campaign to bring more orphans to American homes is Sen. Mary L. Landrieu, Louisiana Democrat, who thinks some of the major aid organizations active in Haiti, including UNICEF, are not sufficiently supportive of international adoption.

"Either UNICEF is going to change or have a very difficult time getting support from the U.S. Congress," Mrs. Landrieu said in a telephone interview.

Mrs. Landrieu and a few other members of Congress visited Haiti last week, meeting with top Haitian officials to discuss the plight of the devastated nation's orphans.

Since the Jan. 12 earthquake, about 1,000 Haitian children have been brought to U.S. families who had filed adoption applications before the quake. That pool of children in Haiti is dwindling, and adoption advocates, including many religiously affiliated agencies, are ratcheting up efforts to get a new, larger stream of adoptions in the works.

"There is great support in the United States to begin to open up opportunities for adoption as soon as possible," Mrs. Landrieu said. "There are thousands of children who don't have parents or even extended families to be reunified with."

UNICEF says a time may come when large-scale foreign adoptions would be appropriate — notably for older children and those with disabilities. But the U.N. agency and like-minded groups are asking for patience, saying the next priorities should be to register vulnerable children and try to improve conditions for them and their families in Haiti.

"It's complicated," said Susan Bissell, UNICEF's chief of child protection. "We've got to get a registration system in place. Once we have that, we want families for children — and that includes adoption. We are not against intercountry adoption, but we are against exploitation."

She said she was frustrated by the hostility toward UNICEF that is commonly expressed by leading supporters of international adoption in the U.S. "I find myself saddened by it, but it's not going to take the wind out of our sails," she said.

The chief operating officer for Save the Children, which is deeply engaged in helping Haitian orphans, said the tensions and disputes were likely to revolve around timing, with some groups seeking to resume large-scale adoptions much more quickly than other groups.

"It's hard to know how big the problem is without taking the time to go through this registration process, and I know for many it's an excruciating process," Carolyn Miles said.

"There are no records," she added. "To be sure that a child is an orphan, that will be difficult — going back to their villages, trying to find people who know their families."

The challenge of verifying children's statuses was illustrated in the weeks after the quake, when members of an Idaho church group were arrested for trying to take children they falsely claimed were parentless out of Haiti without government approval. The group's leader remains in custody, facing a possible trial for kidnapping.

The church members have said they only wished to rescue desperate children from suffering.

An estimated 40 percent of Haiti's pre-quake population was under 14, including about 50,000 living in orphanages and more than 200,000 others not living with their parents. It's been commonplace for poor parents to abandon their children, and some are taken in by wealthier families who use them as household labor.

Hundreds of thousands of Haitian children lack birth certificates or other identification, which could complicate adoption efforts. The Organization of American States is proposing a plan to provide all Haitian minors with ID cards, but estimates this wouldn't be completed until 2013.

Mrs. Landrieu hopes significant headway on registration can be made much faster than that, but says the many groups working on the task need to coordinate better.

Looking ahead, she hopes for a sizable number of new foreign adoptions by the end of this year — compared with just a handful at present now that the backlog of pre-quake applications has been largely dealt with.

In recent years, about 300 Haitian children annually were adopted by Americans. Mrs. Landrieu believes that number could rise to several thousand a year in the future.

"Children belong in families, not in orphanages or in some amorphous kibbutz," she said. "Americans take this call very seriously."

Haitian authorities say they are now accepting new adoption applications, though it isn't clear how long these might take to process.

The head of Haiti's child welfare agency, Jeanne Bernard Pierre, has conveyed some skepticism about efforts to speed up adoptions, saying Americans have taken advantage of the disaster to flout Haitian adoption laws.

"Since the earthquake, the U.S. Embassy has said, 'If you see a kid you like, here's the paper, you can take them with you,'" Miss Pierre told the Associated Press.

Michele Bond, one of the U.S. State Department's senior officials dealing with international adoption, firmly disagreed, saying the post-quake transfers of Haitian children to the United States were rigorously monitored.

She also expressed hope that Haiti would proceed with revisions to its adoption laws, which critics say are outdated. The laws place tight age limits on adoptive parents and prohibit adoptions by parents who have biological children — with exceptions granted only through presidential dispensation.

AP writer Jonathan Katz contributed to this report.

http://m.washingtontimes.com/news/2010/apr/14/split-arises-over-adoptions-from-haiti/